Top 100 Quotes About Self Hate
#1. The criminalization and demonization of black men has turned the black community against itself, unraveling community and family relationships, decimating networks of mutual support, and intensifying the shame and self-hate experienced by the current pariah caste.
Michelle Alexander
#2. You may experience waves of disbelief after each memory you retrieve. Whether as a phase or waves, the disbelief is usually accompanied by massive self-hate and guilt. 'How can I even think such a thing? I must really be warped,' you tell yourself.
Renee Fredrickson
#3. I thought if we made an album that tried to change the world, or give it hope, it would really happen. But all people found was death and destruction and misery and self-hate. I learned that the world doesn't want to be saved, and it will f**king punch you in the face if you try.
Gerard Way
#4. I write because there is nothing as joyful as writing, even when the writing is twisted and full of hate, the self-hate that makes writing not only possible but necessary. I hate myself, I hate the people around me, but what I crave is the fulfillment of some ideal.
Gary Shteyngart
#5. I have never seen a person grow or change in a self - constructive meaningful way when motivated by guilt, shame, or self hate.
Herb Goldberg
#6. When you are filled with self-hate your mind is reversed. Meaning you will love the things that destroy you, and you will hate the things that advance your growth.
Amos N. Wilson
#7. I read in 'Life' magazine that Asians had developed an operation to enlarge eyes, and I yearned to have this done. I wanted to dye my hair brown and to anglicize my name. Self-hate was the most terrible cost of the war years for me.
David Suzuki
#8. Sadly, black people disassociate ourselves from the things which make us who we are, identifying them as lesser, or inferior. It's a form of self hate. So, with reckless abandon, we strive to be like the majority.
Nate Parker
#9. The enemy was not the Klan but the inside-outside lock that racism and classism had on the minds of the people: It operated from the inside through self-hate and self-doubt, and from the outside through the police, carnivorous landlords, and the welfare system.
Junius Williams
#10. Over the years of much self-hate, I came to realize that whether sexuality was in my life or not, it didn't seem to matter. I just surrendered the whole thing to God.
Frederick Lenz
#12. Self-hate is a form of mental slavery that results in poverty, ignorance, and crime.
Susan L. Taylor
#13. Self-hate doesn't create enlightenment. It just causes you to not enjoy the current moment.
Frederick Lenz
#14. Man hates something in himself. He has been able to defeat every natural obstacle but himself he cannot win over unless he kills every individual. And this self-hate which goes so closely in hand with self-love is what I wrote about. - in a letter to George Albee
John Steinbeck
#15. We are wont to condemn self-love; but what we really mean to condemn is contrary to self-love. It is that mixture of selfishness and self-hate that permanently pursues us, that prevents us from loving others, and that prohibits us from losing ourselves.
Paul Valery
#16. I went through times of self-hate, thinking how undeveloped spiritual I was. Everyone else in the ashram, a thousand people, nobody had a girlfriend or boyfriend. I did.
Frederick Lenz
#17. There is a thin line between self-love and self-hate. When you are at the self-hate side, make sure to cross the line and stay away from it forever.
Merriam Rammila
#18. Men make war to get attention. All killing is an expression of self-hate.
Alice Walker
#19. It was loneliness and insecurity that had brought Claudia to the chaos of madness. It was community, love, and friendship that finally brought her inner peace. This movement from chaos to inner peace, from self - hate to self - trust, began when Claudia realized that she was loved.
Jean Vanier
#20. America's greatest crime against the black man was not slavery or lynching, but that he was taught to wear a mask of self-hate and self-doubt.
Malcolm X
#21. And finally - he was neither able nor willing to prevent it - the self-loathing dammed up inside him spilled over and gushed out, gushed out of glaring eyes that grew ever grimmer, angrier, beneath the rim of his cap, flooding the outside world as perfect, vulgar hate.
Patrick Suskind
#22. [ ... ] falling in love with someone beautiful and intelligent and the rest of it, then feeling like a blank twit put you at something of a disadvantage.
