Jane Lotter Quotes

#1. But nothing's really free, is it? People always make you pay one way or another.

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#2. The Bette Davis Club," she said. "You've joined, you're a member. It's my metaphor for any female - and there've been zillions - who gets a crush on a gay fellow, dates a gay fellow, or heaven help us, marries a gay fellow.

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#3. It was because I would ask myself, What is the point? I would stay away for a while. But I always came back.

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#4. I was thinking how most people don't make you feel much of anything at all. Don't make you feel like time spent with them has grace, like every moment in their company is a gift. But Finn did. Finn, my midsummer night's dream.

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#5. idea. But if you look at her early films, the best ones are all about Bette wanting a male she can't have: Dangerous. All This, and Heaven Too. Jezebel. The Letter. Now, Voyager. They're all about the unattainable. They're all about a woman desiring a man she can never possess.

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#6. I cannot deny that Vera, in her own way--in the way of all human beings who are kind and not cruel--really is lovely.

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#7. We're half siblings, after all. We share the same DNA - and in our family, DNA stands for Denial Now and Always.

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#8. I don't know if you're hip to this, but aside from genetics, the number one requirement for being a drunk is self-pity.

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#9. Myself, I knew a writer - not your father - who once told me his worst day writing was better than his best day not writing.

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#10. And may you always remember that obstacles in the path are not obstacles, they ARE the path.

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#11. Still, they must have got a few things right," Malcolm says. His green eyes sparkle. "You turned out beautifully, if I may say so."
"Oh, you can say it," I reply, taking a drag off my cigarette. "Whether or not I'll believe you is something else entirely.

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#12. I believe in giving as honest an answer as I can. Because perhaps if people spent more time being honest with each other, especially with children, there would be less unhappiness in the world.

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#13. But Finn was like no one else. He could be funny, teasing, informative all at once. I was discovering that smart, engaged dialogue with a man is extremely erotic. Cleverness is an aphrodisiac.

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