Self Abuse Quotes

#1. This was misery that could not yield, for he sorrowed for a time he could not return to, and a self he would never again be.

Robin Hobb

#2. Gestalt means whole, and so are you.

Jan Deelstra

#3. The minute we put aside our self-righteousness and move away from being the aggrieved, then we are on a healing process.

Stephen Richards

#4. What subsists to-day by violence continues to-morrow by acquiescence and is perpetuated by tradition; till at last the hoary abuse shakes the gray hairs of antiquity at us, and gives it-self out as the wisdom of ages.

Edward Everett

#5. A wonderful pastor I know once told me, "Perfectionism is the highest order of self-abuse." So now I try to remind myself that if I engage in perfectionism, I am abusing myself. Period.

Ashley Judd

#6. If we studied the issue of forgiveness with a wider perspective, we are bound to opt for it after all.

Stephen Richards

#7. The melon of Castile is for self abuse. The melon of Valencia for eating.

Ernest Hemingway,

#8. There are a lot of bands using self-abuse as a marketing gimmick.

Bruce Dickinson

#9. The moment we see beyond our personal desires to be felt sympathy for, that is the time we can actually start the journey to that final destination of true forgiveness.

Stephen Richards

#10. If there ever was someone who had a control over you, someone who could cause you the greatest pain, someone who could ignore your most necessary requirements and someone for whom forgiveness were truly difficult to render, that person is none other than YOU.

Stephen Richards

#11. When you forgive, you immerse yourself in healing waters.

Stephen Richards

#12. The true self is that which is in touch with reality.
The false self is the aspects of your personality that are adapted to threats and no longer consciously recognizes either the adaptation or the threat.

Stefan Molyneux

#13. Self-sacrifice is one of a woman's seven deadly sins (along with self-abuse, self-loathing, self-deception, self-pity, self-serving, and self-immolation).

Sarah Ban Breathnach

#14. You may experience waves of disbelief after each memory you retrieve. Whether as a phase or waves, the disbelief is usually accompanied by massive self-hate and guilt. 'How can I even think such a thing? I must really be warped,' you tell yourself.

Renee Fredrickson

#15. The purpose of forgiveness is not to make sure that someone ends up changing into what you expect them to be, as this is dominance. The purpose is actually to make your own life better, more worthy and less stressful. Forgiveness reduces the hold that the wrongdoer has over you and empowers you.

Stephen Richards

#16. Empowerment is something that happens throughout your healing, as courage and success in facing your memories build your self-esteem. Some of the strengths you get from taking on your buried memories does not show up in your life until long after the resolution has been achieved.

Renee Fredrickson

#17. The only thing that will make us remain glued to being the victim is our failure to handle the emotions that we go through and the pain that overcomes us.

Stephen Richards

#18. The heart is where the journey of forgiveness begins.

Stephen Richards

#19. In an unforgiving world, chaos rules.

Stephen Richards

#20. My philosophy is, "murder the rapist in your mind so you stop killing yourself." I've seen, in my lifetime, that sexual abuse has turned into self-abuse. When I kill the rapist inside of me, I will stop killing myself.

Margaret Cho

#21. The only part of you that hurts when you're given the truth is the part that lives on lies.

Stefan Molyneux

#22. If I were free, as a physician, to say what I pleased, I would tell every abused person I see that there is an entire world out there that is nothing like the one you're living. Go discover it.

C. Kennedy

#23. From beginning to end, all this phony relationship can offer you is a toxic combination of fake love and real abuse. He constructs the psychopathic bond through deception and manipulation. You maintain it through self-sacrifice and denial.

Claudia Moscovici

#24. When we teach people that suspending moral judgments is a virtue, the necessary outcome is moral horror.

Peter Boghossian

#25. The right of self defense never ceases. It is among the most sacred, and alike necessary to nations and to individuals, and whether the attack be made by Spain herself or by those who abuse her power, its obligation is not the less strong.

James Monroe

#26. That as long as I kept them apart, love would be sexless and sex loveless, endlessly repeating its cycle of self-denial and self-abuse.

Paul Monette

#27. The Strandbeest is a self-replicating meme, a brain virus. It infects the student's brain. In fact, the Strandbeest abuse students for their reproduction. For two years, this reproduction fell into a flow acceleration. Now, 3D printers produce walking mini Strandbeests.

Theo Jansen

#28. When you start becoming really successful, the demons start to tempt you - the demons of vanity and self importance, drug abuse, the feelings of fraudulence. But, it's also a thrill. That's what I found weird.

Ethan Hawke

#29. The pain you have gone through will give you the strength of character to come through it all, so long as you learn from what you have suffered then it was not suffering at all.

Stephen Richards

#30. The quiet but inexorable breaking down of self-esteem is much more sinister - it's violation of the soul.

Rachel Abbott

#31. I wrote when I was a young teen, but I didn't put an eye on the available markets until I was seventeen. The next ten years felt like a self-centered experiment in personal abuse.

Robert Reed

#32. How much maltreatment and exploitation could someone handle before losing self-control?

