Thomas Crum Quotes

#1. Conflict isn't negative, it just is.

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#2. Being willing to change allows you to move from a point of view to a viewing point - a higher, more expansive place, from which you can see both sides.

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#3. Our lives are not dependent on whether or not we have conflict. It is what we do with conflict that makes the difference.

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#4. Conflict can be seen as a gift of energy, in which neither side loses and a new dance is created.

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#5. The quality of our lives depends not on whether or not we have conflicts, but on how we respond to them.

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#6. It is hard to change our point of view in a conflict. Most often, it is because we are not nearly as interested in resolving the conflict and possibly creating a new "pearl" as we are in being right.

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#7. It is very difficult to apply the old Indian adage 'Do not judge another until you have walked a mile in his moccasins,' unless you get out of your own moccasins first.

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#8. Embracing conflict can become a joy when we know that irritation and frustration can lead to growth and fascination.

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#9. Instead of seeing the rug being pulled from under us, we can learn to dance on the shifting carpet.

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#10. Change does not take time - it takes commitment.

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#11. The number one goal in resolving a conflict is to make sure both sides maintain their self-esteem. Resolving conflict is rarely about who is right. It is about acknowledgment and appreciation of differences.

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#12. When conflict becomes a win-lose contest in our minds, we immediately try to win.

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#13. What would it be like if you lived each day, each breath, as a work of art in progress? Imagine that you are a masterpiece unfolding each second of every day, a work of art taking form with every breath.

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