Quotes About Self Hatred

#1. I think I have a great deal of self-hatred, a profound feeling of fraudulence, of being detestable and evil. It's only a part of me, but it's there, and it's active.

Tony Kushner

#2. I only have two reactions to bad news. Uncontrollable rage and then a sharp left turn into boiling self-hatred.

Cassandra Clare

#3. My ego mind - my own self-hatred masquerading as self-love - would point me always in the direction of fear, luring me toward the blaming thought, the attack or defense, the perception of guilt in myself or others.

Marianne Williamson

#4. Some of her self-hatred had oozed out with the blood.

J.K. Rowling

#5. Affliction hardens and discourages us because, like a red hot iron, it stamps the soul to its very depths with the scorn, the disgust, and even the self-hatred and sense of guilt that crime logically should produce but actually does not.

Simone Weil

#6. Guilt is the sum total of: All the negative feelings we have ever had about ourselves! Any form of self-hatred, self-rejection, feelings of worthlessness, sinfulness, inferiority, incompetence, failure, or emptiness. The feeling that there are things in us that are lacking or missing or incomplete.

Kenneth Wapnick

#7. Commerce is a noble profession, and Jews should get over any self-hatred they might harbor from contemplating the capitalist spirit of diaspora Judaism.

Steven Pinker

#8. We use NVC to evaluate ourselves in ways that engender growth rather than self-hatred.

Marshall B. Rosenberg

#9. The messages our kids receive from teachers, coaches
and even, with the best intentions, from us - can push them toward pride or despair ... toward self-righteousness or self-hatred.

Phil Vischer

#10. I know that in my family there are histories of violence that are internal family things and that are oftentimes dealt with internally. By internally, I mean inside the family group, but also partly inside ourselves. You know, self-hatred and hostility and rage and this cycle that won't break.

Kara Walker

#11. Racism is not simply about one man's irrational hatred of another but his self-hatred, doubting his own moral goodness and purpose.

Michael R. French

#12. I have a list a mile long of faults that sometimes bring me to my knees in self-hatred.

Frank Langella

#13. I can never quite decide whether the anti- Columbus movement is merely risible or faintly sinister ... It is sinister, though, because it is an ignorant celebration of stasis and backwardness, with an unpleasant tinge of self-hatred.

Christopher Hitchens

#14. There is a loneliness that can be consuming when one thrashes about with unspoken things, things that evoke shame or uncertainty or self-hatred.

Andrea Raynor

#15. Depression can be a form of self hatred. We don't feel comfortable in our own skin.

Michele McKnight Baker

#16. The denial of death is self-hatred.

Simon Critchley

#17. Secondly, if we continue to view ourselves as moral lepers and spiritual failures, if our lives are shadowed by low self-esteem, shame, remorse, unhealthy guilt, and self-hatred, we reject the teaching of Jesus and cling to our negative self-image. In

Brennan Manning

#18. No other group has internalized its self-hatred as much as blacks have. It would be difficult to find other groups who behave similarly in that their most esteemed members berate its poorest members.

Michael Eric Dyson

#19. God knows I'm not perfect, either. I've made tons of stupid mistakes, and later I regretted them. And I've done it over and over again, thousands of times; a cycle of hollow joy and vicious self-hatred. But even so, every time I learned something about myself
-Misato Katsuragi

Hideaki Anno

#20. The months of being disingenuously friendly and the resulting self-hatred taught me that self-confidence cannot be based on the approval of others.

Mark Twight

#21. People respond better to kindness than cruelty. Why, it's even caught on in the workplace, that bastion of self-hatred and disrespect.

Cheri Huber

#22. I look at 'The New York Review of Books.' It's what it has been for 35 or 40 years, which is a highly sophisticated vehicle for anti-American self-hatred.

John Podhoretz

#23. The only sin is self-hatred.

Paul Williams

#24. Self-hatred leads to the need either to dominate or to be dominated.

