Top 27 Kate Bolick Quotes
#1. The idea of love seemed an invasion," she wrote. "I had thoughts to think, a craft to learn, a self to discover. Solitude was a gift. A world was waiting to welcome me if I was willing to enter it alone.
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#2. Few realizations are as demoralizing as knowing that the only thing standing between you and what you want is yourself,
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#3. But the knowing was visceral: if I became a mother, I'd lose myself.
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#4. I hadn't learned to decipher the mysterious ways of the undermind, How occasionally it erupts into an avalanche of clarity, a sheet of snow shearing off the roof and thundering to the ground, leaving the shingles exposed, knowledge issuing a messenger to announce its arrival.
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#5. When you find yourself at yet another crossroads, sorting out your best next step, it's as useful to know what you don't want as what you do.
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#6. our first experiences of pleasurable solitude teach us how to be content by ourselves and shape the conditions in which we seek it.
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#7. If you are lucky, home is not only a place that you leave, but also a place where you someday arrive.
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#8. Coupling, I realized, can encourage a fairly static way of being, with each partner exaggerating or repressing certain qualities in relation to the other's.
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#9. I've always considered myself to be similar. I'm no recluse, but, like an introvert, I need a lot of time alone to reflect and recharge, and I am easily drained by being around others, but at the same time, like an extrovert, I'm energized by parties and conversation.
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#10. (In 2006, social psychologist Bella DePaulo, PhD, coined the word singlism to mean "the stereotyping, stigmatizing, and discrimination against people who are single.")
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#11. When the present feels as endless as an impossibly long hallway between airport terminals, white and sterile and numb, we're particularly receptive to signs.
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#12. She'd raised me in her image to be the one true friend she'd never had, and now neither of us would ever know the conversations we'd waited for all our lives.
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#13. Key to women's ascent was the typewriter. Invented in 1867 in Milwaukee, Wisconsin, the original model was decorated with floral decals and mounted on a treadle table, like a sewing machine; promoters proclaimed it perfect for a woman's "nimble fingers.
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#14. Each of us is a museum that opens for business the moment we're born, with memory the sole curator. How could a staff of one possibly stay abreast of all those holdings?
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#15. I never shall be an old maid, because I have elected to be a Girl Bachelor.
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#16. Today we tell girls to grow up to be or do whatever they want. But the cultural pressure to become a mother remains very strong; rare is she who doesn't at least occasionally succumb to the nagging fear that if she remains childless, she'll live to regret it.
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#17. The overall number of single women in America starts at a high of 34 percent in 1890, slides down one percent per decade, all the way to the bottom point of the V - 17 percent in 1960 - and then climbs back up and up, 2 percent per decade, to 53 percent in 2013.
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#18. If a woman liked to play with words and set them in patterns and make pictures with them, and was taking care of herself and bothering nobody, and enjoyed her life without a lot of bawling children around, why shouldn't she?
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#19. I suspected (and still do) that I would love being a mother...
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#20. my mother died unexpectedly, and in the months that followed I'd been gutted to discover that without our conversations, which I'd always assumed would be there for the having, I had absolutely no idea how to make sense of myself.
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#21. Those of us who've bypassed the exits for marriage and children tend to motor through our thirties like unlicensed drivers, unauthorized grownups.
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#22. She loved so many things - cats, dogs, roses, people - that sometimes I wonder if she chose to be alone to best enjoy them all.
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#23. Didn't she remember that being single is more than just following your whims - that it also means having nobody to help you make difficult decisions, or comfort you at the end of a bad week?
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#24. Isn't that how falling in love so often works? Some stranger appears out of nowhere and becomes a fixed star in your universe.
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#25. Over the years I've noticed that only men use this phrase - "unlucky in love" - in reference exclusively to unmarried women, as if they can't possibly comprehend that contentment or even happiness is possible without the centrality of a man.
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#26. including Edna Millay, there were five such women: essayist Maeve Brennan, columnist Neith Boyce, novelist Edith Wharton, and social visionary Charlotte Perkins Gilman.
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#27. She never talked about wanting to have children. I believe she wanted solitude and cats.
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