Top 25 Thomas Lewis Quotes
#1. The first part of emotional healing is being limbically known - having someone with a keen ear catch your melodic essence. (170)
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#2. What Richard Selzer, M.D. once wrote of surgery is true of therapy: only human love keeps this from being the act of two madmen.
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#3. The brevity of mini (psycho)therapies is another efficient forestaller of healing. The neocortex rapidly master didactic information, but the limbic brain takes mountains of repetition. No one expects to play the flute in six lessons or to become fluent in Italian in ten. (189)
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#4. DNA is not the heart's destiny; the genetic lottery may determine the cards in your deck, but experience deals the hand you can play.
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#5. I don't believe in God for the same reason that most people don't believe in Apollo or Zeus ... God is just human beings' way of personifying an otherwise completely natural universe.
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#6. The skill of becoming and remaining attuned to another's emotional rhythms requires a solid investment of years. (205)
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#7. An ironic revelation of the television-computer age is that what people want from machines is humanity: stories, contact, and interaction.
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#8. Emotions are humanity's motivator and its omnipresent guide. (36)
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#9. The brain's dense thicket of interrelationships, like those of history or art, does not yield to the reductivist's bright blade. (91)
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#10. Real knowledge, true knowledge, comes from knowing why.
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#11. In a dazzling vote of confidence for form over substance, our culture fawns over the fleetingness of being "in love" while discounting the importance of loving. (206)
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#12. The benefits of deep attachment are powerful - regulated people feel whole, centered, alive. (208)
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#13. One brain's blueprint may promote joy more readily than most; in another, pessimism reigns. Whether happiness infuses or eludes a person depends, in part, on the DNA he has chanced to receive. (152)
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#14. Our society's love affair with mechanical devices that respond at a button-touch ill prepares us to deal with the unruly organic mind that dwells within. Anything that does not comply must be broken or poorly designed, people now suppose, including their hearts.
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#15. Knowing someone is the first goal of therapy. Modulating emotionality - whether by relatedness or psychopharmacology or both - is second. Therapy's last and most ambitious aim is revising the neural code that directs an emotional life. (176)
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#16. Being well regulated in relatedness is the deeply gratifying state that people seek ceaselessly in romance, religions, and cults; in husbands and wives, pets, softball teams, bowling leagues, and a thousand other features of human life driven by the thirst for sustaining affiliations. (157)
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#17. Who we are and who we become depends, in part, on whom we love. (144)
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#18. Long-standing togetherness writes permanent changes into a brain's open book. In a relationship, one mind revises another; one heart changes its partner. (144)
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#19. Love is simultaneous mutual regulation, wherein each person meets the needs of the other, because neither can provide for his own. (208)
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#20. Natural selection awards no prize for second place.
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#21. The mind-body clash has disguised the truth that psychotherapy is physiology. When a person starts therapy, he isn't beginning a pale conversation; he is stepping into a somatic state of relatedness. (168)
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#22. People differ in their proficiency at tracing the outlines of another self, and thus their ability to love also varies. (207)
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#23. In all of its varied and protean forms, love is the tether binding our whirling lives. Without that biological anchor, all of us are flung outward, singly into the encroaching dark. (225)
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#24. But dividing the mind into "biological" and "psychological" is as fallacious as classifying light as a particle or a wave. The natural world makes no promise to align itself with preconceptions that humans find parsimonious or convenient. (167)
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#25. Modern amorists are sometimes taken aback at the prospect of investing in a relationship with no guarantee of reward. It is precisely that absence, however, that separates gift from shrewdness. Love cannot be extracted, commanded, demanded, or wheedled. It can only be given. (208)
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