Quotes About Codependency

#1. Except for normal human emotions we would be feeling anyway, and twinges of discomfort as we begin to behave differently, recovery from codependency is exciting. It is liberating. It lets us be who we are. It lets other people be who they are.

Melody Beattie

#2. But codependency is inappropriate, over-the-top loyalty, caring and supportiveness.

David Stafford

#3. We breathe, Lily defends our relationship. My brows rise. Let's not kid ourselves. We struggle with our codependency on a daily basis.

Krista Ritchie

#4. Love is not emotional attachment or codependency. Love is being complete without needing to have another person by your side.

Cloris Kylie

#5. Recovery [from codependency] may not always be comfortable at first for the other people in one's life. But it is always worth it because, actually, nobody ever respects a 'doormat'.

David Stafford

#6. Codependency is about normal behaviors taken too far. It's about crossing lines.

Melody Beattie

#7. So many mothers are unable to let their children go into the adult life and become literally attached to them giving rise to codependency

Sunday Adelaja

#8. Don't give up hope. It took many of us twenty years or more to acquire these protective behaviors we umbrella with the word codependency. It may take as much time as that to let go of them.

Melody Beattie

#9. There are only two states of being in the world of codependency - recovery and denial.

Wendy Kaminer

#10. The fear of man is no respecter of persons. It might be called codependency by adults, peer pressure with teens, and shyness with children, but whatever it is called, it all betrays the same idolatrous heart.

Edward T. Welch

#11. If you ever feel the person in your life needs rescuing, particularly from him or herself - beware. Codependency is rearing its head again.

David Stafford

#12. Wounded parents often unintentionally inflict pain and suffering on their children and these childhood wounds causes a laundry list of maladaptive behaviors commonly called codependency. These habits restrict people to love-limiting relationships causing much unhappiness and distress.

David W. Earle

#13. Those who truly love and respect you will respect your boundaries. I think freeing oneself from codependency and fear is vital for well-being.

Maria Canals Barrera

#14. Codependency is a learned set of behaviors, thought processes, and habits. When combined together, they fit a very loose definition. All people exhibit these traits to some degree, but some of us allow them to dictate our relationships with others and ourselves.

David W. Earle

#15. If we want to improve, first we have to recognize our own maladaptive coping skills, called codependency, then change.

David W. Earle

#16. There are two questions a man must ask himself: The first is 'Where am I going?' and the second is 'Who will go with me?'
If you ever get these questions in the wrong order you are in trouble.

Sam Keen

#17. Fuck 'em. Call it whatever you want. Maybe it's just two people clinging to each other to stay alive. Maybe sometimes that's all love gets to be. And, maybe, if they hold onto each other long enough ... maybe something good finally happens.

Rick Remender

#18. You're what gives me strength. If I am what centers you, Nikki, then you are what anchors me. Every time I touch you, every time I bury myself deep inside you - Nikki, don't you see?
You are the talisman of my life, and if I lose my grip on you, then I have lost myself.

J. Kenner

#19. Codependents are reactionaries. They overreact. They under-react. But rarely do they act. They react to the problems, pains, lives, and behaviors of others. They react to their own problems, pains, and behaviors.

Melody Beattie

#20. Whenever you feel compelled to put others first at the expense of yourself, you are denying your own reality, your own identity.

David Stafford

#21. Problems arise when people act as if their "boulders" are daily loads, and refuse help, or as if their "daily loads" are boulders they shouldn't have to carry. The results of these two instances are either perpetual pain or irresponsibility.

Henry Cloud

#22. I'm constantly agitated, restless - I work moments like worry beads until I see your face ...

John Geddes

#23. When you give another person the power to define you, then you also give them the power to control you.

Leslie Vernick

#24. This dissociation from the body extends to emotional disengagement. Without access to his feelings a man can't help but lose track of who he is, what his priorities are and what is normal for him.

Mary Crocker Cook

#25. Fear in the biblical sense ... includes being afraid of someone, but it extends to holding someone in awe, being controlled or mastered by people, worshipping other people, putting your trust in people, or needing people.

Edward T. Welch

#26. Tell me, is there someone in your life who's been sharing your life too closely? A friend or a loved one? Is there someone who's been taking up your time and not giving any of it back?

Alexandra Kleeman

#27. There's always something in it for the person who is allowing to be taken advantage of. - Psychotherapist David in Type 1 Sociopath

P.A. Speers

#28. Contacting and living from our True Self is the central task of personal growth.

Charles L. Whitfield

#29. There's no point in fighting for a woman that is rude and boring, just because she's hot. Such woman shortens your lifespan.

Daniel Marques

#30. It is one thing to know about your dysfunctional habits but quite another to change them.

David W. Earle

#31. Resist trying to be what other people want you to be. Anyone in your life who tries to change you is really saying: as I can't control myself I will try and control you. By the same token, don't attempt to control other people's behaviour - it's not your place.

David Stafford

#32. A codependent person is one who has let another person's behavior affect him or her, and who is obsessed with controlling that person's behavior.

Melody Beattie

#33. This imbalance causes resentments within the over-responsible and dependency with the irresponsible person and this dynamic becomes the destructive life-pattern not conducive to happy families.

David W. Earle