Top 88 Quotes About Self Blame
#1. Replace fear of your own inner experience with a curious, gentle, welcoming attitude - free of judgment, self-blame, and aversion.
Melanie Greenberg
#2. Being late was a special kind of modern suffering, with blended elements of rising tension, self-blame, self-pity, misanthropy, and a yearning for what could not be had outside theoretical physics: time reversal.
Ian McEwan
#3. If you are passed out drunk or if there is a gun to your head, it is the same crime. It is a crime where there is not consent. It is a felony. And we need to start making sure victims understand that, so they don't do the self blame.
Claire McCaskill
#4. Self-blame is usually a way of avoiding something more hideous anyway, something you're willing to be punished for but unwilling to change, or even something terrible in the imperfect structure of the universe.
Lewis Nordan
#5. Compassion Judgment Loving-Kindness Compassion Is A Force Disconnection Self-Blame and Compassion Praise and Blame
Sharon Salzberg
#6. What I do most days matters more than what I do once in a while. That kind of self-encouragement is a greater safeguard than self-blame.
Gretchen Rubin
#7. Self-blame usually has an undertone of self-congratulation.
Mason Cooley
#8. Was it me? Was I too cold? Too inexperienced? Not pretty enough? Not good enough in bed? And when disloyal, seed-sowing scum buckets slept with other girls, why did women look inward to find fault in themselves?
Tarryn Fisher
#9. Those proficient praise no one, blame no one, and accuse no one. They say nothing concerning their self as being anybody or knowing anything.
Epictetus
#10. Whatever pretended causes we may blame our afflictions upon, it is often nothing but self-interest and vanity that produce them.
Francois De La Rochefoucauld
#11. You ask me, I welcome new gods. Bring them on. The god of the guns. The god of bombs. All the gods of ignorance and intolerance, of self-righteousness, idiocy and blame.
Neil Gaiman
#12. Self-love makes us deceive ourselves in almost all matters, to censure others, and to blame them for the same faults that we do not correct in ourselves; we do this either because we are unaware of the evil that exists within us, or because we always see our own evil disguised as a good.
Madeleine De Souvre, Marquise De ...
#13. There is nothing spiritual about a marriage that uses guilt, blame, shame or religious manipulations to keep a relationship together.
Shannon L. Alder
#14. Dress your best on your execution day. Be extremely courteous to your assistant when you lose money. Try not to blame others for your fate, even if they deserve blame. Never exhibit any self-pity. Do not complain.
Nassim Nicholas Taleb
#15. Anger, regret, resentment, blame, worry, and guilt all lead to one place: fear. Don't let that fear stand in the way of recognizing your true worth.
Charles F. Glassman
#16. 12 Things To Ditch For A Great Day
Blame
Guilt
Worry
Regret
Resentment
Entitlement
Self-pity
Laziness
Negative attitude
Fear of embarrassment
Urge to one-up others
Your comfort zone
Charles F. Glassman
#17. For his sake, I'm glad he disappeared. I don't blame him. I know it was an act of self-preservation.
Hannah Hart
#18. Self-abuse is shockingly common, especially among people who have been conditioned to believe that they are to blame when things go wrong.
Anna J. Michener
#19. If we are able to take responsibility for our own mind, then we can work with whatever life throws at us without resentment or blame, and with the curiosity and self-care that are necessary for mindfulness to develop in all aspects of life. On this basis, we can also help others.
Ethan Nichtern
#20. There is a luxury in self-reproach. When we blame ourselves we feel no one else has a right to blame us.
Oscar Wilde
#21. Newspapers and their editors have to become as accountable as the rest of us - they are not 'a special case,' and they have only themselves to blame for having lost the argument for 'exceptionalism' - and with it the right to 'self-regulation.'
David Puttnam
#22. He who don't understand the real essence of critics and oppositions in the journey of life criticizes and opposes himself, knowingly or unknowingly, in his journey of life.
