Top 100 Quotes About Self Loathing
#1. And finally - he was neither able nor willing to prevent it - the self-loathing dammed up inside him spilled over and gushed out, gushed out of glaring eyes that grew ever grimmer, angrier, beneath the rim of his cap, flooding the outside world as perfect, vulgar hate.
Patrick Suskind
#2. In all of our society, but especially in Hollywood, there is an obsession with perfection that can lead to self-loathing and neurosis and all that kind of stuff.
Ethan Hawke
#3. He was permanently impressed by the most irrelevant banalities and impossible to impress with real novelty, meaning, or conflict. And he was too moronic to be properly self-loathing
so it was my duty to loathe him instead.
Jonathan Lethem
#4. If people could handle their self-loathing, customer service would be smoother.
Caroline Kepnes
#5. Lack of discipline leads to frustration and self-loathing.
Marie Chapian
#6. I managed to reach a depth of self-loathing that usually takes a night of drinking to achieve.
Anthony Bourdain
#7. Personal disillusionment accompanied by self-pity and self-loathing are the Achilles' heel of modern humankind, representing the weakness of the human spirit.
Kilroy J. Oldster
#8. I have a very healthy dose of self-loathing. But I think we all have a past of being whatever our story was, of feeling not good enough. It can propel you to work harder and do more, but it can also be a tremendous trap, and you can't see beyond it.
Kim Cattrall
#9. I felt like I had a really bad case of writer's block ... Music is so therapeutic for me that if I can't get it out, I start feeling bad about myself - a lot of self-loathing.
Eminem
#10. Most novelists I know went through a period of intense self-examination and self-loathing after the terrorist attacks on the World Trade Center. I certainly did.
Jay McInerney
#11. Self-sacrifice is one of a woman's seven deadly sins (along with self-abuse, self-loathing, self-deception, self-pity, self-serving, and self-immolation).
Sarah Ban Breathnach
#12. Those are not the tears of repentance! ... Self-loathing is not sorrow. Yet it is good, for it marks a step in the way home, and in the father's arms the prodigal forgets the self he abominates.
George MacDonald
#13. wisdom must lie in a keen self-loathing.
Morrissey
#14. When money and fame happen too late, it's like pouring kerosene over a fire of self-loathing.
Bradford Cox
#15. Certain people give off positive energy, others negative. It's the quality of someone's being, a measure of the love with which they've led their lives. It also reflects the inner work they've done, their efforts to heal anger, hatred, or self-loathing, which poison us like toxic fumes.
Judith Orloff
#16. Listen, young people, I understand narcissism - clearly. But at least I have the decency to hate myself. And that's what's missing from the young people. They don't have the debilitating self-loathing and the second guessing.
Janeane Garofalo
#17. I have a lot of what you might call creative self-loathing - I have pretty high expectations, and they seem to consistently be higher than what I'm able to accomplish.
Alejandro Gonzalez Inarritu
#18. Being a parent has taught me a lot of things already, you know, though it's only been a year and half, and has made me address parts of myself that I would otherwise live in comfortable denial of, or you know and - you know, for instance, my self-loathing.
Ani DiFranco
#20. I think people have always misinterpreted my self-destructive nature as nihilistic, because if you don't care about the world, you can't create art. I am misanthropic and self-loathing, but never nihilistic. And I think I act far worse off-stage than onstage.
Marilyn Manson
#21. The intrinsic and extrinsic heart is always at odds, so which heart is yours? For one will bask in true joy, while the other lives in self-loathing misery.
Joel T. McGrath
#22. What crushed my soul was hanging out with bitter, desperate comics backstage. They're a different breed than the bitter yet eager psyches in the wings of an improv theatre. Struggling stand-ups have externalized self-loathing into an art form. They're a hunching, quaking, unshaven lot.
Scott Adsit
#23. Self-loathing doesn't keep me from being happy. But that doesn't mean I don't struggle.
Megan Fox
#24. His self-loathing didn't fully set in, though, until club fair day in the cafeteria, when he saw her sitting with the Young Republicans. Ouch. Leave it to him to fall for someone who was both out of his league and beneath his dignity.
Anonymous
#25. Think of how much we stress about living up to our "potential," and how it creates anxiety and terror in people; in short, stops them from living their life as fully as they might out of fear and self-loathing.
