Top 100 Warren Farrell Quotes
#1. Throughout my life I have always been amazed that people couldn't listen to other people, that they couldn't hear their best intent, that there seemed to be an enormous need to demonize.
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#2. Men are fair, and they have learned not to personalize anger - they can disagree with you and argue to the bone, but afterward they still consider you a nice person with whom the underlying human relationship need not be altered.
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#3. Only when a woman shares male risks can she really begin to understand men.
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#4. Men rarely worry about using or being used because all relationships work that way. A man perceives himself as owning and being owned by a woman. 'Use' is a dirty word only when there's an imbalance in the relationship.
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#5. If my parents had made love a tenth of a second earlier or later, I wouldn't exist. What an enormous miracle, just being given life.
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#7. Sexual harassment in the workplace confuses rewards for performance with rewards for attractiveness and sexual availability.
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#8. My wife's income allowed me to do what I really loved. I realized that women's liberation is men's liberation, too.
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#9. Male makeup is men's titles, status and paying for dates. Makeup is what both sexes use to bridge the gap between the power they have and the power they'd like to have. Both male and female makeup are compensations for feelings of powerlessness.
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#10. For me, the massiveness of what I don't know is one way I experience God. It creates in me a feeling of humility and a sense of gratitude.
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#11. When we hear men are the greater victims of crime, we tend to say, 'Well, it's men hurting other men.' When we hear that blacks are the greater victims, we consider it racist to say, 'Well, it's blacks hurting blacks.' The victim is a victim no matter who the perpetrator was.
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#12. Our focus on discrimination against women during the past 30 years has blinded us to opportunities for women.
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#13. Unless a woman asks men out (the first time) as often as men ask her out, then the assertion He asked me out, therefore he pays is just a double jeopardy of the male role: he must not only do the asking, he must pay extra for risking extra rejection.
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#14. Virtually every society that survived did so by socializing its sons to be disposable. Disposable in war; disposable in work. We need warriors and volunteer firefighters, so we label these men heroes.
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#16. A 2001 survey of business owners with MBAs conducted by the Rochester Institute of Technology found that money was the primary motivator for only 29% of women, versus 76% of men. Women prioritized flexibility, fulfillment, autonomy and safety.
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#17. When a parent denies a child its parent time, that parent is denying the child its child support
its psychological child support.
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#18. Until recently, the question was 'Why can't a woman be more like a man?' It should have been changed to 'Why can't both sexes be more like the best parts of each other?' Instead, the pendulum swung to the 1960s feminist lapel button Adam Was a First Draft. True enough. So are we all.
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#19. Irony: While we increasingly hold people more responsible if they drink and drive, we hold women less responsible if they drink and have sex.
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#20. The legal bias for special protection for women has begun to wreak havoc with the Constitution's guarantee of equal protection.
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#21. The more the father is involved, the more easily the child makes open, receptive, and trusting contact with new people in its life.
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#22. So we've moved from an era when women's biology was women's destiny to today, which is an era in which men's biology is men's destiny.
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#23. In America and in most of the industrialized world, men are coming to be thought of by feminists in very much the same way that Jews were thought of by early Nazis. The comparison is overwhelmingly scary.
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#24. Men are likely to be quite generous, especially financially.
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#25. In brief, when a man fails as a wallet, we put him in prison; when a woman fails as a mother, we offer her social services. We're taking a criminal approach to men, a social services approach to women.
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#26. Sexism is discounting the female experience of powerlessness; the new sexism is discounting the male experience of powerlessness.
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#27. One can make a case that says that since 85% of children being brought up in single family homes are being brought up by women that about 85% of elementary school teachers should be males to balance out the feminization that the boys and girls receive.
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#28. Together, we came to understand how we beg men to express feelings, but then when men do express feelings, we call it sexism, male chauvinism, or backlash.
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#29. Men are often a lot less vindictive than women are, because we are rejected constantly every day.
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#30. And with the rape, I was showing why the rape statistics are exaggerated, and saying that date rape was much more complex than the way feminists had portrayed it, as men oppressing women.
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#31. He and she become selective at different points; she can be selective when he wants his primary fantasy - sex; he can be selective when she wants her primary fantasy - commitment.
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#32. We have been suckered into believing that, because there are more men at the top than women at the top, that this is a result of discrimination against women. That's been the misconception. It's all about trade-offs. You earn more money, you usually sacrifice something at home.
