Top 100 Neil Strauss Quotes
#2. Beauty is common but what's rare is a great energy and outlook on life.
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#3. Never underestimate your own capacity to care.
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#4. Guilt is about what you do with your dick. Shame is about being a dick.
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#5. He wanted to "sarge" with me, as he put it. Sarging is pickup artist jargon for going out to meet women; the term evidently has its origin in the name of one of Ross Jeffries's cats, Sargy. An
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#6. Since I was 18, I've been under orders from magazines and newspapers - chiefly The New York Times and Rolling Stone - to step into the lives of musicians, actors, and artists, and somehow find out who they really are underneath the mask they present to the public. But I didn't always succeed.
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#7. We're just fragile machines programmed with a false sense of our own importance. And every now and then the universe sends a reminder that we don't really matter to it ...
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#8. He looked like a big baby goose with acne. This
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#9. How you do anything is how you do everything,
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#10. Alcohol has never caused anyone to do something they didn't want to do. It only enables them to do what they've always wanted but have instead repressed.
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#11. They had the magic pill, the solution to the inertia and frustration that has plagued the great literary protagonists I'd related to all my life - be it Leopold Bloom, Alex Portnoy, or Piglet from Winnie the Pooh. As
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#12. Childhood trauma may sneak up from behind and fuck you in the ass when you grow up, but at least it leaves a tip on the nightstand.
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#13. The number one characteristic of an alpha male is the smile," he said, beaming an artificial beam. "Smile when you enter a room. As soon as you walk in a club, the game is on. And by smiling, you look like you're together, you're fun, and you're somebody.
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#14. They say that love is blind, but it's trauma that's blind. Love sees what is.
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#15. One of the things I'd learned ... was how to take a compliment. Just say, "Thank you." It's the only response a confident person can make.
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#16. Anyone who hates something feels threatened by it. A guy who says he hates feminism (a) doesn't understand or know feminism, and (b) is scared of powerful women. Most attacks come from fear.
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#17. Because it's so easy to medicate our need for self-worth by pandering to win followers, 'likes' and view counts, social media have become the metier of choice for many people who might otherwise channel that energy into books, music or art - or even into their own Web ventures.
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#18. They say that a man is as faithful as his options, and in this moment I know it to be true. So I switched the phone off. It's too much. Even Jesus only had three temptations.
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#20. Men are a hundred times worse than you can imagine. We are thinking the worst, shallowest thoughts, all the time.
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#21. There are only so many ways to get rejected or ignored. It doesn't hurt at all anymore because why should someone who's a complete stranger have any control over your sense of selfworth?
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#22. After all, everyone's favorite subject is themselves.
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#23. How will I know the difference?" "Wounds bring drama and trauma. They don't bring comfort.
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#24. I know that I need honesty from the people I interview. I also know that the truth is more interesting than made up stuff, and also, people don't connect with you if you're not honest.
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#25. On Seeing the 100 Percent Perfect Girl One Beautiful April Morning by Haruki Murakami.
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#26. While I am impulsive in many areas of my life, marriage is not one of them.
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#29. The person who is too smart to love is truly an idiot.
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#30. I had violated one of Ross Jeffries's only ethical rule of seduction: Leave her better than you found her.
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#31. Whoever destroys a single life is as guilty as though he had destroyed the entire world; and whoever rescues a single life earns as much merit as though he had rescued the entire world.
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#32. People don't come out for book events. They want to feel an emotion and be entertained.
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#33. You will speed up your growth by being selfish. So imagine that the people you're looking at can actually take care of themselves. And if you ask for what you want and trust that the other person will say yes or no powerfully, it will make things very interesting.
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#34. Lying is about controlling someone else's reality, hoping that what they don't know won't hurt you.
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#35. Intimacy is sharing your reality with someone else and knowing you're safe, and them being able to share their reality with you and also be safe.
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#36. We make fun of those we're most scared of becoming.
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#37. Your intention for a book is never the same as the reception.
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#38. I've begun to look at the world through apocalypse eyes. Our society, which seems so sturdily built out of concrete and custom, is just a temporary resting place, a hotel our civilization checked into a couple hundred years ago and must one day check out of.