Emily Susan Rapp
#26. When I was in my early forties, I slept with a loaded gun under my bed. I'd become severely depressed in my thirties, and for almost a decade I spiraled down into paranoia, rage, self-loathing, and thoughts of suicide.
Byron Katie
#27. Like a lot of people, I've got a self-loathing streak that's alive and well. It acts as a de facto engine when I'm working, but it also has its extraordinary pitfalls, too.
Ryan Reynolds
#28. 'Downward Spiral' felt like I had an unending bottomless pit of rage and self-loathing inside me and I had to somehow challenge something or I'd explode. I thought I could get through by putting everything into my music, standing in front of an audience and screaming emotions at them from my guts.
Trent Reznor
#29. It was a terrible thing, to love and not know whether you were loved in return, it led to the worst sensations--jealousy, rage, self-loathing--to all these lesser states.
Katie Kitamura
#30. The key to humor is often self-loathing or sarcasm. In a sense, that's how self-loathing is made palatable.
James Gray
#31. And I was wondering how to depart without self-loathing or sadness, or with as little as possible, when a kind of immense sigh all around me announced it was not I who was departing, but the flock.
Samuel Beckett
#32. I am the One, and I see all.
But the blind man in Apartment 1-A is blind in many ways, as are all human beings, even those with functioning eyes. They are blind to their folly, to their ignorance, to their history, to the future that they will make for themselves. A future born of self-loathing.
Dean Koontz
#33. I was enamored of New York City intellectual life and was really into Philip Roth because I was raised by self-loathing Midwesterners who were from southern Illinois, who felt like fish out of water when they came to the East Coast when I was a kid.
Meghan Daum
#34. God, is this all it is, the ricocheting down the corridor of laughter and tears? Of self-worship and self-loathing? Of glory and disgust?
Sylvia Plath
#35. Often self-love is replaced with self- loathing, compounded by beating ourselves up. We become experts at putting ourselves down, judging ourselves, and finding fault. This creates deep shame that says "I am a mistake" instead of saying "I made a mistake.
David W. Earle
#36. You either listen to the naysayers and fall into the pit of self-loathing, or you stay on the path and move forward.
Chris Pine
#37. Based on decades of observation, I propose that sudden high levels of praise always trigger an equal amount of inner self-loathing.
Chuck Palahniuk
#38. Socialism is, among other things, the political habitat of low self-esteem, incompetence, self-loathing, and a willingness to steal - or have stolen for you what you are unable or unwilling to work for. Socialism is a philosophy fit only for slugs, leaches, and mosquitoes.
L. Neil Smith
#39. You are on the threshold of a great journey, and you must begin to think in terms of what you can do as a powerful spiritual and biological being. Stop with the self-loathing. Stop with imagery of 'the damned' this and 'the damned' that! We are not damned. We never were.
Anne Rice
#40. The sex is amazing, he's wealthy, he's beautiful, but this is all meaningless without his love, and the real heart-fail is that I don't know if he's capable of love. He doesn't even love himself. I recall his self-loathing..
E.L. James
#41. Delia's arms were inscribed with a grid of self- inflicted wounds, an intricate text of self-loathing
Jay McInerney
#42. The mind of a writer can be a truly terrifying thing. Isolated, neurotic, caffeine-addled, crippled by procrastination, consumed by feelings of panic, self-loathing, and soul-crushing inadequacy. And that's on a good day.
Robert De Niro
#43. When you work at home, fellow alums, discipline is the supreme virtue. Suicidal self-loathing lurks behind every coffee break. Activities must be expertly scheduled, from shopping to showers to panic attacks.
Sam Lipsyte
#44. I think - I think you have a conscience growing up in a loving family with a nurturing community. And I think what happens is, and that's part of the problem of being in the closet which is a very sick place. I mean it's self loathing. It's self denial. And you keep that separate.
James McGreevey
#45. Children who use more shame self-talk (I am bad) versus guilt self-talk (I did something bad) struggle mightily with issues of self-worth and self-loathing. Using shame to parent teaches children that they are not inherently worthy of love.
Brene Brown
#46. Why does shame and self-loathing become cruelty to the innocent ?
Anne Rice
#47. That was one plus about profound self-loathing. Nobody could hate you worse than you hated yourself.
Francine Pascal
#48. It's been said that alcoholics are egomaniacs with low self -esteem. It's the prefect description. Being larger than life and yet your pride is crushed with self- loathing.
