Patrick Califia-Rice Quotes

#1. If you live in a society that wishes you didn't exist, anything you do to make yourself happy disrupts its attempts to wipe you out, or at the very least, make you invisible.

Patrick Califia-Rice

#2. My body has become
another country
and I feel like an unemployed
illegal alien
how will I survive
where I do not belong
I belong with you

Patrick Califia-Rice

#3. It should not be a crime to discuss any idea, however outrageous

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#4. She appreciated the fact that the wolf did not caper, bow down, yelp, or slaver on her, in the slavish and inconsiderate way of dogs. The wolf was no whore for man's approval. He fed himself.

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#5. SM is an art. Doing it well requires more than a bag full of expensive whips and exotic electrical toys, a closet full of fetish clothes, or a basement filled with bondage furniture.

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#6. Why do I write? I write because I have to, because it is all I know, because it is my truth, because I am compelled, because I am driven to make the world acknowledge that women like me exist, and we possess a dangerous wisdom.

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#7. Insisting on maintaining dignity at all costs is paralyzing. Mistakes are informative, and so is playing the fool

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#8. S/M flies in the face of every attempt the state makes to appropriate our bodies, our labor, our time, and our imaginations. ... the state is deeply offended by any group of people who say, 'My body doesn't belong to you, it belongs to me, so fuck off' ...

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#9. There seems to be a psychological law of inertia that bogs down every hopeful activist and subverts every revolution. When compassion and empathy fail, backsliding begins. Or totalitarianism.

Patrick Califia-Rice