Nancy Samalin Quotes

#1. Our goal, then, is not to eliminate the feelings of anger from our parental repertoire. We couldn't, even if we wanted to. Rather, it is to find ways to express ourselves when we are angry that do not hurt, insult, demean, or inspire revenge and rage in our children.

Nancy Samalin

#2. Unchecked expressions of anger often lead to our making negative statements that communicate to our children that we think they are unlovable.

Nancy Samalin

#3. How can we express our natural feelings of anger without hurting our children or attacking their self-esteem? And, at the same time, how can we teach our children to express their own feelings of anger in ways that are helpful, not hurtful?

Nancy Samalin

#4. There are no miraculous responses that will make intense feelings of fear, rage, sadness, and jealousy just disappear in a cloud of smoke.

Nancy Samalin

#5. If spanking worked, we'd only have to do it once.

Nancy Samalin