Joshua Harris Quotes

#1. I am a sucker for romance and I love girls and that is a terrible combination, because romance has the ability to overwhelm your perspective.

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#2. No matter where we are today or what mistakes we've made in the past, He has given us everything we need to glorify Him right now.

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#3. Do you see a theme emerging? Women like flowers; men like food!

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#4. True love isn't expressed in passionately whispered words an intimate kiss or a embrace; before two people are married, love is expressed in self-control, patience, even words left unsaid.

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#5. What would make someone a perfect mate for you?

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#6. Terms don't define our lives; our lives define our terms.

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#7. Are you quick to listen? Listening is an expression of humility and genuine concern for others. ... .If we want to truly know and understand other people, we have to care what they feel and think, not arrogantly assume that we already know.

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#8. If you want to grow, find men who provoke you.

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#9. God will make right all that is wrong, He will take away the lingering effect of sin and what's not right in our lives. He knows how painful life in this world can be.

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#10. The doctrine of Scripture teaches us about the authority of God's Word. Scripture must be the final rule of faith and practice for our lives. Not our feelings or emotions. Not signs or prophetic words or hunches.

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#11. God's true love pretty much nullifies dating as we know it ...
It seems that dating as we have come to know it doesn't really prepare us for marriage; instead it can be a training ground for divorce. We cannot practice life-long commitment in a series of short-term relationships.

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#12. Purity doesn't happen by accident; it requires obedience to God.

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#13. I've come to learn that theology matters. It matters not because we want to impress people, but because what we know about God shapes the way we think and live. Theology matters because if we get it wrong then our whole life will be wrong.

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#14. But remember, continuing a wrong relationship only increases the pain when it finally does end.

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#15. For Christians typical dating can often be a swerver - an approach to relationships that wants to go in a different direction than the one God has for us.

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#16. Just because something is good doesn't mean we should pursue it right now. We have to remember that the right thing at the wrong time is the wrong thing.

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#17. Look for, and work on becoming, a man or woman who, as a single, seeks God wholeheartedly, putting Him before anything else. Don't worry about impressing the opposite sex. Instead, strive to please and glorify God. Along the way you'll catch the attention of people with the same priorities.

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#18. The most romantic things a man can do for a woman are the little things that let her know that she's on his mind and in his heart.

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#19. I've come to see that you can limit God is different ways. You can limit Him by thinking he can never work in spectacular ways. But you can also limit Him by thinking that only the spectacular is meaningful."
- from "Dug Down Deep

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#20. She began to notice his servant's heart, his humility, and his leadership. This attraction felt different from her prior experiences of liking guys. "Before it had always been, 'Here's the guy I want!' But this time I thought, 'Here's a man I could follow.

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#21. Romantic love is the kite that catches the wind and tenaciously heads for the sky;
wisdom is the string that tugs downward, holding it back

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#22. If you're not ready to consider marriage or you're not truly interested in marrying a specific person, it's selfish and potentially harmful to encourage that person to need you or ask him or her to gratify you emotionally or physically.

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#23. The right thing at a wrong time is a wrong thing.

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#24. The common error today is to bring God so close that we strip Him of His "godness." We think we have him figured out. So God becomes our pal, our buddy, our Divine Butler."
from "Dug Down Deep

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#25. When you dress and behave in a way that is designed primarily to arouse sexual desire in men, you are committing pornography with your life.

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#26. I'm looking for someone who will light candles, not just curse the darkness.

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#27. Every relationship for a Christian is an opportunity to love another person like God has loved us.

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#28. Having a girlfriend was no longer my greatest need. Knowing and obeying Him was . I wanted to please Him in my relationships even if it meant looking radical and foolish to other people - even if it meant kissing dating goodbye.

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#29. A defining reality for me is what Scripture teaches in Hebrews 12, that God is our father, and that a sign that he loves us is that he disciplines us, he takes us through hardship to build character in us that could not be shaped apart from difficulty.

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#30. The irony of their impatience is that only by learning to wait, and by a willingness to accept the bad with the good, do we usually attain those things that are truly worthwhile.

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#31. During courtship, guarding each other's purity and refraining from intimacy are the acts of lovemaking.

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#32. Sex is not the problem [Lust is]

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#33. You are so amazed by grace, you're not picking a fight with anyone, you're just crying tears of amazement that should lead to a heart for lost people, that God does indeed save, when he doesn't have to save anybody.

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#34. True love waits, but not just for sex. It waits for the right time to commit to God's brand of love - unwavering, unflagging, and totally committed.

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#35. The thing about relationships is, when you are in the middle of one, they consume your focus.