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#39. The sins of the parents are the destinies of their children. Unless the children wake up and do something about it.
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#40. When I was in college, my whole goal was to write for the 'Village Voice,' and I think I was doing that by the time I was twenty-one or twenty, so everything else has kind of been gravy, you know?
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#41. She covered her body with a feather, reached under her legs, and threw her panties into the audience. A flying herpes rag. A hipster with mutton-chop sideburns caught it. He crumpled it in his fist and thrust it into the air excitedly. His little venereal prize. A
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#42. I was no longer in the game to meet women; I was in the game to lead men.
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#43. Love is when two (or more) hearts build a safe emotional, mental, and spiritual home that will stand strong no matter how much anyone changes on the inside or the outside. It demands only one things and expects only one thing: that each person be his or her own true self.
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#44. For all the self-improvement books I had read, I still wasn't above shallow validation-seeking. None of us were. That's why we were in the game. Sex wasn't about getting our rocks off; it was about being accepted.
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#45. My ex-girlfriend Lisa once said that every woman wants the same thing in a relationship: to be adored.
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#46. In the field, one quickly learns that everything that was funny at age ten is funny all over again.
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#47. I think my love is storytelling. No matter what it is, it's storytelling. And so whatever the medium is, what's right for the story, I enjoy doing it.
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#48. I wish she were receptive enough to discuss what I learned, but you can't expect the same person who wounded you to heal you. So
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#49. Never ask a woman if you may kiss her. Instead, learn to read body language.
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#50. I was becoming too dependent on female attention, allowing it to be my sole reason for leaving the house besides food. In the process of dehumanizing the opposite sex, I had also been dehumanizing myself.
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#51. But I couldn't commit to the time. I needed to resuscitate my career.
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#52. There is a downside to casual sex: Sometimes it stops being casual. People develop a desire for something more. And when one person's expectations don't match the other person's, then whoever holds the highest expectations suffers. There is no such thing as cheap sex. It always comes with a price.
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#53. When it comes to meeting and attracting women, many men are resigned and complacent. We figure some guys were born with that particular power and other guys weren't. I wasn't.
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#54. Many people we consider legends, such as Jerry Lee Lewis and Chuck Berry, remain so scarred by scandals, injustices and regrets from decades earlier that they're barely able to appreciate their accomplishments.
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#55. You have to build systems to protect against your lesser self.
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#56. One of the reasons I became a writer is that, unlike starting a band, directing movies, or acting in a theatrical production, you can do it alone. Your success and failure depend entirely on yourself.
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#57. Then again, no matter what your point of view may be, you can always find someone with a Ph.D to support it.
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#58. But somewhere, there is a skeleton. And that skeleton has a penis. And it will fuck your life.
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#59. Logically, I know I'm being controlled by my emotions. But my logic is just 2 percent right now. I feel emotionally raw." [Mystery] clenched his bedsheet in his fist. "I feel strange and empty, like after a shit.
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#60. So how do you feel about it?" "I'm not upset, but my mom was crying and it's the first time I've ever seen her cry. Dad always wanted whiskey poured on his grave, so my brother said, 'I just hope he doesn't mind me filtering it through my bladder first.'" Mystery
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#61. Almost everyone who reaches a plateau where he or she is happy and comfortable says it's because of finding balance between work, relaxation, exercise, socialising and family - plus some alone time to do something contemplative, creative, or educational.
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#62. I feel like rock stars feel a sense of entitlement, whereas I just feel a sense of good fortune.
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#63. To me, I think it's awesome to meet your heroes and find out who they are and where they came from and what made them choose to communicate in the form that connected with you.
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#65. Those who ask for help are often those who have failed to do something for themselves.
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#66. Perhaps the people who hurt you the most when they leave are the ones you shouldn't have been with anyway, because they do it without compassion.
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#67. Well," he said, opening the door to his car, "all you can do is put on an appearance of confidence sometimes. And after a while, others will start to believe it." [Eric Weber] grabbed the door handle to pull it closed. "And then you die.
