Rory Miller Quotes

#1. being meek and silent prevents social violence. The message is, "I am not challenging you, I will do nothing bad, you do whatever you want and I will stay out of your way." This is exactly what a predator is looking

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#2. Here's a rule of life: You don't get to pick what bad things happen to you

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#3. No matter what any bleeding-heart tells you, 3% of the people in the world are scum. The trouble is, if you spent 80% of your time with that 3%, you start thinking that 80% of the world is scum.

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#4. Better to avoid than run, better to run than de-escalcate, better to de-escalate than fight, better to fight than die.

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#5. Bad bosses chew-out in public for the purpose of showing their dominance).

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#6. social violence. The message is, "I am not challenging you, I will do nothing bad, you do whatever you want and I will stay out of your way." This is exactly what a predator is looking for.

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#7. It is much easier and safer to scare someone into submission than to beat them into submission.

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#8. The only defense against evil, violent people is good people who are more skilled at violence.

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#9. If I label someone as "bad," I know my own meaning: he will hurt someone to get what he wants. If I use "evil" it means he will hurt someone even when he doesn't want anything.

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#10. It's better to avoid than to run; better to run than to de-escalate; better to de-escalate than to fight; better to fight than to die. The very essence of self-defense is a thin list of things that might get you out alive when you are already screwed.

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#11. Why is a caterpillar wrapped in silk while it changes into a butterfly? So the other caterpillars can't hear the screams. Change hurts

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#12. No intelligent man has ever lost a fight to someone who said 'I'm gonna kick your ass'.

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#13. The dream is damned and dreamer too if dreaming's all that dreamers do.

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#14. Read DeBecker's book.

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#15. It is better to avoid than to run, better to run than to de-escalate, better to de-escalate than to fight, better to fight than to die.

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#16. Know this: Your own brain will lie to you. It will backstab and sabotage you to prevent ANY change.

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#17. it is difficult to solve a problem that you are almost entirely ignorant about. You cannot work for peace while ignoring violence any more than a doctor can create treatments while refusing to study disease.

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#18. To manage fear you only need to believe you can do things.
To manage danger you must be able to do things.

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