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#36. Be like Josiah. When our lives disagree with the Word of God. I want to say, This Word is true, and I must change.

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#37. Romance says, ' I want it now!'. Wisdom urges patience

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#38. Purity consists of more than remaining a virgin.

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#39. When God knows you're ready for the responsibility of commitment, He'll reveal the right person under the right circumstances.

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#40. Living to glorify God means doing everything ...
for Him,
His way,
to point to His greatness
and to reflect His goodness.

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#41. Our hearts lie. Something can 'feel' right and be completely wrong.

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#42. Intimacy without commitment, like icing without cake, can be sweet, but it ends up making us sick.

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#43. True purity, however, is a direction, a persistent, determined pursuit of righteousness. This direction starts in the heart, and we express it in a lifestyle that flees opportunities for compromise.

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#44. When we define our happiness by some point in the future, it will never arrive. We'll keep waiting until tomorrow. If we allow impatience to govern us, we will miss the gift of the moment. We'll arrive at that point in time we expected to provide fulfillment and find it lacking.

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#45. What we say we believe makes very little difference until we act on our belief

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#46. The right thing at the wrong tme is the wrong thing.

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#47. The technology for a clothing printer exists but is not packaged in a form that would be suitable for consumer use. With the future potential of printing technology, an at-home clothing printer is a definite possibility. Our challenge was to define the experience.

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#48. We want to stay on the straight and narrow path and serve God, yet we continue a practice that often pulls us in the wrong direction.

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#49. Courtship is a commitment -
it's a promise not to play games with another person's heart.

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#50. I'm not saying dating is sinful, and I'm not saying a guy and a girl should never spend time alone together. I'm saying let's wait until we can be purposeful, so there's a reason behind our relationship, and we're not just stirring up passion for the sake of a good time.

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#51. I won't pretend that I've arrived at humble orthodoxy. When I gain a bit of theological knowledge, I all too frequently get puffed up with pride. But I'll tell you what deflates my arrogance and self-righteousness faster than anything else: trying to live whatever truth I have.

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#52. He chose to love us. He chose to lay down His life for us. The danger of believing that you "fall in love" is that it also means you can "fall out of love" just as unexpectedly. Aren't you glad that God's love for us isn't as unpredictable?

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#53. The best relationships are between two people who care more about each other's good than their own momentary pleasure.

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#54. Dating now is a lot like going shopping when you don't have any money. Even if you find the right thing, you can't do anything about it.

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#55. As I see it, dating is a product of our entertainment-driven, disposable-everything American culture ... Love and romance became things people could solely enjoy for their recreational value.

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#56. When you let God be God you can let humans be humans. When we place God in His rightful place in our lives, we don't struggle so much when human relationships let us down.

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#57. Lord, help me to appreciate this woman/man without elevating her/him above you in my heart. Help me to remember that nobody can ever take your place in my life. You are my strength, my hope, my joy, and my ultimate reward. Bring me back to reality, God. Give me an undivided heart.

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#58. How rare it is, even among Christians, for a person to say I was wrong. I sinned, and I'm fully responsible. My sinful desires motivated me, and what I did dishonored God and hurt you. Please forgive me.

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#59. Women need to remember that if nature has made them plain, grace can make them beautiful, and if nature has made them beautiful, good deeds can add to their beauty. Grace will make you beautiful and will attract truly godly men to you. Make godliness and inward beauty your priority.

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#60. The world takes us to a silver screen on which flickering images of passion and romance play, and as we watch, the world says, "This is love." God takes us to the foot of a tree on which a naked and bloodied man hangs and says, "This is love.

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#61. Just because lips have met doesn't mean hearts have joined. And just because two bodies are drawn to each other doesn't mean two people are right for each other. A physical relationship does not equal love.

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#62. God gave people 2 ears and 1 mouth because He wants us to listen twice as much as we talk.

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#63. You get up and you preach a sermon and people walk away thinking what a great guy - and that's a failure as a pastor. Our job is to proclaim Christ.

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#64. The joy of intimacy is the reward of commitment.

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#65. I won't stick around to see how much temptation I can take. God is not impressed with my ability to stand up to sin. He is more impressed by the obedience I show when I run from it.

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#66. If Jesus loves the church, you and I should, too. We can't use the excuse that the church has messed up too many times or that we're disillusioned. Jesus is the only person who has the right to disown and give up on the church. But He never has. And He never will.

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#67. Wisdom in relationships involves a selfless desire to do what's best for the other person.

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#68. We express true love in obedience to God and service to others- not reckless or selfish behavior- and we choose these behaviors.

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