Top 66 Self Lerner Quotes
#1. Authors like reading. Go figure. So it's not surprising that we sometimes bog down in the research stage of new writing projects.
Edward M. Lerner
#2. Anger is a tool for change when it challenges us to become more of an expert on the self and less of an expert on others.
Harriet Lerner
#3. Some of the more fatuous flag-waving Americans are in danger of forgetting that you can't extract gratitude as you would extract a tooth; that unless friendship is freely given, it means nothing and less than nothing.
Max Lerner
#4. I don't want what we're doing to just end up as notes for a novel.
Ben Lerner
#5. I believe she imbued my body thus, finding every touch enhanced by ambiguity of intention, as if it too required translation, and so each touch branched out, became a variety of touches.
Ben Lerner
#6. Social media is an information channel; it's like radio or TV ... In Cisco, we made a lot of money on public protocol. I think the social media model replicates that protocol.
Sandra Lerner
#7. I could have spread my wings and done a thousand things I've never done before.
Alan Jay Lerner
#8. Yet all of us are vulnerable to intense, nonproductive angry reactions in our current relationships if we do not deal openly and directly with emotional issues from our first family - in particular, losses and cutoffs.
Harriet Lerner
#9. We cannot live by power, and a culture that seeks to live by it becomes brutal and sterile. But we can die without it.
Max Lerner
#10. An intimate relationship is one in which neither party silences, sacrifices, or betrays the self and each party expresses strength and vulnerability, weakness and competence in a balanced way.
Harriet Lerner
#11. I don't think "I'm going to publish this as fiction" but I think "I'm going to tell this story to a friend" and then I start telling the story in my mind as the experience transpires as a way of pretending it's already happened.
Ben Lerner
#12. Either men will learn to live like brothers, or they will die like beasts.
Max Lerner
#13. There is a hate layer of opinion and emotion in America. There will be other McCarthys to come who will be hailed as its heroes.
Max Lerner
#14. What SF author or fan isn't interested in human space travel? I've yet to meet one.
Edward M. Lerner
#15. Historically, if you look at people like George Washington and Thomas Jefferson, people with disposable incomes have always been agricultural innovators.
Sandra Lerner
#16. Although it's not useful to drown in despair, it's also not useful to keep a 'positive attitude' when this means concealing or denying real emotions.
Harriet Lerner
#17. I think the parable is a peculiar way of saying that redemption is immanent whether or not it's imminent, that the world to come is in a sense always already here, if still unavailable. I find this idea powerful for several reasons. For one thing, it's an antidote to despair.
Ben Lerner
#18. The strongest relationships are between two people who can live without each other but don't want to.
Harriet Lerner
#19. Love wasn't selfless, and it wasn't selfish either. Love was equality. It was saying that another person's self was just as important as yours, and expecting them to feel the same way.
Rose Lerner
#20. There's a widespread belief that if you have solid self-esteem you don't need outside affirmation and praise. This is patently untrue, by the way.
Harriet Lerner
#21. Only through our connectedness to others can we really know and enhance the self. And only through working on the self can we begin to enhance our connectedness to others.
Harriet Lerner
#22. Black people cannot and will not become integrated into American society on any terms but those of self-determination and autonomy.
Gerda Lerner
#23. Just remember that this relationship is based on mutual trust and respect, so never reveal your true self.
Betsy Lerner
#24. Many of our problems with anger occur when we choose between having a relationship and having a self.
Harriet Lerner
#26. Nothing was a more powerful compass of my mood or a better indication of my self-worth than the number on the scale.
Betsy Lerner
#27. And because his narrator was characterized above all by his anxiety regarding the disconnect between his internal experience and his social self-presentation,
Ben Lerner
#28. The problem is that if you're self-conscious about being a person on whom nothing is lost, isn't something lost - some kind of presence? You're distracted by trying to be totally, perfectly impressionable.
Ben Lerner
#29. Self-help books for women are part of a multibillion-dollar industry, sensitively attuned to our insecurities and our purses.
Harriet Lerner
#30. If you look at any of the big companies, whether it is IBM or L'Oreal, they have a corporate religion and corporate self-image that makes it very difficult for them to execute in different areas.
Sandra Lerner
#31. Feeling essentially superior to other people is as sure a sign of poor self-esteem as feeling essentially inferior.
Harriet Lerner
#32. experience of our self and the other person becomes fixed and small. My goal is to challenge us to engage in novel conversations that will create a larger, more empowering view of who we are and what is truly possible.
Harriet Lerner
#33. One doesn't just wander unvetted into someone else's epic interstellar future history.
Edward M. Lerner
#34. There is unspeakable yet entirely preventable suffering in this world. The job of journalists and writers engaged with global issues is to articulate the unspeakable and give voice to solutions.