Gloria Steinem

#25. We never get to love by hate, least of all by self-hatred.

Basil W. Maturin

#26. Self-hatred is the ultimate degradation.

Marty Rubin

#27. It drove her to distraction the way women wanted to bond over self-hatred.

Liane Moriarty

#28. All hatred is self-hatred, just as all healing is self-healing.

Eric Micha'el Leventhal

#29. Unlike the pattern which seems to prevail in the rest of life, in the human species the weak not only survive but often triumph over the strong. The self-hatred inherent in the weak unlocks energies far more formidable then those mobilized by an ordinary struggle for existence.

Eric Hoffer

#30. There is no need for me to curse you -the murderer survives the victim only to learn that it was himself that he longed to be rid of. Hatred is self-hatred.

Thornton Wilder

#31. It really bothers me how in books it seems like the only two choices are perfection or self-hatred.

E. Lockhart

#32. The difference between a life laced through with frustration and one sustained by happiness depends on whether it is motivated by self-hatred or by real love for oneself.

Sharon Salzberg

#33. Right mothering meets the
child's need.

Focusing on what the child should
not be draws resistant energy. Pointing
out what the child should be feeds
self-hatred and struggle.

Vimala McClure

#34. But not forgiving yourself often becomes the root of severe self-loathing extreme self hatred and intense inhibitions. It will be next to impossible to truly start over when you feel unforgivable.

Sue Augustine

#35. I like people who are as unlike me as possible, which is not an expression of self disgust or self hatred, but it's just that you know you obviously particularly admire things that you recognize yourself as not having.

Stephen Fry

#36. The ego is our self-love turned into self-hatred.

Marianne Williamson

#37. There is a noticeable element of the pathological in some current leftist critiques, which I tend to attribute to feelings of guilt allied to feelings of impotence. Not an attractive combination, because it results in self-hatred.

Christopher Hitchens

#38. At night when you're asleep, self-hatred's going to creep in. And you can blame it on the devil, the one who's bed you sleep in.

Ani DiFranco

#39. The self-hatred that destroys is the waste of unfulfilled promise.

Moss Hart

#40. The surgeons' market is imaginary, since there is nothing wrong with women's faces or bodies that social change won't cure; so the surgeons depend for their income on warping female self-perception and multiplying female self-hatred.

Naomi Wolf

#41. Only self-hatred could lead him to ruin himself because his heart was broken.

Saul Bellow

#42. Programmed in self-hatred, many of us shadow-box the light of day away and chase everything meaningless the night through until we perish more ignorant and confused than the very day we were born.

D. Allen Miller

#43. Self-hatred is sometimes appropriate.

Mason Cooley

#44. Self-hatred is worse than loneliness.

John Irving

#45. A little self-hatred keeps a person interesting

Eliot Schrefer

#46. "No acute attacks of guilt and self-hatred?"

"Nope. I've taken Mr. Wu's advice: never mind how hard the times are, he always says, carry a green branch in your heart and a songbird will settle on it."

"Wow - where on earth does Mr. Wu get all these hoary old sayings from?"

Kerstin Gier

#47. Self-hatred is OK. I have self-hatred, too. It's OK. What's bad is if you don't know how to get out of it, don't know how to manage it. Self-hatred is, in fact, a good thing if you can clearly see the mechanism of it, because it helps you to understand others.

Orhan Pamuk

#48. Westerners, more than most Asians, are prone to feelings of fear, self-hatred, and unworthiness.

Jack Kornfield

#49. Manhattan has generated a shameless architecture that has been loved in direct proportion to its defiant lack of self-hatred, hasbeen respected exactly to the degree that it went too far.

Rem Koolhaas

#50. her essential goodness, telling her that "self-knowledge is the foundation of Religion," not self-hatred.

Megan Marshall

#51. However, when we are depressed, being reminded of other people's suffering only serves to increase our self-hatred.

Dorothy Rowe

#52. All hatred of others is a reflection of self-hatred. All love of others is a reflection of self-love.

