Top 100 Helen Fisher Quotes
#1. The anthropologist Helen Fisher, in Why We Love, has beautifully expressed the insanity of romantic love, and how over-the-top it is compared with what might seem strictly necessary.
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#3. When people tell you to walk a certain way, it's like not thinking of a purple tomato. You can't not do it.
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#4. Every time you cuddle with your children, you're likely to be driving down your testosterone.
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#5. The only people you and I are likely to know in common are people in the news - politicians, journalists and celebrities.
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#6. Of all the foods we share, there is nothing more primordial than meat. It's no surprise that meat-eaters still want a partner who will give, receive and share this primordial symbol of a budding partnership.
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#7. I think you will find that with divorce will come happier remarriages.
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#8. Natural beauty really entices men. They will tell you this time and time again, and studies consistently prove it.
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#9. Since when is anyone truly honest with anyone?
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#10. For so many generations, a woman's only career path was to marry well and to marry up. Those days have changed.
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#11. You fall in love with somebody who fits within what I call your 'love map,' an unconscious list of traits that you build in childhood as you grow up. And I also think that you gravitate to certain people, actually, with somewhat complementary brain systems.
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#12. Whether you're married or not, relationships - and the satisfaction tied to them - are extremely important for increasing men's and women's quality of life.
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#13. I don't think we're an animal that was built to be happy; we are an animal that was built to reproduce.
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#14. The brain was not built to walk into a bar, where you know nobody, and start a conversation. That's not the way humanity has courted.
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#16. Mothers really were not built to raise babies not only by themselves, but with only a partner. For millions of years, a woman had much more than just her husband to help rear her young ... This whole idea of 'it takes a village to raise a child' is exactly how we're supposed to live.
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#19. If two very different people pool their DNA, they'll create more genetic variety, and their young will come to the job of parenting with a wider array of skills.
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#20. A lot of people head into courtship looking for fireworks. Don't pass up a chance by dumping someone after a first date because you don't feel the fireworks. The fireworks can happen at any time and be maintained.
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#21. Young women today do not marry the men they met in high school, or even the one they go out with at college, because they do not need to.
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#22. A lot of people have been romantically in love with somebody who they feel wasn't appropriate to marry.
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#23. Hair that looks like it's been naturally sun-bleached makes you seem youthful, like you spend a lot of time outdoors. And that appeals to most people.
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#24. Romantic love allows you to focus mating energy. Attachment sustains that relationship as long as necessary to raise your baby.
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#25. Office romances are few, short, and not usually destructive.
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#26. Both sexes like the exercise and challenge of sports, but for men it's also a basic display behavior for impressing and winning a mate.
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#27. Men tend to be hierarchical, but women are driven to make lateral connections so they can cooperate.
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#28. Men don't need linguistic talent; they just need courage and words.
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#29. There exists no culture in which adultery is unknown, no cultural device or code that extinguishes philandering.
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#30. When you can't have someone but you're not willing to accept that, you try harder and become more extreme about it. Either you win the person back or you drive him away.
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#31. It's in our genes, we were built to wander.
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#32. As women in industrial societies join the paid workforce, they gain the economic means to depart unhappy marriages more easily.
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#33. Men fall in love faster than, and just as often as, women.
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#34. In general, men are wired to notice obvious signs that convey interest in mating - a warm smile, for example - and ignore other subtleties, like if your lipstick is faded.
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#36. When you massage someone, the levels of oxytocin go up in the brain, and oxytocin is one of the chemicals that drives attachment.
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#37. A hundred years ago, if you had a child out of marriage, you'd be a social disgrace. Today women feel comfortable enough economically and culturally to bring up a child without a recognized commitment from a man.
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#38. When you fight, anger drives up testosterone in both men and women.
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#39. Love is like Someone is camping in your head
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#40. It certainly would have been adaptive for ancestral man to have a chubby wife during stressful times of famine. Not only would she have had more calories to burn, and thus more energy and endurance, but since fat stores estrogen, she would have remained fertile for longer.
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#41. Today, American women bear an average of 2.2 children that live to adulthood. Across most of Europe, women bear even fewer young.
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#42. Research shows that couples who have a lot of similarities, including intellectual compatibility, end up staying together.
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#43. There is more and more data indicating that there is a biological basis to your political views.
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#44. Almost always, when I'm on TV, the producers who call me, who negotiate what we're going to say, is a woman.
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#45. A woman of 40 or 50 or 60 can take estrogen replacements, get facelifts, spend her money in bars.
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#46. I've always maintained that men were more romantic than women.
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#47. We all have restlessness in long-term relationships.
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#48. Until recently, we regarded love as supernatural. We were willing to study the brain chemistry of fear and depression and anger but not love.
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#49. Men with high baseline levels of testosterone marry less frequently, have more adulterous affairs, commit more spousal abuse, and divorce more often.
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#50. Men are so visual, they see a woman who appeals to them physically, and it will trigger the romantic love system faster.
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#51. You've got to remember that men are men and women are women. And although a lot of similarities, there are some real differences.
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#52. The Internet lets women use words, which is their natural tool. Little girls speak in more complex, grammatical sentences than little boys do, and women never lose that superiority in verbal ability.
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#53. Games are the way we keep romance alive. They're based in human hardwiring. Playing hard-to-get or leaving a little to the imagination allows the woman to be wooed and appreciated and the man to be challenged and intrigued.
