Feeling Shame Quotes

#1. Perfectionism is a shield that we carry with a thought process that says this, 'If I look perfect, live perfect, work perfect, and do it all perfectly, I can avoid or minimize feeling shame, blame, and judgement.

Brene Brown

#2. To truly esteem oneself means that one must be capable of feeling shame or self-disgust when one does not live up to a certain standard

Francis Fukuyama

#3. There are so many more productive things to do than sit around feeling shame and guilt. Beyond touching on shame and guilt in a perfunctory manner, I wouldn't bother with that at all.

Antony Hegarty

#4. Shame works like the zoom lens on a camera. When we are feeling shame, the camera is zoomed in tight and all we see is our flawed selves, alone and struggling.(page 68)

Brene Brown

#5. Quite simply, if you're feeling anxious, angry, a sense of shame, whatever it is, breathe in and agree to touch or feel it. Breathing out, offer space and care to whatever's there. If there's blocking to touching it, emphasize the in-breath and stay embodied.

Tara Brach

#6. Sometimes I think it's a shame, when I get feeling better when I'm feeling no pain.

Gordon Lightfoot

#7. Creativity is the highest form of intelligence. Over time, after developing a more advanced creative brain, I started feeling that my college education was more so something to be ashamed of rather than something to be proud of.

Criss Jami

#8. Shame is a powerful feeling. There is a tremendous difference between making a mistake and believing you are a mistake...If I don't see myself as being a mistake then it is I who must take responsibility and I am not ready to accept that.

David W. Earle

#9. All lies fall somewhere into these five categories. These are to: avoid hurting someone; avoid feeling guilt or shame; avoid conflict and stress (minor to major); gain a social advantage; avoid a significant loss.

Caesar Lincoln

#10. It wasn't the practices, I don't think, it was the feeling that the great, deadly, pointing forefinger of society was pointing at me
and the great voice of millions chanting, 'Shame. Shame. Shame.' It's society's way of dealing with someone different.

Ken Kesey

#11. To be shame-bound means that whenever you feel any feeling, need or drive, you immediately feel ashamed. The dynamic core of your human life is grounded in your feelings, needs and drives. When these are bound by shame, you are shamed to the core.

John Bradshaw

#12. Shame is the intensely painful feeling or experience of believing we are flawed and therefore unworthy of acceptance and belonging.

Brene Brown

#13. There is a huge amount of shame connected to the feeling of not being loved, because love and family, biological or not, confirms our existence. Everyone needs to be seen, accepted and loved.

Anne Sewitsky

#14. Shame: We all have it. It's that gremlin that says 'I'm not enough.' Or, if you're feeling pretty confident, ... 'ooh, who do you think you are?' Shame always has a seat.

Brene Brown

#15. Success is about honour, feeling morally calibrated, absence of shame, not what some newspaper defines from an external metric.

Nassim Nicholas Taleb

#16. Hiding. Covering up. Self-protection. Feeling exposed. They are telltale signs of shame.

Edward T. Welch

#17. It's a great shame, she thinks, that the heart cannot feel joy without also feeling pain, that it cannot know love without also knowing loss.

Menna Van Praag

#18. Rationalization is Resistance's right-hand man. Its job is to keep us from feeling the shame we would feel if we truly faced what cowards we are for not doing our work.

Steven Pressfield

#19. I come from a violent background. So I became hard. I realised that I had made myself that way to deal with a feeling of abandonment and shame.

Mickey Rourke

#20. I had a feeling of shame about my grief, as if I was making false amends for the bitterness I felt towards him when he was alive.

Michael Ignatieff

#21. There's a feeling of shame that is more painful than any other in life; it's the shame felt by the victim who is forced to look his killer in the eyes, as if he were the creature bowing before its creator.

Sandor Marai

#22. With the child already shame-based, the feeling of discouragement takes over the whole personality. As the shame-based child forms her primitive conscience, shame becomes immorality or neurotic guilt. The conforming child believes he can do nothing right,

John Bradshaw

#23. The rage was a good feeling, stronger and purer than the shame that followed, the fear and the sudden urge to run and hide, to deny, to pretend I did not know who I was and what the world would do to me.

Dorothy Allison

#24. Darwin knew that the mother of the blush was shame. For Darwin, shame defines our essential humanity. Silvan Tomkins views shame as an innate feeling that limits our experience of interest, curiosity and pleasure.

John Bradshaw

#25. Shame is the feeling you get when you believe that you're not worthy of anyone caring about you or loving you. That you're such a bad person that you can't even blame other people for not caring about you.

Brene Brown

#26. Still, there's no denying that in some sense I 'feel better,' and with that comes at once a short of shame, and a feeling that one is under a sort of obligation to cherish and foment and prolong one's unhappiness.

C.S. Lewis

#27. She remembered a sudden feeling of anger towards him, as if it were his fault that the sun and breeze did not restore him, and a swift shame in the recognition of her own selfish desire not to have to endure his decline. They

Helen Simonson

#28. Tell me, Lady Angeline, is there a color not represented in your rather splendid riding hat? It would be a shame if there were. It would be sitting all alone on a palette somewhere, feeling rejected and dejected.

Mary Balogh

#29. When you actively engage in gradually refining yourself, you retreat from your lazy ways of covering yourself or making excuses. Instead of feeling a persistent current of low-level shame, you move forward by using the creative possibilities of this moment, your current situation.

Epictetus

#30. When I think about all the time I wasted feeling guilty and ashamed about things I should have embraced long ago, it fills me with guilt and shame.

Nathan Rabin

#31. He kept his back turned and his eyes closed, feeling no shame or anger but only an increasing sickness of soul.