Alan Cohen

#53. I hate those endless descriptions of a heroine's physical attributes ... it really bothers me how in books it seems like the only two choices are perfection or self-hatred. As if readers will only like a character who's ideal
or completely shattered.

E. Lockhart

#54. It seems to me that everyone on this planet whom I know or have worked with is suffering from self-hatred and guilt to one degree or another. The more self-hatred and guilt we have, the less our lives work. The less self-hatred and guilt we have, the better our lives work, on all levels.

Louise L. Hay

#55. I think human self-hatred may be the great untold story of the millennium. It's the common thread linking deep ecology and animal rights, the love and money we lavish on pets, the uneasy longing for extraterrestrials to be meddling with us.

Annie Gottlieb

#56. Here's how my brain works: It's stupidity, followed by self-hatred, and then further analysis.

Louis C.K.

#57. The mind thinks thoughts that we don't plan. It's not as if we say, 'At 9:10 I'm going to be filled with self-hatred.

Sharon Salzberg

#58. I promote my own self-hatred.

Jonathan Ames

#59. What rivets me to history is seeing / acts of survival turned / to rituals of self-hatred. This / is colonization. Unborn sisters, / look back on us in mercy where we failed ourselves, / see us not one-dimensional but with / the past as your steadying and corrective lens.

Adrienne Rich

#60. We hated pretentiousness; it was a form of self-hatred.

Aleksandar Hemon

#61. Self-love is an idolatry. Self-hatred is a tragedy.

Elizabeth Hardwick

#62. It [MDMA] takes away the feelings of self-hatred and condemnation, which are the biggest obstacles to insight ... For reasons we don't understand, MDMA allows people to do this, typically in one [psychotherapeutic] session.

Ann Shulgin

#63. One thing worse than self-hatred is chiggers.

Edward Abbey

#64. I suffered from self hatred so much. It's like I didn't want to look like that any more. I didn't to feel like that any more. It had to be another way.

Mary J. Blige

#65. Self-hatred and self-love are equally self-centered.

Mason Cooley

#66. One day I looked at something in myself that I had been avoiding because it was too painful. Yet once I did, I had an unexpected surprise. Rather than self-hatred, I was flooded with compassion for myself because I realized the pain necessary to develop that coping mechanism to begin with.

Marianne Williamson

#67. With self-acceptance, we have the ability to choose compassion and forgiveness over anger and self-hatred.

Michelle Cruz-Rosado

#68. Sat in groups together purging ourselves, theoretically, of anger and self-hatred. We learned not to turn on ourselves. We learned to blame.

Gillian Flynn

#69. Unreasonable self-criticism represents a form of self-hatred and fear.

Bryant McGill

#70. Feeling compassion for ourselves in no way releases us from responsibility for our actions. Rather, it releases us from the self-hatred that prevents us from responding to our life with clarity and balance.

Tara Brach

#71. The essence of practice is always the same: instead of falling prey to a chain reaction of revenge or self-hatred, we gradually learn to catch the emotional reaction and drop the story lines.

Pema Chodron

#72. Counterintuitively, self-hatred is one of the leading symptoms of clinical narcissism. Only by telling yourself and the world how much you hate yourself can you receive the reliable shower of praise and admiration in response that you feel you deserve ...

Stephen Fry

#73. The gap between our sincere values and our actual behavior is the source of all self-hatred.

Bo Lozoff

#74. Sometimes therapy takes years and years, and sometimes it can happen in one miraculous instant, a lifetime of doubt and self-hatred healed in a moment of astounding love.

Mia Sheridan

#75. Hatred is always self hatred, and there is something suicidal about it.

James Baldwin

#76. All suffering is caused by the illusion of separateness, which generates fear and self-hatred, which eventually causes illness. You are the master of your life. You can do much more than you thought you could, including cure yourself of a "terminal illness".

Barbara Brennan

#77. Some good-bad nights I spent, loving my self-hatred.

