Quotes About Abusive Men

#1. For decades, many therapists have been attempting to help abusive men change by guiding them in identifying and expressing feelings. Alas, this well-meaning but misguided approach actually feeds the abuser's selfish focus on himself, which is an important force driving his abusiveness.

Lundy Bancroft

#2. Our culture encourages women to nurture men, making it predictable that many experience a seductive empathy for abusive men, as well as the misguided hope that love can obliterate an ugly past.

Leslie Morgan Steiner

#3. Without financial literacy, divorce rates soar, families rupture, and women stay with abusive men for financial security. A lack of jobs contributes to riots and illegal activity. Name any situation and it goes back to money. We need to focus on poverty eradication.

John Hope Bryant

#4. While it can be aggressive playing rugby, the aggression doesn't leave the rugby pitch. A Real Man doesn't need to use violence or be abusive to others, especially towards his partner and family. I am proud to support the Women's Aid Real Man campaign.

Danny Care

#5. The highest mode of corruption is the abuse of power.

Auliq Ice

#6. When we understand love as the will to nurture our own and another's spiritual growth, it becomes clear that we cannot claim to love if we are hurtful and abusive. Love and abusive cannot coexist. Abuse and neglect are, by definition, the opposites of nurturance and care.

Bell Hooks

#7. HE ISN'T ABUSIVE BECAUSE HE IS ANGRY; HE'S ANGRY BECAUSE HE'S ABUSIVE.

Lundy Bancroft

#8. The reason I gained so much weight in the first place and the reason I had such a sorry history of abusive relationships with men was I just needed approval so much. I needed everyone to like me, because I didn't like myself much.

Oprah Winfrey

#9. Women need total life support services for the mother as she and the family move through the crisis following disclosure.

Janis Tyler Johnson

#10. Because the child does not have the power to withhold consent, she does not have the power to grant it.

Judith Lewis Herman

#11. When we hear these kinds of excuses from a drunk, we assume they are exactly that - excuses. We don't consider an active alcoholic a reliable source of insight. So why should we let an angry and controlling man be the authority on partner abuse?

Lundy Bancroft

#12. The underlying attitude comes bursting out of his words: He believes his wife is keeping something of his away from him when she doesn't want intimate contact. He sees sexual rights to a woman as akin to mineral rights to land - and he owns them.

Lundy Bancroft

#13. When I was growing up, the men in my life were abusive; women were the ones I ran to for comfort.

Kevyn Aucoin

#14. Openness to my own dreams puts me in touch with the oldest, most human aspects of who I am; it helps me find my place in the community of man.

Sheldon B. Kopp

#15. I think, there are many people who are much smarter than I am, and many, many, many who are much harder-working than I am, but in terms of the range of my activities, they're unique.

Ben Stein

#16. People spend so much time wondering why the women don't leave. Where are all the people who wonder why the men are even abusive? Isn't that where the only blame should be placed?

Colleen Hoover

#17. I'm afraid many women do choose the wedding over the marriage. It seems a steep price to pay, but it comes from a place of deep, sad longing to be loved and to have it proven that you are of value.

Elizabeth Gilbert

#18. Evil is there, out there and in your faces! You have two choices, either run or fight! To run is to die a coward! To fight is to win!

Stephen Richards

#19. The external forces conceal from the eyes the deep meaning of existence; True faith resides in the heart.

Kabir

#20. Men, when they're out of work, tend to become abusive.

Harry Reid

#21. Another question a biblically literate reporter might have asked is, "Why are you proclaiming the Ten Commandments when you believe no one can live up to all of them?"

Cal Thomas

#22. What we are talking about is extended world war ... People would move on a massive scale. Hundreds of millions, probably billions of people would have to move ...

Nicholas Stern

#23. which Tante Lulu countered,

Sandra Hill

#24. They will all abandon you. All you have left is my desire for you.

Clive Barker

#25. As long as fathers rule but do not nurture, as long as mothers nurture but do not rule, the conditions favoring the development of father-daughter incest will prevail.

Judith Lewis Herman

#26. Oooh ... Aunt Chelsea called Jake the D-word!"
Rory's voice carries into the kitchen. "Dipshit?"
"No."
"Dumbass?"
"No."
"Douchebag?"
"What's a douchebag?"
"Rory!" Chelsea and I yell at exactly the same time.

Emma Chase

#27. The heart is a home; love should take up all of the rooms.

Matshona Dhliwayo

#28. They don't call it the Internet anymore, they call it cloud computing. I'm no longer resisting the name. Call it what you want.

Larry Ellison

#29. Love. This is a lorry, not a Ferrari.

Sophie Kinsella

#30. Call attention to your strengths instead of pointing out your weaknesses.

Auliq Ice

#31. Any time, every time, you can damn the Prime Minister and so long as it is not a lie and a criminal lie, nothing happens to you. You can say a lot of things. You can write books about him, damning him. So long as it is not a libel, go ahead.

Lee Kuan Yew

#32. When people conclude that anger causes abuse, they are confusing cause and effect. Ray was not abusive because he was angry; he was angry because he was abusive. Abusers carry attitudes that produce fury.

Lundy Bancroft

#33. Though all the daughters eventually succeeded in escaping from their families, they felt, even at this time of the interview (while in their 20s and 30s) that they would never be safe with their fathers, and that they would have to defend themselves as long as their fathers lived.

Judith Lewis Herman