Abusiveness Quotes

#1. I have never seen a client make a serious effort to confront his abusiveness unless somebody required him to do the work. The abuser who truly enters counseling voluntarily, with no one holding anything over his head, quits within a few sessions, unless he finds a counselor he can manipulate.

Lundy Bancroft

#2. Abusiveness can be thought of as a recipe that involves a consistent set of ingredients: control, entitlement, disrespect, excuses, and justifications (including victim blaming) - elements that are always present, often accompanied by physical intimidation or violence.

Lundy Bancroft

#3. THE ABUSER'S PROBLEM IS NOT THAT HE RESPONDS INAPPROPRIATELY TO CONFLICT. HIS ABUSIVENESS IS OPERATING PRIOR TO THE CONFLICT: IT USUALLY CREATES THE CONFLICT, AND IT DETERMINES THE SHAPE THE CONFLICT TAKES.

Lundy Bancroft

#4. Alcohol cannot create an abuser, and sobriety cannot cure one. The only way a man can overcome his abusiveness is by dealing with his abusiveness. And you are not "enabling" your partner to mistreat you; he is entirely responsible for his own actions.

Lundy Bancroft

#5. Batterers aren't renowned for taking responsibility for their abusiveness, Sam. They tend to shed blame like a snake molts.

Stephen White

#6. For decades, many therapists have been attempting to help abusive men change by guiding them in identifying and expressing feelings. Alas, this well-meaning but misguided approach actually feeds the abuser's selfish focus on himself, which is an important force driving his abusiveness.

Lundy Bancroft

#7. Newspapers, television networks, and magazines have sometimes been outrageously abusive, untruthful, arrogant, and hypocritical. But it hardly follows that elimination of a strong and independent press is the way to eliminate abusiveness ...

Potter Stewart

#8. Gay sexuality inevitably involves brutal physical abusiveness and the unnatural imposition of alien substances into internal organs, orally and anally, that inevitably suppress the immune system and heighten susceptibility to disease.

Rod Parsley

#9. I have never advised the destruction of life, but of property, yes.

Emmeline Pankhurst

#10. You will never let yourself have more money than you think you deserve.

Robert Anthony

#11. The main application of Pure Mathematics is to make you happy.

Hendrik Lenstra

#12. We dare travel on unknown path.

Lailah Gifty Akita

#13. Life's too short for a funeral.

Bill Smith

#14. In international football, you need pace and you need your players up top to create things out of nothing and run at people.

Frank Lampard

#15. In a sick world, it is the first duty of the artist to get well.

Jean Toomer

#16. For every American who believes he's going to Hell, there are 120 who believe they're going to Heaven.

Randy Alcorn

#17. Time to go inward would you believe that I'm afraid to stare down the barrel of choices I have made.

Rodney Crowell