Ernest Agyemang Yeboah
#23. The only people we want to blame are ourselves, because it will be ourselves that we rely upon.
Markus Zusak
#24. I don't know if it's entirely fair to blame [Dennis Wilson] early death and complete self-destruction on his involvement with Charles Manson, but it was certainly a factor. It affected him psychologically and emotionally.
Karina Longworth
#25. If you were not full of self-pity you would soon observe that we ourselves are to blame for all this evil, because we refuse to understand that it is in reality a good thing.
Tito Colliander
#26. He covered page after page with wild words of sorrow and wilder words of pain. There is a luxury in self-reproach. When we blame ourselves, we feel that no one else has a right to blame us. It is the confession, not the priest, that gives us absolution.
Oscar Wilde
#27. (N)ever apportion blame. How can there be opponents or rivals or even "others" when there is no "self" in the first place?
Elif Shafak
#28. We [americans] self-regulate ourselves, we self-censor ourselves a lot in this country instead of having someone else censor us so we can blame them. That's not good, either.
Serj Tankian
#29. If we fall, we don't need self-recrimination or blame or anger - we need a reawakening of our intention and a willingness to re-commit, to be whole-hearted once again.
Sharon Salzberg
#30. Let the spirit out - Discard all thoughts of reward, all hopes of praise and fears of blame, all awareness of one's bodily self. And, finally closing the avenues of sense perception, let the spirit out, as it will.
Bruce Lee
#31. I reckon that blaming people fixes nothing. You're the only person who is going to sort you out. No-one else really can - or really cares, enough. That's what Nepalis know - better than anyone. That's our Western disease. Don't take responsibility. Take on a lawyer!
Jane Wilson-Howarth
#32. I do not understand it. I would not have believed that such things could happen on our farm. It must be due to some fault in ourselves. The solution, as I see it, is to work harder. From now onwards I shall get up a full hour earlier in the mornings.
George Orwell
#33. I'd never blame anyone else who falls for the same brand of seduction. I embrace that we're all similarly flawed. That makes the self-inflicted wounds hurt less. I'd read Tennessee Williams. I just didn't expect to be living my own tainted little version of Suddenly Last Summer.
Dan Skinner
#34. You have to let it go. You can hold on to the hate and the love and even the bitterness, but you have to go of the blame. The blame is what's tearing you down, babe. -Sky
Colleen Hoover
#35. Give up all self, all egotisms get out of anger, lust, give all to God. "I am not, but Thou art; the old man is all gone, only Thou remainest." "I am Thou." Blame none; if evil comes, know the Lord is playing with you and be exceeding glad.
Swami Vivekananda
#36. If others surpass you in knowledge, in charm, in strength, in fortune, you have other causes to blame for it; but if you yield tothem in stoutness of heart you have only yourself to blame.
Michel De Montaigne
#37. There was a day when I died; died to self, my opinions, preferences, tastes and will; died to the world, its approval or censure; died to the approval or blame even of my brethren or friends; and since then I have studied only to show myself approved unto God.
George Muller
#38. Sat in groups together purging ourselves, theoretically, of anger and self-hatred. We learned not to turn on ourselves. We learned to blame.
Gillian Flynn
#39. The best day of your life is the one on which you decide your life is your own. No apologies or excuses. No one to lean on, rely on, or blame. The gift is yours - it is an amazing journey - and you alone are responsible for the quality of it. This is the day your life really begins.
Bob Moawad
#40. She could not distinguish between contrition and self-abasement; between acknowledgment and blame.
Stephen R. Donaldson
#41. Do not blame your parents for not working hard enough to birth you with silver spoon in your mouth because tomorrow you will be a parent and your children will in turn blame you for not giving birth to them with the desired silver spoon.
Jaachynma N.E. Agu
#42. The moment you blame life for who you are is that very moment you ignore your talents and inner abilities to change the world.
