Harville Quotes

#1. We become extraordinary when we realize how extraordinary our existence is.

Anis Mojgani

#2. Oh, they have robbed me of the hope. My spirit held so dear; They will not let me hear that voice My soul delights to hear.
They will not let me see that face I so delight to see; And they have taken all thy smiles. And all thy love from me.

Anne Bronte

#3. Many divorced or widowed people do with their singleness what they should have done before they married for the first time: live alone, find their own rhythms, date a variety of people, go into therapy, develop new friends and interests, learn how to live with and care for themselves.

Harville Hendrix

#4. First book There are seven of them, haikus mostly but rhyming ones, too. Not enough for a real book until I cut each page into a small square staple the squares together, write one poem on each page. Butterflies by Jacqueline Woodson on the front. The butterfly book complete now.

Jacqueline Woodson

#5. When we meet an Imago match, that chemical reaction occurs, and love ignites. All other bets, all other ideas about what we want in a mate, are off. We feel alive and whole, confident that we have met the person who will make everything all right.

Harville Hendrix

#6. Every therapeutic intervention is an act of social transformation.

Harville Hendrix

#7. I was either going onstage or going into an interview or getting on a plane. You can't really feel everything fully when you don't have the time to process.

Meredith Brooks

#8. Nature does not care that you are comfortable, only that you evolve.

Harville Hendrix

#9. Conflict is the alchemical soup that transforms raw emotion and instinct into pure gold.

Harville Hendrix

#10. Mamma, don't you see -- you shouldn't hit me. He shouldn't hit me. You shouldn't hit me about God, Mamma. You should never hit anybody about God . . . .

Philip Roth

#11. We are born in relationship, we are wounded in relationship, and we can be healed in relationship.

Harville Hendrix

#12. Yes, my eyes are closed to your light. I am an animal, a nigger. But I can be saved. You are fake niggers; maniacs, savages, misers, all of you.

Arthur Rimbaud

#13. If our colleges and universities do not breed men who riot, who rebel, who attack life with all the youthful vim and vigor, then there is something wrong with our colleges. The more riots that come on college campuses, the better world for tomorrow.

William Allen White

#14. When I was in college, I was always saying I was a socialist.

Edmund White

#15. The body of knowledge keeps increasing at incredible speed, but the literature of nonknowledge grows even faster.

Friedrich Nietzsche

#16. The depth of our love can be measured by our efforts. We demonstrate our love when we take that extra step ...

Harville Hendrix

#17. Singleness would be recognized as a vital stage of the journey to maturation, a time to learn about who we are, to learn responsibility and self-sufficiency, to identify our true desires, and to confront our inner strengths and demons.

Harville Hendrix

#18. If we don't act now, the death tax will come back in just a few years. Under current law the death tax is phased out in 2010 but comes back in full force in 2011. That is a ridiculous and untenable policy.

Kit Bond

#19. When my journal appears, many statues must come down.

Arthur Wellesley

#20. A lot of times I can across as too masculine to men, and they couldn't handle me, they stayed away.

Brenda Holloway

#21. I know I'm not a great singer. But I love to sing and I like to use my voice in different ways.

Melanie Chisholm

#22. Marriage is not a static state between two unchanging people. Marriage is a psychological and spiritual journey that begins in the ecstasy of attraction, meanders through a rocky stretch of self-discovery, and culminates in the creation of an intimate, joyful, lifelong union.

Harville Hendrix

#23. We always marry someone for the purpose of finishing our childhood.

Harville Hendrix

#24. Romantic Love delivers us into the passionate arms of someone who will ultimately trigger the same frustrations we had with our parents, but for the best possible reason! Doing so brings our childhood wounds to the surface so they can be healed.

Harville Hendrix