Quotes About Not Being Loved

#1. You reach a point in life where you realize that you might as well do what you need to do, because your being loved or not being loved is really a function of the people you encounter and not of yourself. That is an immensely liberating insight.

Erica Jong

#2. The biggest curse in life is not loosing your love, but not being loved by someone you love.

Kiran Joshi

#3. Theres no misery in not being loved,
only in not loving

Rod McKuen

#4. If we are to love sincerely, and with simplicity, we must first of all overcome the fear of not being loved.

Thomas Merton

#5. One remedy for the fear of not being loved is to remember how good it feels to love someone. If you're feeling unloved and you want to feel better, go love someone, and see what happens.

Dossie Easton

#6. To love is to risk, not being loved in return. to hope is to risk pain. to try is to risk failure. but risk must be taken because the greatest hazard in my life is to risk nothing.

Leo Buscaglia

#7. It is the fear of being as dependent as a young child, while not being loved as a child is loved, but merely being kept alive against one's will.

Malcolm Cowley

#8. Self-esteem and identity are very fragile things. I think a lot of times, those are the motivations for why people do take their own lives - not being seen, not being recognized, not being loved, not feeling supported, not feeling understood.

Nate Parker

#9. The only thing worse than an unlovable woman was an unlovable woman who whined about not being loved.

Courtney Milan

#10. Mature love is loving, not being loved.

Irvin D. Yalom

#11. Being close but feeling far, talking but not being heard, loving but not being loved, that is the painful reality of a dying relationship.

Steve Maraboli

#12. I think that not being loved by your parents or not having a brother or not being liked at school or even wearing glasses can be a lot worse than having a famous father.

Kim Wilde

#13. Nothing so reduces and drags down a human being as the consciousness of not being loved.

Hjalmar Soderberg

#14. For there is merely bad luck in not being loved; there is misfortune in not loving.

Albert Camus

#15. There is a huge amount of shame connected to the feeling of not being loved, because love and family, biological or not, confirms our existence. Everyone needs to be seen, accepted and loved.

Anne Sewitsky

#16. Never be afraid to love, not even when there's a chance you're not being loved in return.

Tom Robbins

#17. There is merely bad luck in not being loved; there is misfortune in not loving. All of us, today, are dying of this misfortune. For violence and hatred dry up the heart itself; the long fight for justice exhausts the love that nevertheless gave birth to it.

Albert Camus

#18. But there was nothing more transparent to her than the fear of not being loved, the fear of being unseen, of being ignored.

Laura Esquivel

#19. Maybe, in the face of abandonment, we are all the same; maybe not even a very orderly mind can endure the discovery of not being loved.

Elena Ferrante

#20. A lot of people say the worst feeling in the world is not being loved, when really it's when someone loves you and you can't love them back.

Erin Mack Smith

#21. Are people so unhappy when they love?"
"Yes, Christine, when they love and are not sure of being loved.

Gaston Leroux

#22. It is precisely when you are loved a lot that you might realize a second loneliness which is not to be solved but lived. This second loneliness is an existential loneliness that belongs to the basis of our being. It's where we are unfulfilled because only God can fill us.

Henri Nouwen

#23. Jesus does not want us to walk in a false humility that minimizes how much He enjoys loving us or how much He wants us to enjoy being loved by Him.

Mike Bickle

#24. Einstein is loved because he is gentle, respected because he is wise. Relativity being not for most of us, we elevate its author to a position somewhere between Edison, who gave us a tangible gleam, and God, who gave us the difficult dark and the hope of penetrating it.

E.B. White

#25. I don't regret anything I was before because I still am.
I only regret not having loved you.
Put your hands in mine
And let's be quiet, surrounded by life.

Alberto Caeiro

#26. There's great stuff out there, but I prefer doing a TV show, going to work every day with the same people, and a lot of stuff is not being shot in Los Angeles and I don't really want to do that because my loved ones are here.

Paget Brewster

#27. And I'll look back at him because I shan't be able to help it, remembering about being young, and about being made love to and making love, about pain and dancing and not being afraid of death, about all music I've ever loved, and every time I've been happy.

Jean Rhys

#28. But Keri, being loved enough is not adequate. Be loved more . . . make sure you are loved more than enough.

Samantha Christy

#29. We were designed to love and to be loved, to reach our dreams to unleash our potentials but not live in malice and envy, being hated and hating one another.