Jim Thompson

#32. I think one cannot be left alive among so many deaths without feeling unendurable shame.

Ursula K. Le Guin

#33. Shame is, hands down, the most uncomfortable feeling. And, because it produces continuous amounts of inflammatory chemicals in the body, it is also a health risk.

Christiane Northrup

#34. I knock on Grace's door twenty minutes later, ordering myself to keep the gloating to a minimum. But damn, I'm feeling pretty fucking gloaty about the way I've successfully fulfilled all of her demands. It really is a shame that people don't grasp what a stubborn motherfucker I am.

Elle Kennedy

#35. But the feeling of scarcity does thrive in shame-prone cultures that are deeply steeped in comparison and fractured by disengagement.

Brene Brown

#36. Guilt is feeling bad about what you have done; shame is feeling bad about who you are - all it is, is muddling up things you have done with who you are.

Marcus Brigstocke

#37. There is no shame in what you are feeling, Harry," said Dumbledore's voice. "On the contrary . . . the fact that you can feel pain like this is your greatest strength." Harry

J.K. Rowling

#38. One of the key components of your mistake recovery strategy is to just stop, learn, get rid of the emotion and the feeling of shame and burden, and move on.

Carla Harris

#39. For love, as she knew it now, was something without shame and without reserve, the possession of two people who had no barrier between them, and no pride; whatever happened to him would happen to her too, all feeling, all movement, all sensation of body and of mind.

Daphne Du Maurier

#40. Unlike guilt, which is the feeling of doing something wrong shame is the feeling of being something wrong.

Marilyn J. Sorensen

#41. Just in case you're wondering, I have no desire to off myself. I do, however, have other desires. Shame I'm so weak right now. I have a feeling I could rock your world.

Lissa Jay

#42. All the embarrassment in the world won't make a mistake go away. And although feeling bad is normal, letting shame own you is not.

Joyce A. Scott

#43. To be sure an European woman would blush to her fingers' ends at the very idea of appearing publicly stark naked; but education and prejudice are everything, since it is an axiom, that where there is no feeling of self-reproach, there can assuredly be no shame.

John Gabriel Stedman

#44. Daring greatly is not about winning or losing. It's about courage. In a world where scarcity and shame dominate and feeling afraid has become second nature, vulnerability is subversive.

Brene Brown

#45. If I'm feeling hurt, sad, lonely, depressed, and then I shame myself for feeling that, then that's a black hole for me. I really have worked a lot to meet pain with both gratitude and gentleness.

Bellamy Young

#46. What's the fun in standing in the outskirts of love and feeling superior? There's no shame in having got it wrong. Whereas its a shame when you don't even give yourself the chance of getting it right. Better to have loved and lost...

Priya Basil

#47. But shame is not a pleasant feeling, and some Japanese politicians are always trying to change our children's history textbooks so that these genocides and tortures are not taught to the next generation. By changing our history and our memory, they try to erase all our shame.

Ruth Ozeki

#48. Modesty is that feeling by which honorable shame acquires a valuable and lasting authority.

Marcus Tullius Cicero

#49. Shame is the feeling you have when you agree with the woman who loves you that you are the man she thinks you are.

Carl Sandburg

#50. Because the number one feeling that was waiting to pummel me over the head was damned, dirty shame.

Karina Halle

#51. The shame, the roused feeling of exposure acted on his brain, made him heavy, unutterably heavy.

D.H. Lawrence

#52. Life is a series of embarrassing moments which leave you feeling alone in your confusion and shame

Miranda Hart

#53. Shame exists where there is sin, and so feeling ashamed, particularly when we sin, is natural and healthy. Therefore, shame is not bad, but unless the underlying sin that causes the shame is properly dealt with through the gospel, then the shame will remain, with devastating implications.

Mark Driscoll

#54. I was doing a children's book on self-esteem, and I really felt like I wanted to shed the shame I'd been feeling - and maybe make it easier for women my age who had probably felt bad about themselves.

Jamie Lee Curtis

#55. All of the moments where I was made to feel like an outsider in a group that was supposed to have room for me added up and left me feeling so much shame.

Gabby Rivera

#56. I was ashamed of myself for being ashamed of myself. I didn't like feeling like that.

Benjamin Alire Saenz

#57. Know-it-all", another name
used by (some) who would shame
Feeling bad about their
own lack in vivacity
of curiosity.

Cheri Bauer

#58. Wherever the responsibility lies, shame creates a solid and terrible feeling of unworthiness that resides in our bodies: the storehouse of the memories of our acts, real or imagined, and the secrets we keep about them.

Sharon Salzberg

#59. My tears simply broke through the fragile wall
that had held them, and with a terrible feeling of shame, I laid my head upon the table and let them drain out of me.

Arthur Golden

#60. Shame can be removed, and you can still be you. Despite your feeling that your destiny and shame's destiny are identical - that if shame no longer exists, you won't either - the reality is that you will be more you without shame.

Edward T. Welch

#61. Everybody kind of understands, Oh yeah you take drugs and it does something to your brain and then you can't stop. It's easier to describe that shame, that horrible feeling of not being able to control your own life.

Aimee Mann

#62. When I look at narcissism through the vulnerability lens, I see the shame-based fear of being ordinary. I see the fear of never feeling extraordinary enough to be noticed, to be lovable, to belong, or to cultivate a sense of purpose.

Brene Brown

#63. I don't know if you suffer in the same way, but with me the act of talking in the nature of real mashed potatoes always induces a sort of prickly sensation and a hideous feeling of shame, together with a marked starting of the pores.

P.G. Wodehouse

#64. Where reverence is, there is fear; for he who has a feeling of reverence and shame about the commission of any action, fears and is afraid of an ill reputation.

Plato