Ariel Gore Quotes

#1. New Agers have always told us that we create our own realities. Mind over matter.

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#2. Researchers warn us against walking out on married life without a dang good reason.

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#3. I wanted to be a writer, so I became one. How? I wrote things down.

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#4. The first person who ever told me that happiness was work was this manic-depressive artist I knew when I was in my 20s. I was like, 'What are you talking about? Happiness just happens. That's even the root of that word. How could it be work?'

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#5. Some caregivers want to reciprocate the care they themselves received as children.

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#6. One thing that blocks flow is self-consciousness.

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#7. It is a great paradox and a great injustice that writers write because we fear death and want to leave something indestructible in our wake and, at the same time, are drawn to all the things that kill: whiskey and cigarettes, unprotected sex, and deep-fried burritos.

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#8. You always thought older people were wiser. It's not that. It's just that our relatives are dead and we're able to speak freely.

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#9. Looking for the perfect day is not going to make us happy, because that day isn't going to come.

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#10. All those people who rejected me gave me a head-start on freedom, because the fear and obedience we are all taught, well, those things weren't getting me any love.

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#11. I don't know if my mother was a narcissist - or bi-polar or borderline. Those were words she tossed around over the years.

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#12. The last introvert in a world of extroverts. Silence: my response to both emptiness and saturation. But silence frightens people. I had to learn how to talk. Out of politeness.

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#13. Artists and writers have to understand and live the truth that what we are doing is nourishing the world.

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#14. In my experience, staying in a marriage that my ex and I both agreed had all its best moments behind it was epically depressing.

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#15. With each beat, the heart pumps nearly three ounces of blood into the arteries
seventy-five to ninety gallons an hour when the body is at rest.

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#16. Nourish the world with your words, yo.

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#17. When you study postpartum depression, there is a very clear understanding that in communities where you see more support, there is less depression.

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#18. My own habit had always been to write about the things that ticked me off in a given day. If I kept a journal at all, I kept it to vent.

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#19. Poet' had always sounded like a profession to me, or a talent. But the dead American [Muriel Rukeyser, The Life of Poetry] made it sound like a faith.

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#20. A lot of women make choices based on how they saw their mother's choices working out, how they saw the choices of the women elders in their lives working out. There's some rebellion in that, but there's also some deep reflection.

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#21. In all of my looking at happiness, one thing I noticed right away is that the opposite of happiness isn't unhappiness or even depression, it's anxiety. It is something that can constantly block our happiness, or our chance to reach that sort of meditative state in our work or our home lives.

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#22. No one ever does the last thing on their list.

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#23. I always do like seeing other people dance in their cars. It's one of the things that makes me happy.

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#24. When I was a kid, my mother's parenting style teetered between benign neglect and intense bouts of violence.

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#25. I've never been socially outgoing, but I suspect I've gotten more and more ambivalent about making new friends. I'm irritated by how-do-you-do chit-chat, but that's how new relationships usually begin.

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#26. Conventional wisdom tells us we'll only be happier after a divorce if the marriage itself was a war zone.

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#27. If you need help or advice, ask for it, but don't worry too much about hurting other people's feelings by not doing what they say. If your gut says no, trust it. Do what seems right.

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#28. I'm sure there were plenty of loving, attentive mothers in the 'me generation,' but none of them lived at my house.

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#29. Before I published anything, I dreamed of publication, but I didn't actually write for it. I imagined that writing for an audience was something for fancier people. I aspired, but mostly I wrote for myself. I wrote because it made me happy.

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#30. Settling other people's land is an American tradition.

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#31. They say change gets more difficult as we get older - each year we're more stuck in our ways, more reluctant to learn something new.

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#32. Everything is freedom and everything is loneliness. Make your choice and let the rest fall away.

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#33. In our cultural history, all emotions have been more culturally acceptable to women.

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#34. Your heart is the size of your fist; keep loving, keep fighting.

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#35. A lot of positive psychology is stuck in being the psychology of privilege, and I reject that.

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