Top 100 Melody Beattie Quotes
#1. Gratitude - practicing gratitude. "Gratitude turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos into order, confusion into clarity...it makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow." Melody Beattie
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#2. Gratitude isn't a tool to manipulate the universe or God. It's a way to acknowledge our faith that everything happens for a reason even if we don't know what that reason is. ~Melody Beattie, 52 Weeks of Conscious Contact, pg. 34.
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#3. Today I will learn to reject shame. Shame is an overwhelming sense that who I am isn't good enough. I realize that I am good enough, and that my imperfections are part of being human. I let go of shame.
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#5. When you wonder what is coming, tell yourself the best is coming, the very best life and love have to offer, the best God and His universe have to send. Then open your hands to receive it. It's yours.
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#6. Seek healing, a refilling of energy and spirit, as soon as you see that you need it. You don't have to push yourself to give, do, or perform when what your body, mind, soul and emotions need is to heal.
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#7. You don't have to search so hard for meaning and destiny. If you focus on keeping yourself clear and in balance and you live from your heart, destiny and your highest-good path will unfold naturally at your feet.
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#8. I trust so much in the power of the heart and the soul; I know that the answer to what we need to do next is in our own hearts. All we have to do is listen, then take that one step further and trust what we hear. We will be taught what we need to learn.
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#9. Embrace and love all of yourself - past, present, and future. Forgive yourself quickly and as often as necessary. Encourage yourself. Tell yourself good things about yourself.
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#10. When we're surrounded by things that look impossible, making a simple choice to do something that's possible is a powerful thing to do.
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#11. Today, I will let go. I will stop trying to control everything. I will stop trying to make myself be and do better, and I will let myself be.
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#12. Our best problem-solving resource is peace. Solutions arise easily and naturally out of a peaceful state.
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#13. A codependent person is one who has let another person's behavior affect him or her, and who is obsessed with controlling that person's behavior.
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#14. Whatever we try to control does have control over us and our life.
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#15. Choosing to take responsibility for ourselves and for the consequences our choices create looks like hard work, but it really sets us free.
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#16. We decided that sooner or later you had to learn to live without almost everybody, at least for a while. Even people you didn't think you could live without. p 167
love always found itself again.
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#17. Today I will do something just for the fun of it. I will find something to do that's just for me and I won't worry about what I should be doing. I will learn how to make myself feel good and enjoy life to the fullest.
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#19. Recovery is not only fun, it is simple. It is not always easy, but it is simple. It is based on a premise many of us have forgotten or never learned: Each person is responsible for him- or herself. It involves learning one new behavior that we will devote ourselves to: taking care of ourselves.
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#20. Rest when you're tired. Take a break when life stales. Take time to recharge your battery. Energy isn't something you have - it's something you are. To give and give and give, to put out without taking in, depletes your battery. It drains you, runs you down.
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#22. Feeling good about ourselves is a choice. So is feeling guilty.
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#23. I want people who have received a diagnosis of Hepatitis C to know that they didn't just receive a death sentence. They do have options, even if the person who gave them their diagnosis isn't aware of all of them. The path they choose doesn't have to be one of desperation.
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#24. Spontaneity emerges as our confidence and trust in ourselves increase, and we become more secure in our ability to maintain healthy boundaries.
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#25. If we are unhappy without a relationship, we'll probably be unhappy with one as well. A relationship doesn't begin our life; a relationship doesn't become our life. A relationship is a continuation of life.
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#26. Like it or not, i was already learning that in the worst and darkest time, I would find specks of light, moments of joy. What I didn't want to learn was the other, harsher lesson - that in life's brightest moments there would also be unbearable pain. p 87
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#27. Today, I will know that I don't have to worry about anything. If I do worry, I will do it with the understanding that I am choosing to worry, and it is not necessary.
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#28. I'd like to make a motion that we face reality. - BOB NEWHART, FROM THE BOB NEWHART SHOW
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#29. Today I will honor, cherish, and love myself. When I get confused about what to do, I just have to remember that I need to be true to myself. I will break free of the hold that others-and their expectations-ha ve on me.
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#30. It's not what we don't know that hurts us, people say. It's what we believe is true that isn't that does the damage.
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#31. We do not lead others into the Light by stepping into the darkness with them.