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#33. If we hold the married man accountable for finances gone legally awry, then the married woman should be held accountable for children who go awry.
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#34. Hazing is both testing and training to subordinate self to the team.
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#35. Women attempt suicide more often because they want to become the priority of those they love rather than always prioritizing them.
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#36. The weakness of men is the facade of strength; the strength of women is the facade of weakness.
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#37. Solutions: ( ... ) Seek an understanding of the other sex's best intent.
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#38. I started to get very well recognized in the early seventies as the only man in the United States who had been elected three times to the board of NOW in New York City.
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#39. A person working 45 hours per week averages 44% more income than someone working 40 hours per week. That's 44% more income for 13% more time.
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#40. Men give the same lines to different women for the same reason women wear the same perfume for different men; we all try the things that work.
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#41. Men's greatest weakness is their facade of strength, and women's greatest strength is their facade of weakness.
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#42. I define power as 'control over one's life.' A balanced life is far superior to the male definition of power: earning money someone else spends while he dies sooner.
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#43. The rules of sexism do not free men from the terror of violence; they only keep men from complaining about it.
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#44. I've always been motivated to stop people from doing dysfunctional things.
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#45. Men are not only women's unpaid bodyguards, they actually pay to be a woman's bodyguard.
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#46. Dads in the family are even more important than women in the workplace: The workplace benefits from women, but the family needs dads.
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#47. In one decade, women had gotten more protection against offensive jokes in the workplace than men had gotten in centuries against being killed in the workplace.
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#48. Because of the feminist perspective, we have gotten a view of the world that is distorted.
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#49. Industrialization created the Father's Catch-22:;: a dad loving his children by being away from the love of his children.
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#51. A man cannot tell whether a woman is in love with him or his security blanket until she is financially and psychologically independent enough to leave. Until a woman has learned how to leave, even she cannot be sure she has learned to love.
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#52. It is important that a woman's "noes" be respected and her "yeses" be respected.
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#53. Let's face it: men do a lot of things in the workplace that women just don't do.
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#54. So while in men's magazines success is a power tool to get sex and love, and therefore the look of success is crucial, in women's magazines love and sex are power tools to get success and therefore both the look of love and the sexual tease/promise are crucial.
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#55. Men's competitive team sports focus on the balance between individual achievement and team achievement with the emphasis on team achievement.
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#56. I found that women entrepreneurs earn 50% less than their male counterparts.
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#57. Being forced into early retirement can be to a man what being "given up for a younger woman" is for a woman.
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#58. Women and men look at their life, and women say, 'What do I need? Do I need more money, or do I need more time?' And women are intelligent enough to say, 'I need more time.' And so, women lead balanced lives; men should be learning from women.
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#59. Feminism justified female 'victim power' by convincing the world that we lived in a sexist, male-dominated, and patriarchal world.
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#60. Men move through a much different process before commitment than women do.
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#61. Self-help books for those who believe You can have it all often advise, Follow your bliss and money will follow. With the collapse of the stock markets the reality of trade-offs is more like, When you follow your bliss, it's money you'll miss.
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#62. A man perceives himself as owning and being owned by a woman.
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#63. Companies like I.B.M. have offered women scholarships to study engineering for years, and women engineers routinely get higher starting salaries than men.
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#64. I'm a great supporter of women who take risks and don't make victimhood into an art. It's not good for women, and it's not good for men. Too many men put all their emotional eggs in one basket - a woman's basket.
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#65. I'm an awfully loyal friend. Once I've started a relationship with someone, it's like they are syrup and I'm a pancake. Their syrup gets into my pancake, so to speak.
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#66. There are 80 jobs in which women earn more than men - positions like financial analyst, speech-language pathologist, radiation therapist, library worker, biological technician, motion picture projectionist.
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#68. Blacks are six times more likely than whites to be victims of homicides.
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#69. When women hold off from marrying men, we call it independence. When men hold off from marrying women, we call it fear of commitment.
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#70. Framework, ( ... ) addiction to female beauty and sex; deprivation of the beautiful woman and sex with her until the man guarantees economic security in return; ( ...
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#71. It is ironic that a movement that made its reputation championing the irrelevance of biological differences when those differences were to most women's disadvantage immediately returned to biological determinism when those differences were to the most women's advantage.
