Tedd Tripp Quotes

#1. Respectful teenagers are developed when they are 1, 2, 3, 4, or 5, not at 13, 14, 15, or 16.

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#2. Since the heart and behavior are so closely linked, whatever modifies behavior inevitably trains the heart.

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#3. The person your child becomes is a product of two things. The first is his life experience. The second is how he interacts with that experience.

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#4. They don't have to agree with you on everything in order to respect you.

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#5. The most powerful way to keep your children from being attracted by the offers of camaraderie from the wicked is to make home an attractive place to be.

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#6. Well, I've never been a morning person either. Perhaps that is true. But the question is this: Has that habit of personality been a blessing or a curse to you?

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#7. We give them material things and take delight in their delight in possessions. Then we hope that somewhere down the line they will see that a life worth living is found only in knowing and serving God.

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#8. The conscience within man is always either excusing or accusing.

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#9. He who ignores discipline despises himself, but whoever heeds correction gains understanding (Proverbs 15:32).

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#10. Behavior is a manifestation of what is going on inside. What a person says or does mirrors the heart. "For out of the overflow of his heart his mouth speaks" (Luke 6:45).

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#11. Keeping the gospel in focus, you see, is more than helping our children know forgiveness of sin through repentance and faith in Jesus Christ. In the gospel there is the promise of internal transformation and empowerment.

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#12. A parent who is respectful to his children and teaches them with dignity and respect will be respected by his children.

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#13. Correction is not displaying your anger at their offenses; it is rather reminding them that their sinful behavior offends God.

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#14. When we allow our children to become independent decision makers we give them a false idea of liberty and a mistaken notion about freedom.

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#15. Shaping ideas requires long-term interaction with long-range goals and 100 percent saturation.

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#16. God is concerned with the heart - the well-spring of life (Proverbs 4:23). Parents tend to focus on the externals of behavior rather than the internal overflow of the heart.

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#17. Home should be the shelter where the teen is understood and loved, where he is encouraged and shown the paths of life.

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#18. The purpose for your authority in the lives of your children is not to hold them under your power, but to empower them to be self-controlled people living freely under the authority of God.

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#19. Folly is bound up in the heart of a child, but the rod of discipline will drive it far from him (Proverbs 22:15).

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#20. Give your children big truths they will grow into rather than light explanations they will grow out of.

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#21. Whether you are watching a video or playing a game, whether you are doing work or fielding an unwanted phone call, whether you are being successful or smarting from failure - in the ordinary context of daily living, you show the power and viability of Christian faith.

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#22. The finest art of communication is not learning how to express your thoughts. It is learning how to draw out the thoughts of another.

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#23. How do you think of the Bible? Is it law, condemnation, warning, guilt, threats and judgment? Or is it God's merciful and gracious revelation for fallen, broken humanity?

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#24. All behavior is linked to attitudes of the heart. Therefore, discipline must address attitudes of the heart.

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#25. The law of God is not easy for natural man. Its standard is high and cannot be achieved apart from God's supernatural grace. God's law teaches us our need of grace. When you fail to hold out God's standard, you rob your children of the mercy of the gospel.

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#26. You should encourage your children to see the needs of those around them.

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#27. The central focus of parenting is the gospel. You need to direct not simply the behavior of your children, but the attitudes of their hearts.

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#28. To do good to oppressors, however, to pray for those who mistreat you, to entrust yourself to the just Judge, requires a child to come face-to-face with the poverty of his own spirit and his need of the transforming power of the gospel.

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#29. Moms and dads tell the children what to do. Kids tell their parents their wishes and dreams.

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#30. Fights and quarrels don't come from lack of skill in conflict resolution. They don't come from people who are irritating. They come from desires that battle within. My desires are occupying the place of command and control inside my heart. Behavior Begins with the Heart

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#31. We cannot impress our children with the fame of God's name if we are not impressed with him ourselves. If

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#32. The gospel enables you and your children to face the worst in yourselves - your sin, your badness, and your weakness - and still find hope, because grace is powerful.

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#33. The parent can change his mind in the context of respectful appeal, but not in the presence of blatant rebellion.

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#34. It is possible to be well-educated and still not understand life.

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#35. our goal is not to maintain control at any cost; it is rather to persuade. Influence and persuasion are always more important than discipline.

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#36. What is important in correction is not venting your feelings, anger or hurt; it is, rather, understanding the nature of the struggle that your child is having. What is important is understanding the "why" of what has been done or said.

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#37. Teach your children that ungodly behavior begins with ungodly attitudes of heart, but godly behavior begins with godly attitudes of heart. Below

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