Top 100 Daniel Goleman Quotes
#1. The Responsive Classroom approach creates an ideal environment for learning
every teacher should know about it.
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#2. Our passions, when well exercised, have wisdom; they guide our thinking, our values, our survival.
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#3. Emotions are contagious. We've all known it experientially. You know after you have a really fun coffee with a friend, you feel good. When you have a rude clerk in a store, you walk away feeling bad.
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#4. The people we get along with, trust, feel simpatico with, are the strongest links in our networks
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#5. Risk taking and the drive to pursue innovative ideas are the fuel that stokes the entrepreneurial spirit.
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#6. Positive work environments outperform negative work environments.
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#7. Dreams are private myths; myths are shared dreams").
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#10. At last, psychology gets serious about glee, fun, and happiness. Martin Seligman has given us a gift-a practical map for the perennial quest for a flourishing life.
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#11. The human brain is by no means fully formed at birth. It continues to shape itself through life, with the most intense growth occurring during childhood.
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#12. But there has also been a notable increase in recent years of these applications by a much wider slice of psychotherapists - far greater interest than ever before.
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#13. In a high-IQ job pool, soft skills like discipline, drive and empathy mark those who emerge as outstanding.
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#14. This harkens back to Freud's famous question, "What does woman want?" As Epstein answers, "She wants a partner who cares what she wants.
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#15. Simply paying attention allows us to build an emotional connection. Lacking attention, empathy hasn't a chance.
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#16. My hope was that organizations would start including this range of skills in their training programs - in other words, offer an adult education in social and emotional intelligence.
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#17. The industrial processes in use today were developed at a time when no one had to consider what the environmental impact was. Who cared? But making ecological concerns matter to a company's bottom line will help it do the research and development that will reinvent everything we buy.
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#18. Empathy, as we have seen, leads to caring, altruism, and compassion. Seeing things from another's perspective breaks down biased stereotypes, and so breeds tolerance and acceptance of differences.
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#19. There is perhaps no psychological skill more fundamental than resisting impulse.
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#20. The other thing is that if you rely solely on medication to manage depression or anxiety, for example, you have done nothing to train the mind, so that when you come off the medication, you are just as vulnerable to a relapse as though you had never taken the medication.
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#21. Directing attention toward where it needs to go is a primal task of leadership.
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#22. The more socially intelligent you are, the happier and more robust and more enjoyable your relationships will be.
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#23. Emotional self-control
delaying gratification and stifling impulsiveness- underlies accomplishment of every sort
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#24. Daydreaming defeats practice; those of us who browse TV while working out will never reach the top ranks. Paying full attention seems to boost the mind's processing speed, strengthen synaptic connections, and expand or create neural networks for what we are practicing.
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#25. Fear, in evolution, has a special prominence: perhaps more than any other emotion it is crucial for survival.
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#26. While there I began to study the Asian religions as theories of mind.
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#27. People learn what they want to learn. If learning is forced on us, even if we master it temporarily, it is soon forgotten.
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#28. Emotional intelligence begins to develop in the earliest years. All the small exchanges children have with their parents, teachers, and with each other carry emotional messages.
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#29. Threats to our standing in the eyes of others are remarkably potent biologically, almost as powerful as those to our very survival.
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#30. People who are optimistic see a failure as due to something that can be changed so that they can succeed next time around, while pessimists take the blame for the failure, ascribing it to some characteristic they are helpless to change.
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#31. In short, out-of-control emotions can make smart people stupid.
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#32. we learn the emotional habits that can undermine our best intentions, as well as what we can do to subdue our more destructive or self-defeating emotional impulses. Most important, the neurological data suggest a window of opportunity for shaping our children's emotional habits.
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#33. In the new workplace, with its emphasis on flexibility, teams and a strong customer orientation, this crucial set of emotional competencies is becoming increasingly essential for excellence in every job in every part of the world.
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#34. Others point to data showing that even as toddlers, 40 percent of American two-year-olds watch TV for at least three hours a day - hours they are not interacting with people who can help them learn to get along better. The more TV they watch, the more unruly they are by school age.
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#35. I would say that IQ is the strongest predictor of which field you can get into and hold a job in, whether you can be an accountant, lawyer or nurse, for example.