Auliq Ice

#30. I was always aware that Jack loved women not only for their bodies but for the stories that came into being as they interacted with him
they were part of his "road," the infinite range of experience that always had to remain open to fuel his work.

Joyce Johnson

#31. I am happiest when I am working though, when I am being creative. I realized at a very young age what I loved doing. I think it is so important for people to pursue the things that they love and not give up on their dreams.

Josh Peck

#32. Not your distress. Never that. I loved - I loved being there. Next to you. The pile of limbs that was Us. Together in the same bed. Even if it meant waking up with a few new bruises.

Julio Alexi Genao

#33. My high school musical did not offer a shirtless Zac Efron but it did provide me with many lessons. I learned that I loved being in a theatre, attending rehearsals, and building sets. I loved listening to the director and groaning about rehearsing choreography

Amy Poehler

#34. Some will wear masks their entire life because they care about what other people think, while others remove the mask to be who they truly are. The difference between the two is not the ability to trust others, but to trust in God.

Shannon L. Alder

#35. He is mad about being small when you were big, but no, that's not it, he is mad about being helpless when you were powerful, but no, not that either, he is mad about being contingent when you were necessary, not quite it ... he is insane because when he loved you, you didn't notice.

Donald Barthelme

#36. Fame is a lot of fun, but it's not interesting. I loved being noticed and praised, even the banquets. But they didn't have anything that I wanted. After about six months, I found it boring.

Jack Gilbert

#37. Death's just something that inspires me, not something that pulls me down. I used to get called morbid at school. I have always loved horror films; I like being frightened.

Damien Hirst

#38. I figured, 'Why not go into entertainment?' I love entertaining people. I always loved being extra loud.

Becky G

#39. Being a kid myself, I loved playing and I loved playing with words, and making up things and riddles and songs and not afraid of being silly in public.

Malachy McCourt

#40. Being necessary to someone was not unlike being loved.

Adam McOmber

#41. Men have strength, Miss Ferenczi said, but no true magic. That is why men fall in love with women but women do not fall in love with men: they just love being loved.

Charles Baxter

#42. Be loved for who you are, for everything that constitutes you. Be loved for your core beliefs, your strengths and weaknesses, your admirable traits and troublesome baggage. Be loved for you, because anything less is not love at all.

Richelle E. Goodrich

#43. Speak of me as I am; nothing extenuate,
Nor set down aught in malice: then must you speak
Of one that loved not wisely but too well;
Of one not easily jealous, but being wrought

William Shakespeare

#44. I'm not saying that 'Twilight' is, you know, some brilliant Oscar-winner, it's not 'Dr. Zhivago.' It's not trying to be. Because it is a female fantasy. I would argue that it's actually a universal fantasy. Which is, the fantasy being to be loved and cherished for exactly who you are.

Melissa Rosenberg

#45. What she loved was being admired, being wanted, being pursued - but she did not think she wanted ever to be caught.

Alison Weir

#46. My fear of being real, of being seen, paralyzes me into silence. I crave the touch and the connection, but I'm not always brave enough to open my hand and reach out. This is the great challenge: to be seen, accepted, and loved, I must first reveal, offer, and surrender.

Anna White

#47. Our society puts too much emphasis on finding someone who will love you; our culture focuses too much on being loved and not enough on being a loving person.

Harold S. Kushner

#48. I was somebody who was not athletic. I was highly imaginative; I loved to read, and I loved nothing more than being in a story ... I didn't want to play ball; I wanted to imagine something and read something.

Julianne Moore

#49. Giving a brief sermon, the Abbess once said, 'A hot furnace does not need to be heated. A loving heart does not need to be loved. Being loving is more important than being loved.

Gil Fronsdal

#50. I've always loved fantasy. I've always loved sci-fi. It's not like I can list off my favorite sci-fi shows or movies, but I just love being taken into a different world. I'm a huge fan of Steven Spielberg. I'm a huge fan of George Lucas. I've always loved it.

Ksenia Solo

#51. I loved practical jokes. I loved being goofy on the playground, and I loved doing silly cartoons, but I was not this subversive little delinquent. I am an Eagle Scout, after all.

Steve Breen

#52. Letting go of someone we love is the hardest thing we will ever do. Some people never surrender to love for the fear of being hurt. But to not have loved, to not have felt the immense joy it brings, would have been a far worse kind of death.

Goldie Hawn

#53. The only way love can last a lifetime is if it's unconditional. The truth is this: love is not determined by the one being loved but rather by the one choosing to love.