Jeekeshen Chinnappen
#43. The age of the self-made man was also the age of the broken man... This 'American sense' looked upon failure as a 'moral sieve' that trapped the loafer and passed the true man through. Such ideologies fixed blame squarely on individual faults, not extenuating circumstances.
Scott A. Sandage
#44. Sometimes, I cannot control myself. Please do not blame me, its not me. Maybe it is someone who knows better about me.
Santosh Kalwar
#45. So if I were talking to a young writer, I would recommend the cultivation of extreme indifference to both praise and blame because praise will lead you to vanity, and blame will lead you to self-pity, and both are bad for writers.
John Berryman
#46. I hate when counselors and teachers blame everything on low self-esteem in teens. Some of us actually have self-esteem, believe it or not. And when we make mistakes, it's not because of a defect in our psyche. We screw up just because.
Niki Burnham
#47. Another way people with the fixed mindset try to repair their self-esteem after a failure is by assigning blame or making excuses.
Carol S. Dweck
#48. Energetic cords are unconscious - often sentimental or compulsive - emotional ties to past and present relationships, pre-conditioned by our wounds. They are made of toxic emotions such fear, guilt, blame, hatred, obligation, grasping need or pain.
Avril Carruthers
#49. Blame is such a self-defeating choice. It renders one helpless, putting any solution well out of reach, for we rarely can change others. Consider this, a solution well within your reach, someone you can surely change: Yourself.
Russell Kyle
#50. Help, I have done it again I have been here many times before Hurt myself again today And the worst part is There's no-one else to blame.
Sia Furler
#51. Resiliency is the body's internal response to a stressful situation.
Asa Don Brown
#52. The thing is, we have to let go of all blame, all attacking, all judging, to free our inner selves to attract what we say we want. Until we do, we are hamsters in a cage chasing our own tails and wondering why we aren't getting the results we seek.
Joe Vitale
#53. We can struggle with what is. We can judge and blame others or ourselves. Or we can accept what cannot be changed. Peace comes from an honorable and open heart accepting what is true. Do we want to remain stuck? Or to release the fearful sense of self and rest kindly where we are?
Jack Kornfield
#54. While it is easy to blame the hand of the abuser, when that hand no longer is raised against you, why do you continue to feel the burn of its touch?
Deborah Brodie
#55. In life, you can blame a lot of people and you can wallow in self-pity, or you can pick yourself up and say, 'Listen, I have to be responsible for myself.'
Howard Schultz
#56. We alays blame the outer world for our failures, unhappiness and frustration. It is time to realise that it is health, harmony and wealth of our inner world that determine the degree of our success, joy, peace and bliss.
Vishwas Chavan
#57. Quiet that self-sabotaging inner voice that lays blame anywhere besides at the altar of your feet. We are responsible for the quality of our lives.
Toni Sorenson
#58. In order to truly forgive oneself, one must either explicitly or implicitly acknowledge that one's behavior was wrong and accept responsibility or blame for such behavior. Without these elements, self-forgiveness is irrelevant and pseudo self-forgiveness becomes likely.
Desmond Tutu
#60. Who is to blame for this most recent of sports disgraces in America? The culture that flings young athletes like Tyson up out of obscurity, makes millionaires of them and watches them self-destruct?
Joyce Carol Oates
#61. We are taught you must blame your father, your sisters, your brothers, the school, the teachers - but never blame yourself. It's never your fault. But it's always your fault, because if you wanted to change you're the one who has got to change.
Katharine Hepburn
#62. Continuing to play the victim is a self-fulfilling prophecy. Blaming others for your station in life will indeed make you a victim but the perpetrator will be your own self, not life or those around you.
Bobby Darnell
#63. The most disturbing and wasteful emotions in modern life, next to fright, are those which are associated with the idea of blame, directed against the self or against others.
Marilyn Ferguson
#64. This focusing outward ... painful as it was, saved her from a more intolerable examination.