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#36. It is difficult to spread the contagion of excitement without having a sense of purpose and direction.
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#37. We need to re-create boundaries. When you carry a digital gadget that creates a virtual link to the office, you need to create a virtual boundary that didn't exist before.
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#38. For better or worse, intelligence can come to nothing when emotions hold sway.
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#40. Remember, empathy need not lead to sympathetically giving in to the other side's demands - knowing how someone feels does not mean agreeing with them.
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#41. Academic intelligence offers virtually no preparation for the turmoil - or opportunity - life's vicissitudes bring.
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#42. If you are doing mindfulness meditation, you are doing it with your ability to attend to the moment.
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#44. Women, on average, tend to be more aware of their emotions, show more empathy, and are more adept interpersonally. Men on the other hand, are more self-confident and optimistic, adapt more easily, and handle stress better.
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#45. Gifted leadership occurs when heart and head
feeling and thought
meet. These are the two winds that allow a leader to soar.
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#46. CEOs are hired for their intellect and business expertise - and fired for a lack of emotional intelligence.
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#47. Every morning, I go off to a small studio behind my house to write. I try to ignore all email and phone calls until lunchtime. Then I launch into the sometimes frantic busy-ness of a tightly scheduled day.
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#48. Empathy and social skills are social intelligence, the interpersonal part of emotional intelligence. That's why they look alike.
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#49. Want a happier, more content life? I highly recommend the down-to-earth methods you'll find in 'Mindfulness.' Professor Mark Williams and Dr Danny Penman have teamed up to give us scientifically grounded techniques we can apply in the midst of our everyday challenges and catastrophes.
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#50. Leaders with empathy do more than sympathize with people around them: they use their knowledge to improve their companies in subtle, but important ways.
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#51. Rapport demands joint attention - mutual focus. Our need to make an effort to have such human moments has never been greater, given the ocean of distractions we all navigate daily.
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#52. Buying phosphate-free soap allows you to say, 'My detergent doesn't have the harsh chemicals others do.' The question is, how are you washing with it? The very worst thing for the Earth about detergent is that we heat water to use it.
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#53. There is a newly coined word in the English language for the moment when the person we're with whips out their BlackBerry or answers that cell phone, and all of a sudden we don't exist. The word is 'pizzled': it's a combination of puzzled and pissed off.
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#54. And if there are any two moral stances that our times call for, they are precisely these, self-restraint and compassion.
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#55. Rumination can also make the depression stronger by creating conditions that are, well, more depressing.
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#56. The neocortex allows for the subtlety and complexity of emotional life, such as the ability to have feelings about our feelings.
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#57. The new measure takes for granted having enough intellectual ability and technical know-how to do our jobs; it focuses instead on personal qualities, such as initiative and empathy, adaptability and persuasiveness.
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#58. I don't think focus is in itself ever a bad thing. But focus of the wrong kind, or managed poorly, can be.
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#59. Making choices that improve things for all of us on the planet is an act of compassion, a simple act we can do any time we go shopping.
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#60. Motivation aside, if people get better at these life skills, everyone benefits: The brain doesn't distinguish between being a more empathic manager and a more empathic father.
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#61. Character, writes Amitai Etzioni, the George Washington University social theorist, is "the psychological muscle that moral conduct requires."14
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#62. The more time you put into practicing, then, the greater the payoff.
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#63. In politics, readily dismissing inconvenient people can easily extend to dismissing inconvenient truths about them.
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#64. A prerequisite to empathy is simply paying attention to the person in pain.
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#65. But the rational mind usually doesn't decide what emotions we "should" have !
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#66. We should spend less time ranking children and more time helping them to identify their natural competencies and gifts, and cultivate those.
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#67. But once you are in that field, emotional intelligence emerges as a much stronger predictor of who will be most successful, because it is how we handle ourselves in our relationships that determines how well we do once we are in a given job.
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#68. the fine art of relationships - requires the ripeness of two other emotional skills, self-management and empathy. With
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#69. I think the smartest thing for people to do to manage very distressing emotions is to take a medication if it helps, but don't do only that. You also need to train your mind.
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#70. Even though a high IQ is no guarantee of prosperity, prestige,
or happiness in life, our schools and our culture fixate on
academic abilities, ignoring the emotional intelligence that also
matters immensely for our personal destiny.