Stephen Kendrick

#54. When you stop trying to be all things to all people, you can stop worrying about being liked and start building relationships that allow you to be loved. If you are not creating a negative response from somebody, you're probably not very fascinating to anybody.

Sally Hogshead

#55. I would say what scares me is that I'm going to ultimately find out at the end of my life that I'm really not lovable, that I'm not worthy of being loved. That there's something fundamentally wrong with me.

Demi Moore

#56. Always, it was claimed of her, she was strong and she was capable. You are not loved for being strong and capable if you are a female but if you are a female and you are strong and capable you will make your way without love.

Joyce Carol Oates

#57. Your gift with storytelling, Evie? It's not about you getting lost in your own mind, or living in a dreamland. It's about the beauty of your heart. It's about being able to rise above even the worst of situations. It's one of the reason I've loved you every single day since I was 11 years old.

Mia Sheridan

#58. God's love does not love that which is worthy of being loved, but it creates that which is worthy of being loved.

Martin Luther

#59. I can tell you that the end of a live is the sun of the love that was lived in it, that whatever you think you have sworn, being here at the end of Jem's life is not what is important.
It was being here for every other moment. Since you met him you have never left him and never not loved him

Cassandra Clare

#60. Thou wouldst be loved? - then let thy heart From its present pathway part not; Being everything which now thou art, Be nothing which thou art not. So with the world thy gentle ways, Thy grace, thy more than beauty, Shall be an endless theme of praise. And love a simple duty.

Edgar Allan Poe

#61. Do not yearn to be popular; be exquisite. Do not desire to be famous; be loved. Do not take pride in being expected; be palpable, unmistakable.

C. JoyBell C.

#62. Because of the fact that being a professional actor is not a career that is widely pursued back home in the Cayman Islands, I never thought it was a viable profession. It didn't even cross my mind. So when I knew I wanted to do theater, I didn't think 'actress,' even though I loved to perform.

Grace Gealey

#63. Actors fall into this trap if they missed being loved for who they really were and not for what they could do - sing, dance, joke about - then they take that as love.

Gene Wilder

#64. No one, not even my father, not even my children, has ever loved me the way that man loved me, that's for sure. There's something satisfying in being loved that hard, maybe more than loving that hard yourself.

Anna Quindlen

#65. At least not until the Terror took hold of him. Not until he saw, night after night, a little boat being rowed across the river. Not until he saw it return at dawn. Not until he saw what his Untouchable son had touched. More than touched.
Enter.
Loved.

Arundhati Roy

#66. If you think of having a family as being loved as a child, cared for - I did not experience that.

Daniel Pauly

#67. He had the desperation, not the courage, to be himself. Once you do that, you can't go wrong, because you can't make any mistakes when people love you for being yourself. But for Kurt, it didn't matter that other people loved him; he simply didn't love himself enough.

Charles R. Cross

#68. Being known by everyone is not the same as being loved.

Dean Koontz

#69. I'm not overly focused on being loved by everybody.

Bethenny Frankel

#70. For we are not as faithful to the being we have most loved as we are to ourselves and sooner or later we forget her - since that is one of our characteristics - so as to start loving another.

Marcel Proust

#71. Relationship Principle 11
It is better to be disliked for being who you are than to be loved for who you are not.

Sherry Argov

#72. If she loved him the way she said she did, she wanted him whole. Maybe this was what love meant after all: sacrifice and selflessness. It did not mean hearts and flowers and a happy ending, but the knowledge that another's well-being is more important than one's own.

Melissa De La Cruz

#73. Above all, she loved being loved, and he had flooded her with attentions. Making her feel so often that she existed for him, he made her existence real. No, she was not alone.

Albert Camus

#74. And that, he sometimes felt, was why he loved being high so much: not because it offered an escape from everyday life, as so many people thought, but because it made everyday life seem less everyday. For a brief period - briefer and briefer with each week - the world was splendid and unknown.

Hanya Yanagihara

#75. The American people are not just being taxed to death; they're being taxed after death. But, no one should have to sell the life's work of a parent or a loved one just to pay the federal government.

J. D. Hayworth

#76. People, I thought, wanted security. They couldn't bear the idea of death being a big black nothing, couldn't bear the thought of their loved ones not existing, and couldn't even imagine themselves not existing. I finally decided that people believed in an afterlife because they couldn't bear not to.

John Green

#77. You realise that having a number one record and being loved and adored isn't the most important thing in the world. But at the same time, I don't have a problem with it. What I'm trying to say is, I'm not a reluctant pop star.