Gary Oldman
#49. Social media, despite its reputation as the ultimate agent of self-promotion, actually feeds on self-loathing.
Meghan Daum
#50. But not forgiving yourself often becomes the root of severe self-loathing extreme self hatred and intense inhibitions. It will be next to impossible to truly start over when you feel unforgivable.
Sue Augustine
#51. Trust me, I know what self loathing is. But to kill myself? That would put a damper on my search for answers. Not at all productive. Besides, I've become increasingly doubtful as to whether I can die at all. But let's not get into that.
Jhonen Vasquez
#52. How often are the perpetrators of hate-crimes discovered to be self-loathing? Valued individuals do not strike out against strangers.
Harvey Fierstein
#53. Boys with a 'failure to launch' are invisible to most girls. With poor social skills, the boys feel anger at their fear of being rejected and self-loathing at their inability to compete.
Warren Farrell
#54. The world was what it was. And no amount of anger, or hatred, or self-loathing, or stubborn blindness would change it.
Laurell K. Hamilton
#55. I think people are used to people in show business having a lot of hubris. I think I have a normal amount of self-loathing but because I'm in show business it's considered self-deprecation. In normal life I would just be considered your average neurotic.
Jon Stewart
#56. I find most famous Christians to be full of themselves and of prejudice and self-loathing, masquerading as devout religious belief. I find all fundamentalism to be terrifying and very destructive.
Anne Lamott
#57. Beware of that monster called 'self-loathing'.
John Green
#58. A difference in self loathing? Please. The only difference between a gun and a rope is the time it takes to tie the knot.
Justine Larbalestier
#59. The truth is, I've always been wracked with self-loathing and terrible, paralysing depression.
Shirley Manson
#60. I grew up very self-loathing. I was a phobic. I had anxiety. I had panic attacks.
Dane Cook
#61. I am not racked with self-loathing. Some issues of guilt and shame, but I'm a pretty good guy.
Marcus Brigstocke
#62. The truth is that if we are consumed with finding ways to help others, there will be little room left in our minds or our hearts for self-pity, self-loathing or unhappiness with the world in which we live.
David S. Baxter
#63. The Western front is the important one in this war - the intersection between Islam and a liberal democratic tradition so mired in self-loathing it would rather destroy our civilization just to demonstrate its multicultural bona fides.
Mark Steyn
#64. The seeds of self-loathing had been planted when he was very young. It is not easy to change, even when our adult minds know better.
Kat Ross
#65. The problem is that we as a society simply accept these unrealistic standards: that you have to be thin to be perfect, to be beautiful, to be successful at work and to have a good relationship. And it is making us sick. This self-loathing is crippling women.
Crystal Renn
#66. I don't hate myself, as a general rule. I'd say the best way to describe it is that I have moments of self-loathing at fairly regular intervals.
Janeane Garofalo
#67. It is foolishness to want what never was or will never will be, lament the passage of time, and live in fearfulness of an uncertain future. The moods generated by regret including depression and self-loathing congeal in our sentient consciousness creating the painful landscape of the self.
Kilroy J. Oldster
#68. Just having my own time-out; a bit of self-pity here, a bit of self-loathing there.
Melina Marchetta
#69. Monogamy doesn't work unless it rises up from the bones. Because it promises nothing but fear and tension when forced on you. It fills you up with despair where there might be joy. It shoves guilt and paranoia and self-loathing down your throat, if you don't truly want it.
Will Christopher Baer
#70. Masturbation is a meditation on self-love. So many of us are afflicted with self-loathing, bad body images, shame about our body functions, and confusion about sex and pleasure, I recommend an intense love affair with yourself
Betty Dodson
#71. I took a bite of lobster meat with rice. It was quite tasty. 'Arguing the morality of slaughter will send you into a tailspin of self-loathing every time.' 'Unless you're a vegan.' 'Uh-huh. But then you're a vegan and you don't count.
Julie Powell
#72. Feel the wounded heart that's underneath the addiction, self-loathing, or anger.
Pema Chodron
#73. There is no question you get pumped up by the recognition. Then a self-loathing sets in when you realise you're enjoying it.
George C. Scott
#74. Beautiful' is bullshit, a standard created to make women into good consumers, too busy wallowing in self-loathing to notice that we're second-class citizens.
Jessica Valenti
#75. All my life I have battled the alarm clock, pummeling the snooze button over and over with mounting self-loathing until the shame is finally strong enough to lever me upright.
