Top 100 Alfie's Quotes
#1. I love to shop vintage clothes; in London, I usually go to Relic and Alfie's Market. I usually brunch around London Bridge, where I live.
Georgia May Jagger
#2. The use of powerful systematic reward procedures to promote increased engagement in target activities may also produce concomitant decreases in task engagement, in situations where neither tangible nor social extrinsic rewards are perceived to be available.7
Alfie Kohn
#3. The Legacy of Behaviorism: Do this and you'll get that.
Alfie Kohn
#4. I'd love kids. I'm obsessed with babies. Of course I've thought about baby names. A million times. I like Alfie for a little boy.
Cheryl Cole
#5. Many of our elected officials have virtually handed the keys to our schools over to corporate interests. Presidential commissions on education are commonly chaired by the executives of large companies.
Alfie Kohn
#6. Children aren't helped to become caring members of a community, or ethical decision-makers, or critical thinkers, so much as they're simply trained to follow directions.
Alfie Kohn
#7. I have to work hard to be punctual, to not lose my temper, take direction and be told what to do - and most of all listen rather than talk.
Alfie Allen
#8. I haven't had a lot of 'Games Of Thrones' groupies. The fans seem to be really nice. They don't seem that invasive.
Alfie Allen
#9. Besides, what best prepares children to deal with the challenges of the "real world" is to experience success and joy. People don't get better at coping with unhappiness because they were deliberately made unhappy when they were young.
Alfie Kohn
#10. With learning lines, before I had Alfie, I'd put it off and think, 'Oh, I'll just have a glass of wine and then do it later,' but when you've finally got a child to bed and you know you've only got an hour, then you achieve so much.
Lesley Manville
#11. All rewards have the same effect," one writer declares. "They dilute the pure joy that comes from success itself.
Alfie Kohn
#12. If unconditional love and genuine enthusiasm are present, praise isn't necessary. If they're absent, praise won't help.
Alfie Kohn
#13. Do rewards motivate people? Absolutely. They motivate people to get rewards.
Alfie Kohn
#14. Obviously, things work best when parents and teachers are helping kids to become good people - and, better yet, when they're actively supporting one another's efforts.
Alfie Kohn
#15. How well you do things should be incidental, not integral, to the way you regard yourself.
Alfie Kohn
#16. four accounts of how praise may impede performance: it signals low ability, makes people feel pressured, invites a low-risk strategy to avoid failure, and reduces interest in the task itself.
Alfie Kohn
#17. I actually love pressure. I loved playing sport at school in front of a crowd; I love being on stage in front of a big audience. I buzz off that.
Alfie Allen
#18. To control students is to force them to accommodate to a preestablished curriculum.
Alfie Kohn
#19. Children don't just need to be loved; they need to know that nothing they do will change the fact that they're loved.
Alfie Kohn
#20. We learn most readily, most naturally, most effectively, when we start with the big picture - precisely when the basics don't come first.
Alfie Kohn
#21. Contrary to what you think, your company will be a lot more productive if you refuse to tolerate competition among your employees.
Alfie Kohn
#22. If, like Charles Silberman, we think school "should prepare people not just to earn a living but to live a life - a creative, humane, and sensitive life,"22 then children's attitudes toward learning are at least as important as how well they perform at any given task.
Alfie Kohn
#23. Punishments and rewards are two sides of the same coin and that coin doesn't buy you much.
Alfie Kohn
#24. The research suggests that praise may have [a negative, unintended] effect, directing attention away from the task [at hand] and toward your reaction.
Alfie Kohn
#25. There are different kinds of motivation, and the kind matters more than the amount.
Alfie Kohn
#26. You are a pawn and a tool," he said. "But you're the right one for the job. For that, I am sorry.
Jamie Wyman
#27. Independence is useful, but caring attitudes and behaviors shrivel up in a culture where each person is responsible only for himself.
Alfie Kohn
#28. Punished by Rewards: The Trouble with Gold Stars, Incentive Plans, A's, Praise, and Other Bribes BY ALFIE KOHN
Daniel H. Pink
#29. What's it all about Alfie, is it just the moment we live?
Dionne Warwick
#30. What can we surmise about the likelihood of someone's being caring and generous, loving and helpful, just from knowing that they are a believer? Virtually nothing, say psychologists, sociologists, and others who have studied that question for decade
Alfie Kohn
#31. But there is something seductive and the character, Alfie is so charming, and does make you think like you are the most important thing in the world but he's not that nice, is he.
Sienna Miller
#32. I'm very lucky because I don't half get some juicy jobs. But I can't tell you the number I've turned down in the past 20 years because I wanted to be at home, looking after my son. There was never any question about that. Alfie and I are dead close. I can't bear it when he's away.
Lesley Manville
#33. Unconditional parents want to know how to do something other than threaten and punish. They don't see their relationship with their children as adversarial, so their goal is to avoid battles, not win them.