Don DeLillo

#78. I felt alone, my loneliness suffocated me, and I craved to scream, shout and kill me while seeing all this. However, self-hatred also occupied me.

Shaikh Ashraf

#79. In my experience, self-hatred is the dominant malaise crippling Christians and stifling their growth in the Holy Spirit.

Brennan Manning

#80. A hit man's character is defined above all by narcissism, that complex mix of egotism and self-hatred.

Suketu Mehta

#81. Self-hatred is the best vehicle for making people do as they're told because they are hungry to get approval.

Melinda Gebbie

#82. I have been a depressed person most of m life. I was always in the throes of self-hatred.

Eve Ensler

#83. Why do you think I do it?" He shrugged. "All I can figure is that either you're nursing a deep and sadistic self-hatred or else you're insane.

Jim Butcher

#84. The attempt to force human beings to despise themselves is what I call hell.

Andre Malraux

#85. Personal Assault and Battery breeds with no contraception a hateful vengeance for others; A sexual nature that is methodically breeding one's intolerance of Self

Rosemarie Yusen

#86. I will eliminate hatred, envy, jealousy, selfishness, and cynicism, by developing love for all humanity, because I know that a negative attitude toward others can never bring me success. I will cause others to believe in me, because I will believe in them, and in myself.

Napoleon Hill

#87. But God considers the sins of unforgiveness, anger, hatred, self-pity, lovelessness, and revenge to be just as bad as any others.

Stormie O'martian

#88. When you are being judged by someone that has no idea who you are always remember this: Dogs always bark at strangers and usually there is always some wacko neighbor that wants to try out their new gun on an intruder.

Shannon L. Alder

#89. You are greater than you can possibly imagine, if you would only free yourself up to imagine.

Craig D. Lounsbrough

#90. Negative emotions, such as the feelings of hatred, meanness, low self-esteem and confidence, and pessimism, create an unpleasant person and a bleak destiny.

Auliq Ice

#91. I don't have to say so because people can see it from leagues away. I am ugly, shy and anachronistic, but by dint of not wanting to be those things I have pretended to be just the opposite.

Gabriel Garcia Marquez

#92. Man kills, the things he love the most, sometimes by the virtue of hatred, crime, anger and war and sometimes by dramatizing his activities. But he is not aware that his killings are his own self-image.

Santosh Kalwar

#93. Certain people give off positive energy, others negative. It's the quality of someone's being, a measure of the love with which they've led their lives. It also reflects the inner work they've done, their efforts to heal anger, hatred, or self-loathing, which poison us like toxic fumes.

Judith Orloff

#94. The root of all sin is pride, superbia. I want to be my own law, I have a right to my self, my hatred and my desires, my life and my death. The

Dietrich Bonhoeffer

#95. I do not look on self-indulgent, sensual people as worthy of my hatred; I simply look upon them with contempt for their poorness of character.

Elizabeth Gaskell

#96. Hatred is self-punishment.Do you think they're feeling bad because you hate them?

Michelle Cohen Corasanti

#97. But the path of self-purification is hard and steep. To attain to perfect purity one has to become absolutely passion-free in thought, speech and action; to rise above the opposing currents of love and hatred, attachment and repulsion. I

Mahatma Gandhi

#98. Self pity is the worst possible emotion anyone can have. And the most destructive. It is, to slightly paraphrase what Wilde said about hatred, and I think actually hatred's a subset of self pity and not the other way around - 'It destroys everything around it, except itself.'

Stephen Fry

#99. Energetic cords are unconscious - often sentimental or compulsive - emotional ties to past and present relationships, pre-conditioned by our wounds. They are made of toxic emotions such fear, guilt, blame, hatred, obligation, grasping need or pain.

Avril Carruthers

#100. And that other self, who watches me from the distance of decades,
what will she say? Will she look at me with hatred or with compassion,
I whose choices made her what she will be?

Jane Hirshfield