K. Lee Lerner
K. Lee Lerner
#35. Don't use "below-the-belt" tactics. These include: blam- ing, interpreting, diagnosing, labeling, analyzing, preaching, moralizing, ordering, warning, interrogating, ridiculing, and lecturing. Don't put the other person down.
Harriet Lerner
#36. Asking for advice about what you should write is a little like asking for help getting dressed. I can you tell you what I think looks good, but you have to wear it. And as every fashion victim knows, very few people look good in everything.
Betsy Lerner
#37. Next to the striking of fire and the discovery of the wheel, the greatest triumph of what we call civilization was the domestication of the human male.
Max Lerner
#38. I understood Truman Capote's brilliant assessment of the writer's dilemma: When God hands you a gift, he also hands you a whip.
Betsy Lerner
#39. The secret to the city is integration. Every area of the city should combine work, leisure and culture. Separate these functions and parts of the city die.
Jaime Lerner
#40. Anything that can unambiguously represent two values - while resisting, just a wee bit, randomly flipping from the state you want retained into the opposite state - can encode binary data.
Edward M. Lerner
#41. Telling a true story about personal experience is not just a matter of being oneself, or even or finding oneself. It is also a matter of choosing oneself.
Harriet Lerner
#42. They would ask people to do
something that is wrong? I thought angels were ... " She stumbled, trying to
think of a word to describe her preconceived notion. "Angelic," Jaycie Lerner
Natasha Larry
#43. There are some who become spies for money, or out of vanity and megalomania, or out of ambition, or out of a desire for thrills. But the malady of our time is of those who become spies out of idealism.
Max Lerner
#44. Do not confuse your vested interests with ethics. Do not identify the enemies of your privilege with the enemies of humanity.
Max Lerner
#45. [I]t's the child writer who has figured out, early on, that writing is about saving your soul.
Betsy Lerner
#46. People say things die in winter, but it isn't true, mostly. They just gather their strength.
Rose Lerner
#47. Women's history is the
primary tool for women's emancipation.
Gerda Lerner
#48. You know teenage boys, you own one-Mason Lerner
Natasha Larry
#49. venting anger does not solve the problem that anger signals.
Harriet Lerner
#50. The taste of democracy becomes a bitter taste when the fullness of democracy is denied.
Max Lerner
#51. Back home everyone said I didn't have any talent. They might be saying the same thing here but it sounds better in French.
Alan Jay Lerner
#52. Maybe I liked his sculpture more when I couldn't get close to it, had to see it from a fixed position through a pane of glass, so that I had to project myself into the encounter with its three-dimensionality.
Ben Lerner
#53. In our rich consumers' civilization we spin cocoons around ourselves and get possessed by our possessions.
Max Lerner
#54. Each member of this shadowy network resented the others, who were irritating reminders that nothing was more American, whatever that means, than fleeing the American, whatever that is, and that their soft version of self-imposed exile was just another of late empire's packaged tours.
Ben Lerner
#55. I want to believe humanity has not forgotten how to explore.
Edward M. Lerner
#56. A religion which has lost its basic conviction about the interconnection of men with men in their common struggles for the human, will never command belief in the realm of the superhuman.
Max Lerner
#57. The best thing about lying in bed late is that you learn to distinguish between first things and trivia, for whatever presses on you has to prove its importance before it makes you move.
Max Lerner
#58. Because religious institutions are not afraid to talk about love as a goal, they are likely to be more effective at providing community services.
Michael Lerner
#59. Energy always flows either toward hope, community, love, generosity, mutual recognition, and spiritual aliveness or it flows toward despair, cynicism, fear that there is not enough, paranoia about the intentions of others, and a desire to control.
Michael Lerner
#60. The more we seek exclusivity in friendship, the more it becomes obligatory and the less likely it is to fulfill the wonderful vision of what true friendship can be.
Harriet Lerner
#61. Few real people appear in my two novels, actually. "Ari" appears on the edge of this book a couple of times - but on the edge, she's never in it, even if she's a determining force from the outside. Everybody in the first book was basically made up, if never from scratch.
Ben Lerner
#62. Americans live in a twilight world between a sense of loss and a sense of resigned acceptance.
Max Lerner
#63. Nothing you say can ensure that the other person will get it, or respond the way you want. You may never exceed his threshold of deafness.
Harriet Lerner
#64. If I was a poet, I had become one because poetry, more intensely than any other practice, could not evade its anachronism and marginality and so constituted a kind of acknowledgment of my own preposterousness, admitting my bad faith in good faith, so to speak.
Ben Lerner
#65. I always try to say, 'If you want to help the environment, try to do just two things. One, use less of your car. Second, separate your garbage.'
Jaime Lerner
#66. When you choose the lesser of two evils, always remember that it is still an evil.
Max Lerner
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