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#71. Sheree Conrad and Michael Milburn bring a much-needed sanity to that confusing and unruly terrain, our sexual lives/
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#72. If your emotional abilities aren't in hand, if you don't have self-awareness, if you are not able to manage your distressing emotions, if you can't have empathy and have effective relationships, then no matter how smart you are, you are not going to get very far.
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#73. No birthday, concert, hangout session, or party can be enjoyed without taking the time to distance yourself from what you are doing to make sure that those in your digital world know instantly how much fun you are having.
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#74. and how toxic emotions put our physical health at as much risk as does chain-smoking, even as emotional balance can help protect our health and well-being.
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#76. The ability to handle stress increases with the practice of meditation. In a culture like ours in which inner, spiritual growth is totally neglected in favor of materialistic pursuits, we might have something to learn from the Hare Krishna devotees' meditational practices.
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#77. When the eyes of a woman that a man finds attractive look directly at him, his brain secretes the pleasure-inducing chemical dopamine - but not when she looks elsewhere.
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#78. One of the leading theories of why electroconvulsive therapy is effective for most severe depressions is that it causes a loss of short-term memory - patients feel better because they can't remember why they were sad.
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#79. Not that leaders need to be overly "nice"; the emotional art of leadership includes pressing the reality of work demands without unduly upsetting people.
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#80. Companies in the East put a lot more emphasis on human relationships, while those from the West focus on the product, the bottom line. Westerners appear to have more of a need for achievement, while in the East there's more need for affiliation.
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#81. The sweet spot for smart decisions, then, comes not just from being a domain expert, but also from having high self-awareness.
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#82. Once shoppers become empowered, we will facilitate industries thinking in completely new terms; for example, making products that are totally biodegradable.
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#83. One way to boost our will power and focus is to manage our distractions instead of letting them manage us.
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#84. There is zero correlation between IQ and emotional empathy ... They're controlled by different parts of the brain.
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#85. What seems to set apart those at the very top of competitive pursuits from others of roughly equal ability is the degree to which, beginning early in life, they can pursue an arduous practice routine for years and years.
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#86. Ordinarily, small children learn much about emotions by looking at the other person's eyes, while those with autism avoid the eyes and so fail to get those lessons.
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#87. Many people with IQs of 160 work for people with IQs of 100, if the former have poor intrapersonal intelligence and the latter have a high one.
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#88. Evolutionary theory holds that our ability to sense when we should be suspicious has been every bit as essential for human survival as our capacity for trust and cooperation.
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#89. Overloading attention shrinks mental control. Life immersed in digital distractions creates a near constant cognitive overload. And that overload wears out self-control.
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#90. It's the most important relationships in your life, the people you see day in and day out, that seem to be crucial for your health. And the more significant the relationship is in your life, the more it matters for your health.43
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#91. Teachers need to be comfortable talking about feelings. This is part of teaching emotional literacy - a set of skills we can all develop, including the ability to read, understand, and respond appropriately to one's own emotions and the emotions of others.
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#92. The near cousin of optimism is hope: knowing the steps needed to get to a goal and having the energy to pursue those steps. It is a primal motivating force, and its absence is paralyzing.
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#93. Mindful meditation has been discovered to foster the ability to inhibit those very quick emotional impulses.
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#94. Experience, particularly in childhood, sculpts the brain. The
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#95. A Persian fairy tale tells of the Three Princes of Serendip, who "were always making discoveries, by accident and sagacity, of things they were not in quest of."7 Creativity in the wild operates much like that.
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#96. Like secondhand smoke, the leakage of emotions can make a bystander an innocent casualty of someone else's toxic state.
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#97. People's emotions are rarely put into words , far more often they are expressed through other cues.
the key to intuiting another's feelings is in the ability to read nonverbal channels , tone of voice , gesture , facial expression and the like
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#98. Though they are quick to put others down, unhealthy narcissists view themselves in absolutely positive terms. They
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#99. The emotional brain is highly attuned to symbolic meanings and to the mode Freud called the 'primary process' - the messages of metaphor, story, myth, the arts.
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#100. We transmit and catch moods from each other in what amounts to a subterranean economy of the psyche in which some encounters are toxic, some nourishing.
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