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#32. What's a codependent? The answer's easy. They're some of the most loving, caring people I know.
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#33. It's hard to give up the self-esteem connected to being codependent and appearing 'right,' which is probably a survival behavior learned from growing up in a crazy family. It feels like you will actually disappear.
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#34. As I've said before, no wonder we think God has abandoned us; we've abandoned ourselves.
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#35. Remember to be kind. Remember to be loving.
Remember to feel all your feelings and to take care of yourself.
But most of all, remember to be happy.
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#36. God loves me enough to let me go through all the lessons I came here to learn, even the ones that hurt the most. His presence doesn't deny me. It's always there to help me see and understand what I came to this planet to learn.
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#37. Except for normal human emotions we would be feeling anyway, and twinges of discomfort as we begin to behave differently, recovery from codependency is exciting. It is liberating. It lets us be who we are. It lets other people be who they are.
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#38. Today, I will wait if the way is not clear. I will trust that out of the chaos will come clarity.
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#39. The more we are focused on controlling and changing others, the more unmanageable our life becomes. The more we focus on living our own life, the more we have a life to live, and the more manageable our life will become.
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#40. Today I will focus on a peaceful pace, rather than a harried one. I will keep moving forward gently, not frantically. I will let go of my need to be anxious and upset and will replace these feelings with calmness and harmony.
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#41. Each moment in time we have it all, even when we think we don't.
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#42. We can ask for information and use words to forge a closer connection, but we don't have to take people around the block with our conversations. We don't have to listen to, or participate in, nonsense. We can say what we want and stop when we're done.
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#43. Few things can make us feel crazier than expecting something from someone who has nothing to give.
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#44. Few things can frustrate us more than trying to make a person someone he or she isn't; we feel crazy when we try to pretend that person is someone he or she is not.
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#45. Today, I will let things happen without worrying about the significance of each event. I will trust that this will bring about my growth faster than running around with a microscope. I will trust my lessons to reveal themselves in their own time.
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#46. The vocation of putting people straight, of tearing off their masks, of forcing them to face the repressed truth, is a highly dangerous and destructive calling,
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#47. The more we learn to love and respect ourselves, the more we will become attracted to people who will love and respect us and who we can safely love and respect.
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#48. Guilt can prevent us from setting the boundaries that would be in our best interests, and in other people's best interests.
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#49. Some therapists have proclaimed: 'Co-dependency is anything, and everyone is co-dependent.'
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#50. I used to spend so much time reacting and responding to everyone else that my life had no direction. Other people's lives, problems, and wants set the course for my life. Once I realized it was okay for me to think about and identify what I wanted, remarkable things began to take place in my life.
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#51. Feel what you feel, know what you know, and set your relatives free to do the same.
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#52. You don't blast a heart open," she said. "You coax and nurture it open, like the sun does to a rose.
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#53. Today, I will apply the concept of detachment, to the best of my ability, in my relationships. If I can't let go completely, I'll try to "hang on loose.
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#54. In martial arts, every time you graduate, move to another level, you don't forget everything you've done. You build on it, but it's always there.
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#55. Sometimes, we don't get what we want ... But this is a benevolent universe. And once in a while, we do.
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#57. Of all the judgments that we pass in life, none is as important as the one we pass on ourselves, for that judgment touches the very center of our existence. ... No significant aspect of our thinking, motivation, feelings, or behavior is unaffected by our self-evaluation ... .
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#58. God, help me let go of my need to deprive myself of being alive.
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#59. When we don't ask for what we want and need, we discount ourselves.
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#60. A man went to Istanbul, his first visit there. On his way to a business meeting, this man lost his way. He began raging at himself for getting lost, until a realization allowed him to transcend his ire. "How can I be lost? I've never been here before?" pp 104-105
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#61. Map Your Own Journey Go on your own journey. Don't let others hold you back; don't hold them back. Don't judge their journey, and don't let them judge yours. All persons are free to have the experiences their souls lead them to.
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#62. When our heart is broken, we can't hear it. And when we can't hear our heart, we can't hear God.
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#63. The greatest gift we can bring to any relationship wherever we go is being who we are.
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#64. God, help me remember that when I admit and accept the truth, I'll be given the power and guidance to change.