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#72. When I lose my larger sense of supporting people to be their best, I lessen my contact with the God inside me.
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#73. The world increasingly allows girls to be whoever they wish to be
homemaker, mother, secretary, executive.
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#74. Just as the Depression left a generation of dads feeling they never had enough money, so father deprivation is leaving a generation of sons and daughters with different psychic wounds.
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#75. Our choice of partners is one of the clearest statements about our choice of values.
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#76. While girls average a healthy five hours a week on video games, boys average 13. The problem? The brain chemistry of video games stimulates feel-good dopamine that builds motivation to win in a fantasy while starving the parts of the brain focused on real-world motivation.
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#77. Crime, especially crime involving money, reflects the gap between the expectation to provide and the ability to provide ... If we really want men to commit crime as infrequently as women, we can start by not expecting men to provide for women more than we expect women to provide for men.
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#78. If a female employee is offended, a boss would like her to tell him, not sue him.
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#79. By starving our children of men, we have made them more vulnerable to the very abuse we are trying to prevent.
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#80. One danger of a man succeeding is that it teaches his wife and daughter not to worry about success.
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#81. Without children, men have more liberty to earn less - that is, they are free to pursue more fulfilling and less lucrative careers, like writing or art or teaching social studies.
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#82. Both sexes allow men dentists inside our mouths, but, well, have you ever let a man who is a dental hygienist inside your mouth? The man must earn his way to our private places in a way not required of a woman
he must become the doctor or the dentist, or forget it.
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#83. Women's liberation and the male midlife crisis were the same search
for personal fulfillment, common values, mutual respect, love. But while women's liberation was thought of as promoting identity, the male midlife crisis was thought of as an identity crisis.
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#84. I definitely agree with choices for women, but I do not agree with choices for women when they eliminate choices for men. Rather, I think that the sexes need to make choices that lead to the maximum amount of win-win for both sexes.
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#85. All women's issues are to some degree men's issues and all men's issues are to some degree women's issues because when either sex wins unilaterally both sexes lose.
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#86. When women criticized men, I called it 'insight' ... When men criticized women, I called it 'sexism' and 'backlash.'
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#87. [This is] the basis of the Innocent Woman Defense the Innocent Woman Principle:;: Women are believed when they say they are innocent of violence and most easily doubted when they say they are guilty of violence.
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#88. Women's vulnerability confessing their desire to see men as a success object is matched by men's confession of compulsiveness of sexual desire for women.
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#89. People who work 44 hours per week make 50 percent more than people who work 34 hours a week.
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#90. Perhaps the best reason to consider the hard sciences is that, well, one study suggests science, engineering, medicine, and dentistry graduates live longer than arts graduates (or law grads). So whatever money you make you can keep a bit longer.
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#91. Our main reasons for fearing males having sex with males is that you really had to construct a more powerful social role to keep men in their place than you did to keep women in their place.
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#92. If women had to promise to provide for a man for a lifetime before he removed his veil and showed her his smile, would we think of this as a system of female privilege?
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#93. The 'enduring theme' [in fiction] of male competition and female competition for the hero/survivor has taken us from the fittest surviving to the brink of no one surviving. Sex roles have gone from functional to dysfunctional almost overnight. This is why the enduring theme must be questioned now.
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#94. There are 25 differences in the way women and men behave in the workplace. These 25 differences lead to men receiving higher pay and women having better lives or at least more balanced lives.
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#95. On a deeper level, if our sons are learning they are obscene, disgusting, and untrustworthy, is this the best preparation for fatherhood? And is it the best preparation for becoming a mother
to feel this way about her son?
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#96. Every day, almost as many men are killed at work as were killed during the average day in Vietnam. For men, there are, in essence, three male-only drafts: the draft of men to all the wars; the draft of Everyman to unpaid bodyguard; the draft of men to all the hazardous jobs or 'death professions.
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#97. When we look at the pay of men and women who do work equal hours, two discoveries are quite astonishing:
When women and men work less than 40 hours a week, the women earn more than the men;
When men and women work more than 40, the men earn more than the women.
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#98. We have entered 'The Era of the Three-Option Woman and the No-Option Man.
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#99. Since no one is always right, always being right is really a role model for his children feeling inadequate.
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#100. With men, we blame the victim. We blame men because we have camouflaged men's victimization by teaching men to also be the victimizer. Men's victimizer status camouflages men's victim status.
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