Nick Hornby
#23. I was so self-critical. I still am; but it's not as bad anymore.
Fiona Apple
#24. You didn't choose God. He chose you. When you stop feeling hurt by everyone and plotting your comeback, he has some very important things he wants you to accomplish with your life.
Shannon L. Alder
#25. Self-love is a good thing but self-awareness is more important. You need to once in a while go 'Uh, I'm kind of an asshole.
Louis C.K.
#26. No true Dharma Master behaves with rage, hate, ranting, self- importance. These are signs of mental instability, a character flaw. Never follow such a one as that.
Jetsunma Ahkon Lhamo
#27. This book probably makes it seem like I hate myself and everything I do. But that's not totally true. I mostly just hate every person I've ever been. I'm actually fine with myself right now.
Jesse Andrews
#28. There's a rebel lying deep in my soul. Anytime anybody tells me the trend is such and such, I go the opposite direction. I hate the idea of trends. I hate imitation; I have a reverence for individuality.
Clint Eastwood
#29. Rejection is a form of self-assertion. You have only to look back upon yourself as a person who hates this or that to discover what it is that you secretly love.
George Santayana
#30. The Negro does not want love. He wants justice ... I believe it would be better for the Negro's soul to be seared with hate than dwarfed by self-abasement.
E. Franklin Frazier
#31. Hate crimes are different from other crimes. They strike at the heart of one's identity - they strike at our sense of self, our sense of belonging. The end result is loss - loss of trust, loss of dignity, and in the worst case, loss of life.
James Comey
#32. Briony said reasonably, 'How can you hate plays?'
'It's just showing off.' Pierrot shrugged as he delivered this self-evident truth.
Ian McEwan
#33. Listen, young people, I understand narcissism - clearly. But at least I have the decency to hate myself. And that's what's missing from the young people. They don't have the debilitating self-loathing and the second guessing.
Janeane Garofalo
#34. Cutting the space budget really restores my faith in humanity. It eliminates dreams, goals, and ideals and lets us get straight to the business of hate, debauchery, and self-annihilation.
Johnny Hart
#35. There's more to me than you see, another me down inside somewhere, full of hate, ready to hurt, cut, smash, or if maybe there's no Other and there's just me alone, then I'm not the person I thought I was, I'm something twisted and terrible, terrible.
Dean Koontz
#36. To denounce does not free the self from what it hates, any more than ignoring the past shuts off its influence.
Jacques Barzun
#37. A hater is a person with a complete understanding of your destiny but assigns him or her self as a representative to work tirelessly on your misery.
Johnnie Dent Jr.
#39. By using your heart as your compass, you can see more clearly which direction to go to stop self-defeating behavior. If you take just one mental or emotional habit that really bothers or drains you and apply heart intelligence to it, you'll see a noticeable difference in your life.
Doc Childre
#40. That is a Nazi expression. The Nazis called Germans who defended Jewish rights self-hating Germans.
Israel Shahak
#41. God, I hate thursdays!.
Self
#42. If you hate yourself and your desires, well, you know, God is your desires and God is your self. As long as you hate God, you'll never realize God.
Frederick Lenz
#43. Only the fact that we are unaware how well our nearest know us enables us to live with them. Love is the most impregnable refuge of self-esteem, and we hate the eye that reaches to our nakedness. Edith Wharton ~ The Touchstone
Edith Wharton
#44. His themes were not pride and love at all, though he used the words perpetually; as he used them they meant self-praise and hate.
Ursula K. Le Guin
#45. I hate the thought that I'm just some kind of Russian nesting doll with the big outside and inevitably, rattling around under all the layers, a crude little peg with a face is the truth of me.
Wendy McClure
#46. What does God hate or punish except self-will? Let self-will cease, and there will be no hell. On what does that fire feed except on self-will?