Mary Kubica

#33. I am here for readers to see parts of themselves during my dark days, but also for a better way of living in my triumphs and gained wisdom.

Theia Mey

#34. Can we get control of an individual to the point where he will do our bidding against his will and even against fundamental laws of nature such as self preservation? (CIA Document, Project ARTICHOKE, MORI ID 144686, 1952)
As cited by Dr Ellen P. Lacter, p57

Orit Badouk Epstein

#35. Do not allow yourself to be pulled into the role of embracing victimship as some sort of badge of honor to wear or flash around at any opportunity.

Stephen Richards

#36. The true patriot is motivated by a sense of responsibility and out of self interest for himself, his family, and the future of his country to resist government abuse of power. He rejects the notion that patriotism means obedience to the state.

Ron Paul

#37. Incidentally, why is it that drug abuse is always described as an 'experiment', as if some important scientific enterprise were at stake instead of hedonistic self-indulgence?

Roger Kimball

#38. In the process of forgiveness, you can only control your own actions and decisions.

Stephen Richards

#39. Assuming you are still lost in thought about when exactly you should forgive someone, well the time is NOW.

Stephen Richards

#40. Self-expression is always a right, but it's still not there to be abused.

Isaac Hayes

#41. When you forgive, you are freed from some of the feelings of disapproval and it can contribute to lessening your negative thoughts.

Stephen Richards

#42. There are many types of emotional abuse but most is done in an attempt to control or subjugate another person. Emotional abuse is like brainwashing in that it systematically wears away at the victim's self-confidence, sense of self, trust in her perceptions and self-concept.

Beverly Engel

#43. Distancing yourself from some painful event is probably the ignition for the process of forgiveness.

Stephen Richards

#44. Perfectionism is self-abuse of the highest order.

Anne Wilson Schaef

#45. The idea of always wanting to be the victim in circumstances where you have been offended is a common human trait. Each person wants to be viewed as the aggrieved party.

Stephen Richards

#46. Forgiveness does carry with it numerous obstacles and one may well be surprised why many people find it a very difficult hurdle to jump over.

Stephen Richards

#47. The real form of abuse is not a physical torture; it's mismanagement of purpose by misunderstanding God!

Israelmore Ayivor

#48. The practice of forgiving is a sequential practice that begins with excusing someone.

Stephen Richards

#49. The world is full of victims; don't add to the growing culture of "I've a story to tell", well not unless it's a story to help others overcome situations or as a warning.

Stephen Richards

#50. I think people who come from abuse and/or people who have mental illnesses, have terrible self-esteem problems.

Sinead O'Connor

#51. Almost all people suffer some form of intense inner pain at some times in their lives. The suffering might be depression, anxiety, substance abuse, or suicidal thoughts and it results from the battles we wage against our thoughts as we futilely try to get rid of our historie.

Steven C. Hayes

#52. Dad was thirsty, not given to great displays of affection, like his father and his father's father before him. A long line of self-indulgent men who couldn't give love but lived to take it, which isn't the same as receiving it. They were all in so much pain and that's always the perfect excuse.

Courtney Summers

#53. Some people stand and move as if they have no right to the space they occupy. They wonder why others often fail to treat them with respect
not realizing that they have signalled others that it is not necessary to treat them with respect.

Nathaniel Branden

#54. Do the forgiveness and carry on going forward. Leave the worrying to the other person. Eat what is on your plate and leave the rest to them.

Stephen Richards

#55. Blaming other people inevitably makes us blame ourselves because if we are pointing the finger at someone, practically, we are pointing it at ourselves as well.

Stephen Richards

#56. Sexual abuse injects poisonous lies into its victims' hearts and minds. "You're not worthy" is one of them.

Carolyn Byers Ruch

#57. As human beings, we are custom made to be happy. Why then would we want to change the order of things by not being happy?

Stephen Richards

#58. But somewhere within each of us, buried at varying depths depending on the age and degree of neglect or abuse, shame or coercion we endured, there is a resistant, daydreaming, rebellious, creative, unique child
a true self who is waiting.

Gloria Steinem

#59. We runners talk about having fun but I don't think anybody believes us. We talk about discipline and endurance, we take care, we exercise caution, we watch our diets and monitor our pace. We are ascetics who talk, unconvincingly, of the bracing enjoyment of self-abuse.

Peter Sagal

#60. It has long been recognized that the problems with alcohol relate not to the use of a bad thing, but to the abuse of a good thing.

Abraham Lincoln

#61. When you forgive, it does not mean that you have submitted, it simply means that you have made a choice to stop bearing any grudge.

Stephen Richards

#62. It is always a mistake to underestimate how long it takes for mankind to understand the traumas it has suffered, especially the self-inflicted ones.

A.C. Grayling

#63. Quit pretending to be humble when you are really just a self-abusing, emotional, drama junkie.

Bryant McGill

#64. Men should do their actual living and working in communities small enough to permit of genuine self-government and the assumption of personal responsibilities, federated into larger units in such a way that the temptation to abuse great power should not arise.