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#65. Twelve-step promotes spirituality, not religion. It gives a practical, day-to-day spirituality that tells me what I can and cannot control. There is room to be imperfect and to be someone who struggles to find God.
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#66. There are almost as many definitions of co-dependency as there are experiences that represent it.
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#67. There is honor in all work, in all tasks, but take it one step further. Make what you do a labor of love. Then your work will truly touch and change the world in the way you desire. The work you do, whatever your chosen field, will be work that heals.
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#68. We can say what we need to say. We can gently, but assertively, speak our mind. We do not need to be judgmental, tactless, blaming or cruel when we speak our truths
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#69. Can you feel the rush? Listen quietly. It's there. It's the sound of a life and spirit being set free. God, help me set myself free from ridiculous and unnecessary expectations.
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#70. Codependents appear to be depended upon, but they are dependent.
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#71. Today, I will trust that God will do for me what I cannot do for myself. I will do my part - working the Twelve Steps and letting God do the rest.
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#72. Real power comes when we stop holding others responsible for our pain, and we take responsibility for all our feelings.
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#73. Be patient. Relax and trust. Let go. Then, let go some more.
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#74. The only limitations on you are the ones you've placed on yourself.
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#75. People and things don't stop our pain or heal us. In recovery, we learn that this is our job, and we can do it by using our resources: ourselves, our Higher Power, our support systems, and our recovery program.
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#76. Prayer changes things. Prayer changes us. Prayer changes life. Sometimes an event has been manifested that needs to be stopped, midair. Don't pray just when you're in trouble. Pray every day. Surround yourself with prayer. You never know when you might need an extra miracle.
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#77. Quit hanging on to the handrails ... Let go. Surrender. Go for the ride of your life. Do it every day.
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#78. Guilt can stop us from taking healthy care of ourselves.
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#79. Today, I will focus on having a good relationship with myself.
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#80. Today, I will focus on what's right about me. I will give myself some of the caring I've extended to the world.
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#81. If you have done nothing to feel embarrassed about, don't feel embarrassed. I know this is a tough concept, but it can be mastered.
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#82. What do you do when life blindfolds you and spins you around? We think it's our fault, that we're to blame, when really we should be focused on being gentle with ourselves.
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#83. Today I will stop trying to control my relationships. I will participate at a reasonable level and let the other person do the same. I can let go, knowing that the relationship will find its own life-or not-and that I don't have to do all the work, only my share.
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#84. Today, God, help me practice the concept of acceptance in my life. Help me accept myself, others, and my circumstances. Take me one step further, and help me feel grateful.
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#85. Goals give us direction. They put a powerful force into play on a universal, conscious, and subconscious level. Goals give our life direction.
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#86. Ultimately, too much dependency on a person can kill love. Relationships based on emotional insecurity and need, rather than on love, can become self-destructive. They don't work. Too much need drives people away and smothers love. It scares people away.
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#88. Gratitude turns negative energy into positive energy. There is no situation or circumstance so small or large that it is not susceptible to gratitude's power.
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#89. Today I will realize that I'm powerless over other people's expectations of me. I'll think about what I want and consider that how I respond to others' needs will affect the course of my life. I will own my own power and choose the course that's right for me.
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#90. Resentments are hardened chunks of anger. They loosen up and dissolve with forgiveness and letting go.
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#91. We cannot change others, but when we change ourselves, we may end up changing the world.
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#92. We are on a very rich emotional and physical journey on this planet.
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#94. If somebody rejects you or your choices, you are still real, and you are still worth every bit as much as you would be if you had not been rejected.
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#95. Today, I will not wait for others to see and care; I will take responsibility for being aware of my pain and problems, and caring about myself.
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#96. The formula is simple: In any given situation, detach and ask, What do I need to do to take care of myself?
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#97. Expressing passion and gratitude will guide your life. Say it again and again. Say it until you believe it. Say it until you live it.
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#98. For God hath not given us the spirit of fear, but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.1 - II TIMOTHY 1:7
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#99. Life is always moving, changing, shifting into its next shape. The movement is natural. It is how we evolve. Let the shifts happen. Take responsibility for yourself each step of the way. Trust the new shape and form of your world
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#100. Sharing the emotional part of us with others creates closeness and intimacy. Also, being accepted by someone else for being who we are helps us accept ourselves. This is always a marvelous experience.
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