Bernard Of Clairvaux
#47. We are self-uncertain creatures, and we may Yea, even when we know not, mix our spites And private hates with our defence of Heaven.
Alfred Lord Tennyson
#48. I agree that a lot of mainstream corporate sold hip-hop is self-hating.
Bakari Kitwana
#49. The more I lived with Jan, the more I loved her, the more I made her miserable. It was a vicious cycle (page 209) ... ... The more I loved her the more I hated her. And the more she loved me, the more I harmed myself (page 269).
Marvin Gaye
#50. This thing about looking for someone less different ... It only really worked, he realized, if you were convinced that being you wasn't so bad in the first place.
Nick Hornby
#51. I hate you, I thought, I hate you with your bloody nature-boy airs and your bloody forced-march voyage of bloody discovery. I wondered then if Finn's personality worked on everyone, or whether I had just the the right sort of mentality to fall in step with a self-centered hermit-boy crab murderer.
Meg Rosoff
#52. The function of hate, as Sarai saw it, was to stamp out compassion - to close a door in one's own self and forget it was ever there. If you had hate, then you could see suffering - and cause it - and feel nothing except perhaps a sordid vindication.
Laini Taylor
#53. We never get to love by hate, least of all by self-hatred.
Basil W. Maturin
#54. I will teach you to love death. I will empty you of grief and guilt and self-pity and fill you up with hate and cunning and the spirit of vengeance. I will make my final stand here, Benjamin Thomas Parish.
Rick Yancey
#55. Hate is self-inflicted torture. It hungers for revenge, damage, division, and violence, but is never satiated. Hate is a psychological hell to which we condemn ourselves and endeavor to burn others.
Steve Maraboli
#56. I see ... the way you're always searching. How much you hate anything fake or phony. How you're older than your years, but still ... playful, like a little girl. How you're always looking into people, or wondering what they see when they look back at you. Your eyes. It's all in the eyes.
Claudia Gray
#57. To read your own mind is to look at your self and read your soul. Hatred becomes love and that is the path I am working on
Richard Gere
#58. Every improv must be song specific. It has to grow organically out of the particular elements involved or it's just glib self-expression. I hate when I feel like I'm the lead guitarist in a rock band. We all gotta be going somewhere strong together, you know?
David First
#59. People love as self-recognition what they hate as an accusation.
Elias Canetti
#61. Marie Calloway has a very specific literary personality that the reader is intrigued by: she's masochistic, loves to experiment, is quickly bored and intermittently self-hating, very hip, rebellious. Figuring her out is a gripping adventure.
Edmund White
#62. I think the hardest thing in life is to forgive. Hate is self destructive. If you hate somebody, you're not hurting the person you hate, you're hurting yourself. It's a healing, actually, it's a real healing ... forgiveness.
Louis Zamperini
#63. The real primary diseases of man are such defects as pride, cruelty, hate, self- love, ignorance, instability and greed; and each of these, if considered, will be found to be adverse to Unity.
Edward Bach
#64. The individual is taught that there is nothing that he as a total person is to feel ashamed of or self-hating for.
Albert Ellis
#65. Hungry Hatred, will not strive against intelligence self-interest.
T. S. Eliot
#66. Explain it to me. God says he loves me but dumps me into a world of pain. You, so full of hate, so ignorant, he leaves alone. Self-righteous bigots he doesn't even touch. Explain that to me!
Greg Bear
#67. My heart kind of hurt when I looked at her. Not because I was in love, but because I could tell from looking at her that she didn't hate herself. Not only didn't she seem to hate herself, she barely seemed to think about herself. How fucking glorious must that be?
Susan Juby
#68. That was one plus about profound self-loathing. Nobody could hate you worse than you hated yourself.
Francine Pascal
#69. We can't hate ourselves into a version of ourselves we can love.
Lori Deschene
#73. No one starts as a self-hater. But rack up all of your mistakes and take a large enough number of wrong turns in life and soon you stop trying to forgive yourself. Everywhere you look you find shame or failure staring back.