Mahatma Gandhi

#65. One's dignity may be assaulted, vandalized and cruelly mocked, but it can never be taken away unless it is surrendered.

Michael J. Fox

#66. All the resentment that lies in your heart is simply causing damage to you mostly.

Stephen Richards

#67. When you make up your mind to forgive, your happiness will almost automatically follow.

Stephen Richards

#68. The tombstone over the grave of the conscience always reads: "Human Nature".

Stefan Molyneux

#69. The purpose of the false self is to defend against pain - not deal with reality

Robert W. Firestone

#70. By understanding the basic impediments to forgiveness, the repercussions of failing to forgive and the fruits of forgiveness, this will lead you gently to the shoreline of a distinct new and more powerful YOU.

Stephen Richards

#71. It is strange ... the reasons one feels he doesn't deserve things.

C. Kennedy

#72. Distraction serves evil more than any other mental state.

Stefan Molyneux

#73. The world is full of double beds And most delightful maidenheads, Which being so, there's no excuse For sodomy or self-abuse.

Hilaire Belloc

#74. Forgiveness is created by the restitution of the abuser; of the wrongdoer. It is not something to be squeeeeeezed out of the victim in a further act of conscience-corrupting abuse.

Stefan Molyneux

#75. Pain can cause us to learn no end of lessons, but without resolution there can be no healing!

Stephen Richards

#76. Be kind to yourself. Remember that when you abuse yourself, you will experience the anger, regret, and apathy of the bully as well as the depression, anxiety, and insecurity of the victim. Whatever you do, be kind to yourself.

Vironika Tugaleva

#77. Scars prove that you're still here. That you can move on. Maybe missing a chunk of yourself, but here, goddamn it, surviving.

Ash Parsons

#78. Self-criticism and negative thoughts about yourself will attract people who reflect this back to you, showing critical behavior and can abuse you physically.

Hina Hashmi

#79. Most survivors are cope-aholics, people who cope with whatever is thrown at them without reliance on others. They do not seek sympathy for their pain and feel undeserving if it is offered. They are especially adverse to sympathy from others.

Renee Fredrickson

#80. We are often so convinced that we are so hurt and in pain, so much so that we opt not to forgive. Yet, as a consequence, that is what will make you weak!

Stephen Richards

#81. Not everyone who condemns masturbation can masturbate.

Mokokoma Mokhonoana

#82. In adultery, there is usually tenderness and self-sacrifice; in murder, courage; in profanation and blasphemy, a certain satanic splendour. Judas elected those offences unvisited by any virtues: abuse of confidence and informing.

Jorge Luis Borges

#83. The idea of forgiveness is a journey that requires patience. If the journey of forgiveness is well travelled, there is a chance that we are bound to change in a very helpful way.

Stephen Richards

#84. The unconscious is the true accumulation of your history.
It can be accepted or rejected but it can't fundamentally be altered.

Stefan Molyneux

#85. Indecision is a form of self-abuse - be ready to step up!

Suzanne Evans

#86. You are not, though, forgiving so as to let others off with things. You are forgiving so that you can empower yourself to get over it and become strong.

Stephen Richards

#87. He that abuses his own profession will not patiently bear with any one else who does so. And this is one of our most subtle operations of self-love. For when we abuse our own profession, we tacitly except ourselves; but when another abuses it, we are far from being certain that this is the case.

Charles Caleb Colton

#88. Forgiveness is not simply a single act, it is a full process.

Stephen Richards

#89. He was a pitiful thing. He had always been a pitiful thing. Why had she never seen that before? There was a hollow place inside her where her fear had been.

George R R Martin

#90. Selfishness is self-absorption, self-seeking behaviour that either disregards the rights and needs of others or tramples them deliberately in favour of personal gain.

Adelyn Birch

#91. It is not the the bruises on the body that hurt. It is the wounds of the heart and the scars on the mind.

Aisha Mirza

#92. Memories demand attention, and these memories will have teeth.

C. Kennedy

#93. Overly playing the role of the victim can debar you from accepting responsibility for your actions and emotions.

Stephen Richards

#94. One Decision Makes All the Difference

Kimesha Coleman

#95. Due to the need to co-exist with these inhuman and inconsiderate people, we will obviously be disturbed by their acts; something which if we look at closely actually means that we too could be affecting some other people negatively every once in a while.

Stephen Richards

#96. A person who is humble would never be abusive or selfish; so don't abuse yourself or withhold self-love or self-care.

Bryant McGill

#97. Fearing the unknown within myself has kept me crouching in a corner. I look to see who I am and discover much that is worthy.

Maureen Brady

#98. When men reject reason, they have no means left for dealing with one another - except brute, physical force.

Ayn Rand

#99. The most basic method one can use to let go of the past is by looking at it as a learning experience.

Stephen Richards

#100. In a verbally abusive relationship, the partner learns to tolerate abuse without realizing it and to lose self-esteem without realizing it. She is blamed by the abuser and becomes the scapegoat. The partner is then the victim.

Patricia Evans