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#54. Women have never been as interesting as they are now. Not at any time on this planet have women been so educated, so interesting, so capable.
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#55. [Women] tend to collect more pieces of data when they think, put them into more complex patterns, see more options and outcomes. They tend to be contextual, holistic thinkers.
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#56. Saliva has testosterone and estrogen. When you kiss, you're having a chemical experience.
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#57. Women spend their lives trying to look good for men. So a woman who feels she's sending the right visual signals is pleased with herself.
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#58. Real competition can drive up testosterone, which boosts libido.
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#59. Along with our many human propensities, we evolved a huge cerebral cortex with which we make decisions.
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#60. Like most animals, we're wired to associate height with power.
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#61. As social animals, we need to exchange juicy tales about someone - to connect with one another. For millions of years our forebears must have sat around the campfire, whispering about everyone they knew.
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#62. Women, it turns out, are built to lead - particularly in the modern world.
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#63. Women are better at reading body language everywhere in the world. As a matter of fact, it's associated with the female hormone estrogen. Women are better at figuring out of tone of voice, reading your face and posture and gesture.
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#64. A Rolex watch or an expensive car are the things guys often use to show status, wealth, and basic desirability.
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#65. From my studies of genetics and neuroscience I have come to believe that people fall into four broad personality types - each influenced by a different brain chemical: I call them the Explorer, Builder, Director, and Negotiator.
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#66. Liberals and conservatives are looking for entirely different things. Their attitudes toward romance and how they court are really dramatically different. There's almost no overlap.
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#67. Men couldn't care less if your strands are perfectly styled and neat. In fact, he might like you more with some wildness or bedhead, since it shows you're carefree and relaxed.
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#68. Men want to think women don't cheat, and women want men to think they don't cheat, and therefore the sexes have been playing a little psychological game with each other.
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#69. Nobody gets out of love alive. You turn into a menace or a pest when you've been rejected.
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#70. Romantic love is one of the most addictive substances on Earth.
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#71. Falling in love was not really a choice; it just struck me.
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#72. As a group, anthropologists are not too fond of people who work in the business world.
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#73. My hypothesis is that conservative Republicans have very clear values, and when you have that, you're simply more relaxed.
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#74. You can be instantly scared. You can be instantly happy. So why can't you be instantly romantically in love? I think when it happens, it's because you are ready to fall in love.
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#75. We still have community, but we don't seem to have local community. Even in a small town where you know your neighbors and your mother's down the street, they're not in arm's length.
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#76. Jealousy can even be good for love. One partner may feel secretly flattered when the other is mildly jealous. And catching someone flirting with your beloved can spark the kind of lust and romance that reignites a relationship.
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#77. Romantic love is an obsession. It possesses you. You lose your sense of self. You can't stop thinking about another human being.
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#78. I can't conceive of caring more about my president than my own partner.
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#79. Globalization requires taking a broad contextual and long-term view.
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#80. High heels can literally raise your
status because you're taller when you wear them.
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#81. After a man falls madly in love, he no longer cares how old she is.
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#82. I think that property is very important in this day and age. It defines you; you worked hard to get it. It's meaningful to you, and when you divorce, a lot of people have a lot of battles over their property for good reasons.
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#83. Once you fall for someone, their smell can be a powerful thing. Women will wear their boyfriends' T-shirts, and throughout tales in history men have held on to their lover's handkerchief.
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#84. Blushing is thought to be linked to increased levels of norepinephrine in the brain, which may be associated with romantic feelings. It signals that we are interested and excited, which is attractive to men.
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#85. It's almost as if men who get tribal tattoos are trying to signal that they are dangerous, they're to be respected, and they're powerful.
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#86. Romantic love is an addiction: a perfectly wonderful addiction when it's going well, and a perfectly horrible addiction when it's going poorly.
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#87. You know, when you've been dumped, the one thing you love to do is just forget about this human being, and then go on with your life - but no, you just love them harder.
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#88. As societies continue to loosen their standards regarding what is appropriate female and male behavior, I think we are going to realize we have not only underestimated women, but also men.
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#89. Experiences shape the brain, but the brain shapes the way we view experiences, too.
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#90. For men, being too put-together implies femininity.
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#91. Any kind of novelty or excitement drives up dopamine in the brain, and dopamine is associated with romantic love.
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#92. Anthropologists have found evidence of romantic love in 170 societies. They've never found a society that did not have it.
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#93. Men and women are like two feet; they can help each other get ahead.
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#94. People live for love. They kill for love. They die for love. They have songs, poems, novels, sculptures, paintings, myths, legends. It's one of the most powerful brain systems on Earth for both great joy and great sorrow.
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#95. Women are naturally prone to compete over their mates.
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#96. Why do we feel jealousy? Therapists often regard the demon as a scar of childhood trauma or a symptom of a psychological problem. And it's true that people who feel inadequate, insecure, or overly dependent tend to be more jealous than others.
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#97. If we remained perpetually infatuated, we couldn't eat, sleep or work.
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#98. Touch is the mother of the senses. Not only are women more sensitive when they touch, but they're also more sensitive to being touched.
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#99. Scientists know that women gravitate to men who have a different immune system from theirs.
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#100. Your face and head give more information about you than any other body part.
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