Alfie Kohn
#34. I had watched Alfie, but I didn't consider it a prerequisite. Michael Caine was just extremely fabulous. He's one of the most professional actors I've ever worked with. I guess after a lifetime of doing it, you know what you're doing. He's incredibly uncomplaining, undemanding.
Emily Mortimer
#35. When you stand by and let bad things happen, your child experiences the twin disappointments that something went wrong and you did not seem to care enough about her to lift a finger to help prevent the mishap.
Alfie Kohn
#36. Students should not only be trained to live in a democracy when they grow up; they should have the chance to live in one today.
Alfie Kohn
#37. I realized that this is what many people in our society seem to want most from children: not that they are caring or creative or curious, but simply that they are well behaved.
Alfie Kohn
#38. In outstanding classrooms, teachers do more listening than talking, and students do more talking than listening. Terrific teachers often have teeth marks on their tongues.
Alfie Kohn
#39. When test scores go up, we should worry, because of how poor a measure they are of what matters, and what you typically sacrifice in a desperate effort to raise scores.
Alfie Kohn
#40. Most of us would protest that of course we love our children without any strings attached. But what counts is how things look from the perspective of the children
Alfie Kohn
#41. Alfie sighed. "Let me guess, it's a bad thing now. Because of Tumblr or something.
Alexis Hall
#42. What provokes particular outrage and ridicule is the idea that children might feel good about themselves in the absence of impressive accomplishments, even though, as I'll show, studies find that unconditional self-esteem is a key component of psychological health.
Alfie Kohn
#43. Contrast of emotions is definitely something interesting that you like to do as an actor.
Alfie Allen
#44. The troubling truth is that rewards and punishments are not opposites at all; they are two sides of the same coin. And it is a coin that does not buy very much.
Alfie Kohn
#45. When we do things that are controlling, whether intentional or not, we are not going to get those long-term outcomes.
Alfie Kohn
#46. Alfie was the first time I was above the title; the first time I became a star in America.
Michael Caine
#47. When was the last time you spent the entire day with only 42 year olds?
Alfie Kohn
#48. Like any other tool for facilitating the completion of a questionable task, rewards offer a "how" answer to what is really a "why" question.
Alfie Kohn
#49. Few parents have the courage and independence to care more for their children's happiness than for their success.
Alfie Kohn
#50. We ought to love children, as my friend Deborah says, 'for no good reason.' Furthermore, what counts is not that we believe we love them unconditionally, but that they feel loved in that way.
Alfie Kohn
#51. Unconditional parenting: Moving from Rewards and Punishments to Love and Reason
Alfie Kohn
#52. The late W. Edwards Deming, guru of Quality management, once declared, 'The most important things we need to manage can't be measured.' If that's true of what we need to manage, it should be even more obvious that it's true of what we need to teach.
Alfie Kohn
#53. a grade can be regarded only as an inadequate report of an inaccurate judgment by a biased and variable judge of the extent to which a student has attained an undefined level of mastery of an unknown proportion of an indefinite amount of material.
Alfie Kohn
#54. I'm so computer illiterate, I barely know how to send an e-mail. I mean, I have a laptop and Gmail, but I don't really look at it much.
Alfie Allen
#55. One thing I would say is that I think in any environment that you work in, there's always going to be one or two people who you don't like. But there just wasn't that on 'Games Of Thrones'. I know it sounds cheesy and cliched, but it was like a big family.
Alfie Allen
#56. Actually, my mother and Alfie came for three weeks' Christmas vacation and stayed for 21 years. I guess my mother never went back because she was lonely.
Frank McCourt
#57. John Dewey reminded us that the value of what students do 'resides in its connection with a stimulation of greater thoughtfulness, not in the greater strain it imposes.
Alfie Kohn
#58. For the anthropomorphic view of the rat, American psychology substituted a rattomorphic view of man. - Arthur Koestler, The Act of Creation
Alfie Kohn
#59. Sometimes the alternative to black and white isn't gray; it's, say, orange.
Alfie Kohn
#60. The research is clear: getting children to focus on their performance can interfere with their ability to remember things about the challenging tasks they just worked on.67
Alfie Kohn
#61. Trying to be number one and trying to do a task well are two different things.
Alfie Kohn
#62. The more we want our children to be (1) lifelong learners, genuinely excited about words and numbers and ideas, (2) avoid sticking with what's easy and safe, and (3) become sophisticated thinkers, the more we should do everything possible to help them forget about grades.
Alfie Kohn
#63. Those who know they're valued irrespective of their accomplishments often end up accomplishing quite a lot. It's the experience of being accepted without conditions that helps people develop a healthy confidence in themselves, a belief that it's safe to take risks and try new things.
Alfie Kohn
#64. Standardized testing has swelled and mutated, like a creature in one of those old horror movies, to the point that it now threatens to swallow our schools whole.
