Keith Ablow Quotes

#1. God is not attracted to mountaintops or church steeples. God is drawn to suffering, and the dark places it surfaces, which is why sharing pain freely feels very much like love, and may be the same thing. (207)

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#2. The roots of any evil deed can be traced to the perpetrator's refusal to experience pain.

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#3. Woody Allen once said that 90 percent of life is about showing up. Ninety percent of healing people in psychological pain is shutting up - at least long enough to let them bleed the truth. That sounds easy, but it isn't. (68)

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#4. The bad things don't seem to happen to bad people.'
That's because they already did. There's no original evil left in the world.

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#5. Deep down, everyone wants the truth.

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#6. Human empathy, while not found on any chart of human anatomy, is the reason we instinctively hurt for our children ... it is the reason that one human being's intensely personal tests and triumphs can be harnessed to the good of countless others.

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#7. Plenty of people who survive tragedies end up ambivalent about danger
frightened by it, yet strangely drawn to it.

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#8. But insight doesn't necessarily produce self-control. Sometimes you just see your destructiveness more clearly.

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#9. He started to feel for himself, which is the only way to start feeling for others. (24)

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#10. Relationships are never chance events.

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#11. When people can do something simple to avoid conflict
say, hit a button or unlock a latch
they'll generally do it.

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#12. We are, all of us, crippled and twisted. Most of us strive desperately to keep our grotesqueries out of sight and mind. Our suffering is transformed by an alchemy of the soul into addiction, ulcers, strokes, hatred, even war.

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#13. I think men should be able to veto women's abortions if they're willing to care for the child after it's born.

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#14. Most of you guys can't see the potential in a nervous breakdown. A real collapse. There's more chance of finding yourself in a major depression than there is in a bottle Prozac.

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#15. The irrational thoughts were the ones with the power to burn holes in your gut.

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#16. For a psychiatrist to be any good, he has to be willing to corner you, close off the easy exits, even when it hurts. It's supposed to. (46)

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#17. That's what a little victory in psychiatry looks like. You slip into the shadows, dodging the mind's defense mechanisms, glad enough to take a half-step toward the truth. Behind the next word or the next glance may lurk the demon you seek, all in flames, desperate to be held, but set to flee. (8)

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#18. Some people hurt so much they can't take what they need, even when someone wants to give it to them. (106)

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#19. Nothing overdone, nothing racy, which made her all the more alluring.

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#20. The truth will set you free. Unless you're guilty.

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#21. Maybe learning to be human was about learning to live in pain, not trying to figure out how to live pain-free. (156)

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#22. People react predictably, especially when they don't have time to think.

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#23. My throat tightened, but I held back the tears and reminded myself that withdrawing from a woman is no different than kicking a drug; you feel shaky and you want it, but eventually the need passes, and you feel restored.

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#24. What about my rights? What about a person's privacy? Did all that just go to hell after 9/11?

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#25. Everything terrible is something that needs our love. - Rilke (231)

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#26. I figured anybody who talked about church as much as she did was using it a little like cocaine anyhow.

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#27. Everyone - rich or poor, black or white, educated or not - is in emotional turmoil, in some sort of pain. (51)

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#28. Like most of the connections that explain the pain in our hearts, he couldn't bring it to mind. He couldn't see the truth because it was too big and it was right in front of him.

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#29. There's no original evil left in the world. Everyone's just recycling pain. (257)

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#30. People blush when one of their core truths is revealed.

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#31. Watching her, he saw again how she teetered between adolescence and adulthood, with a raw sensuality that had to deposit her in a kind of no-man's land
too much a woman for boys her own age, too young for fully adult men.

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#32. Sometimes when you push someone, you find out who that person really is.

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#33. If you take the teachings of Jesus, whether you consider yourself saved or you don't, those teachings are pristine. They're wonderful guides for life. And there's nothing in them that says hurt other people.

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#34. A jealous husband is an ugly thing.

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#35. The good guys had to operate on a higher level than the killers
just for society to keep track of who was who.

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#36. Maybe the trying is the thing. Maybe it doesn't get better than that. Maybe you never quite get there. And maybe that's okay.

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#37. If you're going to have 19 children, you should supervise them well.

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#38. You've got to think of every talent you have, every gift you could give the world around you. And you've got to take the chance of giving it. (246)

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#39. What was it about not knowing a person that allowed you to wonder whether she might be the answer to all your problems?

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#40. But that's the hardest part of healing.'
What?'
Realizing there's no one to hate.

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#41. The horrific fact that our lives and those of the people we love are impermanent and exquisitely fragile, that any of us can cease to exist without warning, that loving anyone, anywhere, at any time, leaves you infinitely vulnerable at every single moment. (20)

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#42. Loving anyone, anywhere, at any time, leaves you infinitely vulnerable at every single moment.

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