Jan Ellison Quotes

#1. When we arrived at the hospital, you were in a medically induced coma, which I was made to understand was a sort of freezing of you, a fabricated reprieve from your own body that would allow your internal organs to rest.

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#2. She moved across the pool deck with a languor, an unabashed sexual energy that made me feel like I was watching porn.

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#3. They say the human body can lose 50 percent of its body parts and survive. But it depends on which parts, and which body.

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#4. He had a strange way of talking, his head tucked into his neck and his eyes fixed in the empty space beyond, as if something were suspended there, ripe fruit or a glimmer of light, as if he were not quite brave enough, or perhaps too polite, to look a person in the eye.

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#5. I suppose unrequited love is the hardest kind to shed because it is not really love at all. It is a half-love, and we are forever stomping around trying to get hold of the other half.

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#6. People say a mother is only as happy as her least happy child. But what if the state of that child's happiness has become a mystery? What if that child is no longer a child but a young man who has removed himself to a great distance and encased himself in silence?

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#7. Hope doesn't like to be beaten down, though, does it? Hope is what gets us through. Hope, and the prayer it wants to become.

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#8. The heart is large, and there is more than one material in the bucket we call love.

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#9. They say people who are bipolar see colors differently when in a manic state. What did Emme see when I showed her the photo a few days later?

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#10. Actually, when a tree falls, it creates shock waves. And when the shock waves reach an ear or an artificial mechanism like a microphone, they're transmitted into what we call sound," you said. "The shock waves themselves are not sound.

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#11. Such a terrible word, terminate. A word from a brave new world in which only the flawless are allowed to be born.

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#12. We are only flesh and blood. We are only chemicals mixing and circuits firing, sometimes in disarray. We are, every last one of us, plagued by useless want.

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#13. Children will end up a world away, whether you want them to or not - unaware of the havoc being wreaked upon their histories back home.

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#14. we can achieve happiness not by remaking ourselves, but by subverting unhappiness.

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#15. Where were all the people I loved? I could feel them, flung about, the distance between us a crushing weight that I myself had put there.

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#16. He left without a smile, but he placed something in my chest, a hollow thing that left no room for the hope and happiness that had been condensing there.

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#17. But this time it was her other self I saw, not the dark fairy of want but a middle-aged woman, like the woman I am now, plain, chastened, mortal. The

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#18. After all, experiencing something is not the same as remembering it. A memory is by its nature a revision.

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#19. It seems to me now that what I wanted when I set off for Europe was not so much adventure as deliverance.

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#20. Unrequited love is the best kind of all. But I can tell you with certainty, Robbie, that the other kind of love, the kind I received from your father for more than two decades, is far more necessary.

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#21. It was pleasure derived not from parental pride, but from gratitude. We had been blessed by the existence on this earth of our three particular children, and we had been assigned a blessed task in keeping you all safe in the world.

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#22. Most never know the condition exists, because the single kidney grows large enough to accommodate

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#23. All of it was rushing together, making a psychedelic mess of my heart.

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#24. He somehow knew it was more important to be reassuring, to seem to be in command of the situation, than to be right. And he was always willing to give in when he was found out to be wrong. The

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#25. Stories don't like to end when you want them to, do they? Loose ends aren't easy to snip with scissors or tuck inside a hem. They tempt you. They want you to keep pulling until there is nothing left to keep you warm.

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#26. I closed my eyes. I dragged the memory of that day out of the darkness of time. I stepped through it, in my head, blurred image by blurred image, until finally, I saw it.

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#27. being born with only one kidney, occurring in roughly one in two thousand people.

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#28. I suppose that unrequited love is the hardest kind to shed because it is not really love at all. It is a half-love, and we are forever stomping around trying to get ahold of the other half.

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#29. It's not always wise to assume that just because the surface of the world appears undisturbed, life is where you left it.

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#30. Not a day or an hour and sometimes not even a moment in advance did I have any idea what Patrick had in mind for me, or whether he had me in mind at all. This uncertainty lay like a sore under the surface of my skin, erupting again and again, then subsiding, but never healing.

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#31. Denial, as any addict in recovery will tell you, is not defined as knowing something and pretending you don't; it is failing to see it at all.

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#32. It was possible to rush forward, looking back, and break your neck.

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#33. Perhaps blame is the way the universe organizes itself around tragedy and loss. Without blame, suffering is random, and that kind of randomness leads to madness.

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#34. Love's young dream, alas is over
Yet my strains of love shall hover

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#35. If, when I looked, I was not perfect, how could I be beautiful? And if I was not beautiful, how could I be loved? I was not the only woman who ran that script.

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#36. Let's all throw unhappiness overboard.

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#37. I told him because I wanted what everybody wants - to be known. To know oneself, and to tell the whole story of that self, and to be loved anyway.

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