Madonna Ciccone

#78. I've always had a huge fear of dying or becoming ill. The thing I'm most afraid of, though, is being alone, which I think a lot of performers fear. It's why we seek the limelight - so we're not alone, were adored. We're loved, so people want to be around us. The fear of being alone drives my life.

Jennifer Lopez

#79. I loved him, every inch of his being, but i realised one day; if loving him meant losing me, than loving him was not enough anymore.

Nikki Rowe

#80. I loved Jay Thomas as Eddie LeBec. But there was a point where they [thought] maybe we would live together, and I didn't like the idea of Carla being with somebody because that would make you feel like [you're] not part of the people in the bar.

Bebe Neuwirth

#81. If I am loved," Father Damien went on, "it is a merciless and exacting love against which I have no defense. If I am not loved, then I am being pitilessly manipulated by a force I cannot withstand, either, and so it is all the same. I must do what I must do. Go in peace.

Louise Erdrich

#82. People can have the best of intentions when they tell their loved ones how they should be living their lives. But often times, when we are in struggle, we are seeking to be supported, not solved.

Jaeda DeWalt

#83. I came to love the rhythm of the sound effects and the whole experience of listening to a story. I made a lot of stuff with my hands and so I loved being free to not watch a screen. I still love it to this day.

Larry Fessenden

#84. If someone comes to me and says they're not capable of being loved, I want to reach out to them and tell them that everybody's loveable. If a man is forced or wants to become a better man, then I root for him. Everybody needs to be loved.

Aksel Hennie

#85. When I take my last breath, will there be a wish that I had more stuff? I'll wish for only one thing, I think. That I loved better. That I had been better at loving and not being distracted by stuff or accomplishment. This life is so short and it will soon be over. What will we use it for?

Colin Beavan

#86. But there was nothing but the cold, hard truth that loving someone and being loved back was only the beginning, not the end, of all the pain.

Tiffany Reisz

#87. The problem with human attraction is not knowing if it will be returned.

Becca Fitzpatrick

#88. Antoine St. Exupery once mourned the loss of a man and the secret treasures that he held inside him. I loved Exupery; I will read him again, and he will talk to me, not being dead, or gone. Is that life after death - mind living on paper and flesh living in offspring? Maybe. I do not know.

Sylvia Plath

#89. He said to himself that he really had not suffered enough to deserve such radiant happiness, and he thanked God, in the depths of his soul, for having permitted that he, a miserable man, should be so loved by this innocent being.
Jean Valjean about Cossette

Victor Hugo

#90. People wanted security. They couldn't bear the idea of death being a black nothing, couldn't bear the thought of their loved ones not existing, and couldn't imagine themselves not existing.

John Green

#91. Power is being told you're not loved and not being destroyed by it.

Madonna

#92. I much preferred Latin to Greek. I loved the language being such a pattern that you could not shift a word without the whole sentence falling to pieces.

Alice Oswald

#93. Returning to the question of being feared or loved, I conclude that since men love at their own will and fear at the will of the prince, a wise prince must build a foundation on what is his own, and not on what belongs to others.

Niccolo Machiavelli

#94. The grudge was fundamental. Perhaps he could not have given it up if he tried. Perhaps he got more satisfaction out of feeling himself abused that he would have got out of being loved.

Willa Cather

#95. I not only loved studying theater, I loved being a theater major. It gave me an excuse to brood, to grow a beard, to wear black 'at' people. I didn't just want to play Hamlet, I wanted to be Hamlet.

Stephen Colbert

#96. It must be an awful feeling to have love all around you and not feel loved, to be in need and unable to accept whats being offered, to see a world of possibilities but trapped inside your own mind.

Tracy L. Darity

#97. It occurred to Michael that this was the great perk of being loved: someone to wait for you, someone to tell you that it will get easier up ahead. Even when it might not be true.

Armistead Maupin

#98. I've always loved the idea of not being what people expect me to be.

Dita Von Teese

#99. I don't care if my love is requited or not, because being with you and the very thought of you makes me happy. The point I'm trying to make is that you are loved because I love you, Adam. Please, don't do it. Please, don't jump because I need you.

Cecelia Ahern

#100. I have never really been a great artist. I have been a human being that has loved art, which is not the same thing. But I have loved and believed in art and the idea of universal brotherhood so much, that I have put everything I have into them, and I have been blessed.

Josephine Baker