Isaac Marion
#76. Your courtship method of arrogance self-loathing, and then telling me how beautiful other girls are is pretty unique," said Kami. "I like it. I don't know what that says about me.
Sarah Rees Brennan
#77. I don't trust anyone who hasn't been self-destructiv e in some way, and who hasn't gone through some sort of bout of self-loathing. You've got to bang yourself around a bit to know yourself.
Johnny Depp
#78. I need eight hours to get maybe 20 minutes of work done. I had one of those yesterday: seven hours of self-loathing.
Dave Eggers
#79. Self-loathing and self-worship can easily be the same thing. You hate the small sack of fluids and resentments that you are, and you would go to any length, and betray anything and anyone, to preserve it.
N.D. Wilson
#80. Perhaps the most liberating moment in my life was when I realized that my self-loathing was not a product of my inadequacy but, rather, a product of my thoughts.
Vironika Tugaleva
#81. My capacity as a monk was to passionately believe utter nonsense, and when you're an actor you have to do the same thing. Also, Christianity used to have a lot to do with self-loathing and an acceptance of criticism and things like that which is terribly important for actors.
Tom Baker
#82. Every single time I step into the studio, I say, 'Can I still do this? Do I still have it? Have I ever had it?' I suppose there's a good amount of self-loathing that goes into any form of artisanship.
Ben Harper
#83. You can't build joy on a feeling of self-loathing.
Ram Dass
#84. Self-loathing is man's effort to sweep the moon of footprints.
Joseph Grammer
#85. The trick ... is to find the balance between the bright colors of humor and the serious issues of identity, self-loathing, and the possibility for intimacy and love when it seems no longer possible or, sadder yet, no longer necessary.
Wendy Wasserstein
#86. I still enjoy my life, and I feel like I've achieved enough things that if I never did anything again, I'd feel confident that I'd still have made my mark in some way. But maybe the self-loathing bit is the element that makes you strive for more. Makes you strive to be better.
David Walliams
#87. There's no cure for getting depressed. There's no cure for self-loathing or periods of it. But figure out enough about it so that when it happens, you can get over it and keep moving and just accomplish more.
Conan O'Brien
#88. Art saved me; it got me through my depression and self-loathing, back to a place of innocence.
Jeanette Winterson
#89. A child. New life. Immune to evil or illness, protected from kidnap, beatings, rape, racism, insult, hurt, self-loathing, abandonment. Error-free. All goodness. Minus wrath. So they believe.
Toni Morrison
#90. Let me carry you out. I'll never let you touch the ground. I was made to carry you, Olivia. You're fucking heavy with all of your guilt and self-loathing. But, I can do it. Because I love you.
Tarryn Fisher
#91. Once you surrender to hope, its a long road back to reason. There was a certain tone of self-loathing in the way Crest said it.
Benjamin Wood
#92. I try to formulate a plan but my thoughts are a toxic fizz of regret, panic, and self-loathing, as if someone shook up a bottle of carbonated soda and uncapped it inside my brain.
Elan Mastai
#93. They're only memories, Sam. They might comfort us on days of self-loathing, but that's all. We have to consciously move forward.
Brandon R. Chinn
#94. My self loathing was like a bone I couldn't stop gnawing.
Sarah Hepola
#95. The most fascinating thing to me about your letter is that buried beneath all the anxiety and sorrow and fear and self-loathing, there's arrogance at its core. It presumes you should be successful at twenty-six, when really it takes most writers much longer to get there.
Cheryl Strayed
#96. There's only so many movies you can do. I start to get really self-loathing and sick of myself. And I think in order to act, you need to live a little bit to fill yourself with experience.
Rooney Mara
#97. For a moment he was lost in the scent and the closeness of her, the grief and self-loathing vanished by this new intimacy. He knew he should tell her to stop, that this was inappropriate, but found himself too intoxicated to care.
Anthony Ryan
#98. Female self-loathing has been handed down throughout the generations
Bryony Gordon
#99. I understand the self-loathing and the resentment, and the discipline that it takes to sit down in front of a typewriter or computer every single day, whether it's going well or not going well.
David Duchovny
#100. Self-loathing is the silent hemorrhaging of the soul. You don't feel or see the life force fleeing until it's not longer there, and then, of course, it's too late.
Sarah Ban Breathnach