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#68. Project Hollywood had reached a new nadir. MYSTERY:
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#69. A couple of kind words
can not only make a person's day,
but earn you a friend and supporter for life.
For the rest of the week,
whenever you see someone
you want to judge negatively,
pay them a compliment instead.
See what happens.
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#70. To get a woman, you have to be willing to risk losing her.
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#71. A lot of women - not all of them, a lot of them - feel insecure about men being men.
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#73. In this life, we don't meet many people who truly love us, who accept us for who we are, who put us before themselves.
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#74. Men are not dogs. We merely think we are and, on occasion, act as if we are. But, by believing in our nobler nature, women have the amazing power to inspire us to live up to it.
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#75. True endurance, I think, comes from the inside. It comes from motivation and belief in what you're doing.
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#76. To survive painful beliefs and feelings, we often mask them with anger. That way, we don't have to feel the shame behind it.
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#77. The trick, when you're flirting, is figuring how to keep a balance between being engaging enough to retain someone's attention and not seeming overly available. So you tease a person a little.
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#78. But who are we, really? Just a bundle of good genes and bad genes mixed with good habits and bad habits. And since there's no gene for coolness or confidence, then being uncool and unconfident are just bad habits, which can be changed with enough guidance and will power.
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#79. I think there are just a million interviews in anthologies with famous musicians that are about the music, and they're really boring to read.
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#80. Because, all too often, the things that we're the most resistant to are precisely what we need. And the things we're most scared to let go of are exactly the ones we most need to relinquish.
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#81. Many women think that if they put out too quickly, their partner won't respect them. This is not the case. It's not about waiting for a certain quantity of time before having sex, it's about waiting for a certain quality of connection.
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#83. If there was anything I'd learned, it's that the man never chooses the woman. All he can do is give her an opportunity to choose him.
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#84. The strong live off the weak and the clever live off the strong.
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#85. He spread out in his chair like a melting shard of Swiss cheese and informed us: "The only lies I'll ever tell are: 'I won't come in your mouth' and 'I'll just rub it around your ass.'" It wasn't a pretty visual.
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#86. I've noticed a pattern in stars that start acting out in public. Every one of them felt like they grew up without love.
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#87. Fame won't make you feel any better about yourself.
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#88. As anyone who regularly reads newspapers or true-crime books knows, a significant percentage of violent crime, from kidnappings to shooting sprees, is the result of the frustrated sexual impulses and desires of males. By socializing guys like Sasha, Mystery and I were making the world a safer place.
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#89. I've never trusted collaborations, because most people in this world are not closers. They don't finish what they start; they don't live what they dream; they sabotage their own progress because they're afraid they won't find what they seek.
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#90. Besides confidence and a smile, we learned, the other characteristics of an alpha male were being well-groomed, possessing a sense of humor, connecting with people, and being seen as the social center of a room.
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#91. Then let me ask you" - here it comes, the verbal aikido that will use my words to topple my beliefs - "is it possible to live your authentic life if you have inauthentic people around you?
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#92. I've seen rock stars agonize over the fact that another artist has far more Facebook 'likes' and Twitter followers than they do.
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#93. When I look down at my pale, skinny body, I wonder why any woman would want to sleep next to it, let alone embrace it.
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#94. In recent weeks, I'd figured out my own routine. It was a simple structure that allowed me to determine the direction in which I needed to take a girl: First, open. Then demonstrate higher value. Next, build rapport and an emotional connection. And, finally, create a physical connection.
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#95. A rich man doesn't need to tell you he's rich.
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#96. Pickup is a linear process: Capture the imagination first
and the heart next. Interest plus attraction plus seduction equals sex.
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#97. You need to be careful with a Bluetooth headset. Because some guys look crazy with them.
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#98. In the dance of infatuation, we see others not as they are, but as projections of who we want them to be. And we impose on them all the imaginary criteria we think will fill the void in our hearts.
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#99. In fact, every woman I met seemed disposable and replaceable. I was experiencing seducer's paradox: The better a seducer I became, the less I loved women. Success was no longer defined by getting laid or finding a girlfriend, but by how well I performed.
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