Andre Aciman
#74. Love me or hate me, i swear it won't make or break me.
Lil' Wayne
#75. People LOVE change (when it's about changing others). People HATE change (when it's about changing themselves).
Richie Norton
#76. I hate to sound self absorbed, but I'm just going to cast out this pearl of wisdom, if I could give the whole world cancer and kill them and be the last man on earth it would be a sign that god loves me especially.
Thom Yorke
#77. This is glorious!' I cried, and then i looked at the sinner by my side. He sat with his head sunk on his breast and said 'Yes', without raising his eyes, as if afraid to see writ large on the clear sky of the offing the reproach of his romantic conscience.
Joseph Conrad
#78. How often are the perpetrators of hate-crimes discovered to be self-loathing? Valued individuals do not strike out against strangers.
Harvey Fierstein
#79. Hating yourself is like hating the sun. No matter how much you complain of it agitating your eyes, its brilliance shines on.
Curtis Tyrone Jones
#80. Often we hate in others the thing which we fear in ourselves; or we hate because the other person raises to our consciousness some fault or inadequacy which we would prefer to have remain unconscious, and therefore without power to disturb our self-complacency.
Frances G. Wickes
#81. I have this self-conscious inclination to just say "anyone who hates it, that's cool that's fine!"
Philip Morrison
#82. I hate self-publishing; it's a real drag and it takes up a lot of space.
David Rees
#83. How does one kill fear, I wonder? How do you shoot a spectre through the heart, slash off its spectral head, take it by its spectral throat?
Joseph Conrad
#84. You know, I hate to sound self-involved, but I feel like I haven't peaked yet.
Q-Tip
#85. By despising all that has preceded us, we teach others to despise ourselves.
William Hazlitt
#86. Self-governance does not mean no one is responsible. It means everyone is.
Heather Marsh
#87. Self-forgiveness comes when we realize that if God has forgiven us, we needn't remain angry with ourselves, needn't hate ourselves any longer. God will use it all for good.
Robert Morgan
#88. A sight to touch e'en hatred's self with pity.
Sophocles
#89. It took many years of vomiting up all the filth I'd been taught about myself, and half-believed, before I was able to walk on the earth as though I had a right to be here.
James Baldwin
#90. We held certain truths to be self-evident, but those truths were that elves hate orcs and wizards can't wear metal armor.
Austin Grossman
#93. What do we call love, hate, charity, revenge, humanity, forgiveness? Different results of the master impulse, the necessity of securing one's self-approval.
Mark Twain
#94. Look, I could go on and on and on telling you why I hate myself, but it's so self-centered ... and I'm not like that. I'm a giver. So I'd rather branch out and start giving it to everyone else.
Joan Rivers
#95. Ostracism makes individuals feel they lack purpose, have less control over their lives, are less good moral beings, and lack self-worth. Those high school cliques aren't uniquely adolescent experiences: Human beings hate being left out. We conform because to do so seems to give our life meaning.
Anonymous
#96. Yea I may come across as blunt, but I will say the truth even if its bitter, that's just me. You either hate me for it or respect me for it.
Tilicia Haridat
#97. I don't hate myself, as a general rule. I'd say the best way to describe it is that I have moments of self-loathing at fairly regular intervals.
Janeane Garofalo
#98. It is foolishness to want what never was or will never will be, lament the passage of time, and live in fearfulness of an uncertain future. The moods generated by regret including depression and self-loathing congeal in our sentient consciousness creating the painful landscape of the self.
Kilroy J. Oldster
#99. He who laughs does not believe in what he laughs at, but neither does he hate it. Therefore, laughing at evil means not preparing oneself to combat it, and laughing at good means denying the power through which good is self-propagating.
Umberto Eco
#100. I've been depressed all day. I feel like such a fraud. People say how special and wonderful I am. I think,
"Can't they tell? "
- Nita, September 18, 1984
Sarah E. Olson
