Survivors Of Sexual Abuse Quotes

#1. Uniforms are intended to make the wearer look as strong as possible. Soldiers could fight in leotards, but that's never going to happen because leotards aren't intimidating.

Erin McKean

#2. Maternal absence, in one form or another, is always found in the background of the incest romance. Womens literature on incest generally treats the theme of maternal absence tragically. Mens literature trivializes it or treats it comically. And clinical literature tends to treat it judgmentally.

Judith Lewis Herman

#3. I thought when the abuse stopped I could move on with my life. Instead I am still running from Brian. The only difference is now I am running from him in my dreams.

Erin Merryn

#4. ...there is a particular focus of the problem faced only by men. It arises from our culture providing no room for a man as victim.

Mike Lew

#5. As part of the healing process, change your perception of yourself from "victim" to that of "advocate" and "survivor.

Don Easton

#6. Incest is almost always a devastating experience for
the victim.

Susan Forward

#7. Jobs have to be created on the ground, one at a time. This requires detailed plans and specific policies.

Stephen Pagliuca

#8. Most of our informants [incest survivors] remembered their mothers as weak and powerless, finding their only dignity in martyrdom.

Judith Lewis Herman

#9. Healing isn't just about pain. It's about learning to love yourself. As you move from feeling like a victim to being a proud survivor, you will have glimmers of hope, pride and satisfaction. Those are natural by-products of healing.

Ellen Bass

#10. Red Lake must be his Rubicon. Either he must enter the unknown to seek, to strive, to find, or turn back and fail and never know and be always haunted.

Zane Grey

#11. Coming to terms with incest is not easy. Learning to be a survivor, not a victim, gives new meaning to life

Lynette Gould

#12. When we first begin to take power more directly, after long having kept our relationship to it underground...it is natural that we experience anxiety, even guilt, at putting ourselves first. These feeling let us know we are taking action; they do not need to stop us.

Maureen Brady

#13. People may not realize the damage that they are doing by placing the blame on the victim ~ but that doesn't lessen the damage that they cause by doing it.

Darlene Ouimet

#14. I blinked, pushing myself up into a sitting position. I felt less like a truck had run over me and then backed up to make sure the job was done properly. Now it felt as if the truck had hit me only once.

Alyxandra Harvey

#15. If formality and courtesy take over the feelings . . . how silly and meaningless these things could become. And despite all this, I still take part in it!

Fumio Obata

#16. I'm left with Haymitch in the rubble, wondering if Finnick's fate would have one day been mine. Why not? Snow could have gotten a really good price for the girl on fire.

Suzanne Collins

#17. Prejudice is a product of ignorance that hides behind barriers of tradition.

Jasper Fforde

#18. During sexual abuse, children feel and incorporate the rage, pain, shame, and sense of perversion that the perpetrator is projecting. They take these feelings into the very core of themselves, and they are badly traumatized by the emotions surrounding the assault, as well as by the assault itself.

Renee Fredrickson

#19. That's the classic nature of people, though. We'll skip the basics and get pissed when the sexy stuff doesn't work.

Martyn Rooney

#20. I sometimes continue to see myself in split ways; it causes me trouble and contributes to a lack of satisfaction with myself.

Maureen Brady

#21. Many survivors insist they're not courageous: 'If I were courageous I would have stopped the abuse.' 'If I were courageous, I wouldn't be scared'... Most of us have it mixed up. You don't start with courage and then face fear. You become courageous because you face your fear.

Laura Davis

#22. Always know there are friends somewhere rooting for you. There are people you don't know, always praying for you and lifting you before God. - Jenee, from "To the Survivors".

Robert Uttaro

#23. I am filled with truth at my center where I once held shame.

Maureen Brady

#24. If I were free, as a physician, to say what I pleased, I would tell every abused person I see that there is an entire world out there that is nothing like the one you're living. Go discover it.

C. Kennedy

#25. When we play an unaccompanied Bach suite we may compare ourselves to an actor in Shakespeare's day, creating scenery which did not exist at all, through the power of declamation and suggestion. So in Bach. There is but one voice
and many voices have to be suggested.

Pablo Casals

#26. I look upon the gift of my life as a wondrous journey.

Maureen Brady

#27. Don't judge yourself by what others did to you.

C. Kennedy

#28. As we get older, our fears, in some way, sharpen and become more personal, because we can no longer - let's say take a book like "It" or maybe "Christine," and say these are make-believe fears.

Stephen King

#29. My mom called Grandma today and told her we would no longer be attending family parties. My mom told her we have had enough of being blamed for something Brian did and everyone brushing it off like it was no big deal.

Erin Merryn

#30. Your billion-dollar ideas don't show up in the middle of dramatic distraction. They show up when you have the business and personal discipline to make space for your creative mind to flourish.

Robin S. Sharma

#31. Abuse is a parasite that feeds off hate and shame, growing in size and strength with silence.

Nikki Sex

#32. Sexual abuse injects poisonous lies into its victims' hearts and minds. "You're not worthy" is one of them.

Carolyn Byers Ruch

#33. Metaphor lives a secret life all around us. We utter about six metaphors a minute.

James Geary

#34. By opening the door to my life, it is my hope and mission to shed light on the hidden wounds of abuse, to end the stigma and shame associated with abuse, and to show survivors true courage, strength, inspiration, and determination.

Erin Merryn

#35. Fearing the unknown within myself has kept me crouching in a corner. I look to see who I am and discover much that is worthy.

Maureen Brady

#36. Ever since I became NATO Secretary General, I have emphasised the need for enhanced political dialogue among the Allies. And I am glad that, over the last few years, we've had more regular, and increasingly constructive, political discussions in NATO on a wider range of issues.

Jaap De Hoop Scheffer

#37. The most important thing we stressed is that we want those kids to be productive citizens.

Troy Vincent

#38. The birthday of the Lord is the birthday of peace.

Pope Leo I

#39. You're too sensitive' victims of sexual abuse are told over and over by those whose reality depends on being insensitive. Most adults who have been in the victim role cringe when anyone tells them they are sensitive. In fact, sensitivity is a lovely trait and one to be cherished in any human being.

Renee Fredrickson