M.L. Stedman
#65. This, the guilt, will be the hardest part for Galen. He already takes responsibility for so much that isn't his fault. He will somehow blame himself for Rachel's death. He will fall into a spiral of remorse, into a self-made pit of regret.
And I silently promise him to catch him when he does.
Anna Banks
#66. Until you stop blaming and become positively self-critical you are not going to move forward.
Bryant McGill
#68. The Chinese mom is not the helicopter mom. I would never do their homework for them. It's all about: Take responsibility, don't blame others. Be self-reliant. Never blame the teacher.
Amy Chua
#69. I love Twitter. It doesn't keep me from writing and I think it's a really convenient scapegoat when the truth is that the real issue is self-control. I am totally fine admitting i have none. I'm not going to blame Twitter for affecting my writing. And also, Twitter doesn't affect my writing.
Roxane Gay
#70. Blame is a human concept, one of its blackest and most selfish and self-binding.
Patrick Ness
#71. No Blame: The most liberating and empowering day of my life was the day I freed myself from my own self-destructive nonsense.
Steve Maraboli
#72. When true self-remembering comes, one does not want to alter oneself, or others; one somehow rises above their weaknesses and one's own. There can be no blame anywhere. One swallows what is, and becomes free.
Rodney Collin
#73. Perfectionism is a self destructive and addictive belief system that fuels this primary thought: If I look perfect, and do everything perfectly, I can avoid or minimize the painful feelings of shame, judgment, and blame.
Brene Brown
#74. Self-pity is a weakness. I don't blame them or anybody for not having a normal life. Life isn't easy for anyone.
Greg Aunapu
#75. It is the part of an uneducated person to blame others where he himself fares ill; to blame himself is the part of one whose education has begun; to blame neither another nor his own self is the part of one whose education is already complete.
Epictetus
#76. Naive people always trying to blame others for their constant heartbreak & failed relationships instead of looking in the mirror & re-evaluating themselves. It's YOU that needs to change.
David Reeves
#77. The undisciplined mind confuses misfortune with mistakes.
Mark Caney
#78. All of the things that have happened in my life have been self-propelled. I can't blame anybody else or point a finger at anybody.
Shia Labeouf
#79. Like David we have a number of self-destructive options we use to avoid repenting and admitting sin. I'll list them and let you come up with personal examples for each: deny, avoid, blame shift, rationalize, and give excuses. If you can't think of how you've used these, you may be stuck in denial!
James MacDonald
#80. Why do people, when they are wrong, twist the conversation around and place the blame on someone else?
Hilary Grossman
#81. In a situation of occupation or domination, the occupier, the dominant power, has to justify what it's doing. There is only one way to do it - become a racist. You have to blame the victim. Once you become a raving racist in self-defense, you've lost your capacity to understand what's happening.
Noam Chomsky
#82. At night when you're asleep, self-hatred's going to creep in. And you can blame it on the devil, the one who's bed you sleep in.
Ani DiFranco
#83. Self-judgment clouds our mind with inescapable indictments.
Balroop Singh
#84. If you mess something up, remember who got you there. Don't be pointing fingers, even if finger-pointing is called for. Only one you got to blame is your own self.
Bernie Mac
#85. A responsible person accepts the results of his choices, attributing blame or praise to himself; that is what makes you happy with the way you turned out.
Innocent Mwatsikesimbe
#86. Blaming other people inevitably makes us blame ourselves because if we are pointing the finger at someone, practically, we are pointing it at ourselves as well.
Stephen Richards
#87. Suffering shapes the life force, sometimes into anger, sometimes into blame and self-pity. Eventually it may show us the wisdom of embracing and loving life.
Rachel Naomi Remen
#88. Blame doesn't empower you. It keeps you stuck in a place you don't want to be because you don't want to make the temporary, but painful decision, to be responsible for the outcome of your own life's happiness.
Shannon L. Alder