Alfie Kohn
#66. If rewards do not work, what does? I recommend that employers pay workers well and fairly and then do everything possible to help them forget about money. A preoccupation with money distracts everyone - employers and employees - from the issues that really matter.
Alfie Kohn
#67. It wasn't the footman she was afraid of - it was those he was parroting. Alfie was the sort of dim-noll who never had his own thoughts but borrowed other people's.
Ellen Renner
#68. The most significant factor in an individual's ability to remain in good health may be a sense of control over the events of life, one psychologist has remarked.
Alfie Kohn
#69. Saying you taught it but the student didn't learn it is like saying you sold it but the customer didn't buy it.
Alfie Kohn
#70. But my point is not just that the psychological theory is inadequate; it is that the practice is unproductive. If we do not address the ultimate cause of a problem, the problem will not get solved. This is not to say
Alfie Kohn
#71. To be well-educated is to have the desire as well as the means to make sure that learning never ends.
Alfie Kohn
#72. We have so much to cover and so little time to cover it. Howard Gardner refers to curriculum coverage as the single greatest enemy of understanding. Think instead about ideas to be discovered.
Alfie Kohn
#73. If children feel safe, they can take risks, ask questions, make mistakes, learn to trust, share their feelings, and grow.
Alfie Kohn
#74. Children, after all, are not just adults-in-the-making. They are people whose current needs and rights and experiences must be taken seriously.
Alfie Kohn
#75. Don't let anyone tell you that standardized tests are not accurate measures. The truth of the matter is they offer a remarkably precise method for gauging the size of the houses near the school where the test was administered.
Alfie Kohn
#76. Where did this disposition come from? And what are our long-term goals for people - particularly children - with respect to motivation?
Alfie Kohn
#77. Nostalgia is only amnesia turned around, said the poet Adrienne Rich.
Alfie Kohn
#78. We tell them how good they are and they light up, eager to please, and try to please us some more. These are the children we should really worry about.
Alfie Kohn
#79. Trying to do well and trying to beat others are two different things. Excellence and victory are conceptually distinct ... and are experienced differently.
Alfie Kohn
#80. the question is not whether more flies can be caught with honey than with vinegar, but why the flies are being caught in either case - and how this feels to the fly.
Alfie Kohn
#81. The point isn't just whether children know what to expect; it's whether what they've come to expect makes sense.
Alfie Kohn
#82. We can't value only what is easy to measure; measurable outcomes may be the least important results of learning.
Alfie Kohn
#83. I've always known my dad is a one-off and his own person. But I feel that underneath he has always loved me.
Alfie Allen
#84. Punishment and reward proceed from basically the same psychological model, one that conceives of motivation as nothing more than the manipulation of behavior.
Alfie Kohn
#85. If a child is off-task ... mayb e the problem is not the child ... maybe it's the task.
Alfie Kohn
#86. Rewards usually improve performance only at extremely simple - indeed, mindless - tasks, and even then they improve only quantitative performance.
Alfie Kohn
#87. How we feel about our kids isn't as important as how they experience those feelings and how they regard the way we treat them.
Alfie Kohn
#88. Very few things are as dangerous as a bunch of incentive-driven individuals trying to play it safe.
Alfie Kohn
#89. After all, if we want a child to grow into a genuinely compassionate person, then it's not enough to know whether he just did something helpful. We'd want to know why.
Alfie Kohn
#90. Educators remind us that what counts in a classroom is not what the teacher teaches; it's what the learner learns.
Alfie Kohn
#91. The value of a book about dealing with children is inversely proportional to the number of times it contains the word behavior.
Alfie Kohn
#92. Nothing is more important to us when we're young than how our parents feel about us. Uncertainty about that, or terror about being abandoned, can leave its mark even after we're grown.
Alfie Kohn
#93. I'd love to work with Lena Headey, Alfie Allen, Charles Dance. I'd love to work with Peter Dinklage.
Gwendoline Christie
#94. By contrast, training and goal-setting programs had a far greater impact on productivity than did anything involving payment.32
Alfie Kohn
#95. Although I have fantastic connections, I didn't know as a child what feeling secure meant.
Alfie Allen
#96. But as I mastered the material, homework ceased to be necessary. A no homework policy is a challenge to me," he adds. "I am forced to create lessons that are so good no further drilling is required when the lessons are completed.
Alfie Kohn
#97. Whoever said there's no such thing as a stupid question never looked carefully at a standardized test.
Alfie Kohn
#98. Grades are a subjective rating masquerading as an objective evaluation.
Alfie Kohn
#99. Think of your goal as giving your child a kind of inoculation, providing him with the unconditional love, respect, trust, and sense of perspective that will serve to immunize him against the most destructive effects of an overcontrolling environment or an unreasonable authority figure.
Alfie Kohn
#100. What I've been noticing is people coming up to me and going, 'Are you an actor?' which is cool. That's ultimately what I want.
Alfie Allen
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