Top 80 John Gray Quotes
#1. A woman's sense of self is defined through her feelings and the quality of her relationships.
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#2. If women become too much like men, men lose purpose, meaning, and inspiration in life.
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#3. when men and women are able to respect and accept their differences then love has a chance to blossom
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#4. If you put a bit of butter or sour cream on your potato, the release of sugar into the bloodstream is slowed.
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#5. Because she is afraid of not being supported, she unknowingly pushes away the support she needs.
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#6. Quite often, when one partner makes a positive change the other will also change. This predictable coincidence is one of those magical things about life.
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#7. Histories of morality are rarely written in order to inform the reader.
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#8. Science enables humans to satisfy their needs. It does nothing to change them. They are no different today from what they have always been. There is progress in knowledge, but not in ethics. This s the verdict both of science and history, and the view of every one of the world's religions.
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#9. When man and women are able to respect and accept there differences the love has a chance to blossom
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#10. In a competition for mates a well developed capacity for self-deception is an advantage. The same is true in politics and and other contexts
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#11. Success lies in doing not what others consider to be great but what you consider to be right.
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#12. History is a treadmill turned by rising human numbers. Today GM crops are being marketed as the only means of avoiding mass starvation. They are unlikely to improve the lives of peasant farmers ; but they may well enable them to survive in greater numbers.
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#13. Just as women are afraid of receiving, men are afraid of giving.
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#14. It is not enough to merely be authentic in sharing yourself; to succeed in dating you need to consider how you will be interpreted as well.
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#15. That love motivates you to cooperate, respect, appreciate, cherish, and admire that person.
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#16. Generally speaking, when a woman offers unsolicited advice or tries to help a man, she has no idea of how critical and unloving he may sound to him.
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#17. Global laissez-faire is not a conspiracy of corporate America. It is a tragedy - one of several that have occurred in the twentieth century - in which an hubristic ideology runs aground on enduring human needs that it has failed to comprehend.
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#18. The fate of the Right in the late modern age is to destroy what remains of the past in a vain attempt to recover it.
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#19. It is very difficult for a man to differentiate between empathy and sympathy. He hates to be pitied.
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#20. Always thought of myself as a loving person. But she was right. I had been a fair-weather friend. As long as she was happy and nice, I loved back. But if she was unhappy or upset, I would feel blamed and then argue or distance myself
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#21. Although feelings of attraction are automatic, in order to sustain attraction in a personal relationship we must also be skillful in presenting ourselves in ways that are not just appealing to the other sex but supportive as well. It is not enough to say, Here I am; take me as I am.
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#22. As this pain comes up also focus on the love you feel for him/her. Focus on the love. Love feels good, love is expansive. Love is open and accepting. This love you feel is healing the pain of your loss. One day soon your pain will go and only the love will remain.
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#23. Men, if you're traveling with your wife or girlfriend and she mentions that it's time to start looking for a restaurant, you need to sit up and take notice. This means her blood sugar level has dropped and, for you, it ought to be a red alert with flashing lights and sirens. Get that woman fed!
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#24. Men argue for the right to be free while women argue for the right to be upset. Men want space while women want understanding.
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#25. The number one way a man can succeed in fulfilling a woman's primary love needs is through communication. By learning to listen to a woman's feelings, a man can effectively shower a woman with caring, understanding, respect, devotion, validation, and reassurance ...
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#26. When she says "I feel like you are not even here," he says "What do you mean I'm not here? Of course I am here. Don't you see my body?
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#27. A woman should not be judged for needing this reassurance, just as a man should not be judged for needing to withdraw.
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#28. When misunderstandings arise, remember that we speak different languages; take the time necessary to translate what your partner really means or wants to say. This definitely takes practice, but it is well worth it.
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#29. When men and women are single for a long time, the differences are sometimes not as defined.
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#30. Take time off to give to yourself, in a sense to fill yourself up to fullness, to where now you can overflow in giving.
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#31. Men need to remember that when women seem upset and talk about problems is not the time to offer solutions; instead she needs to be heard, and gradually she will feel better on her own.
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#32. If I seek to fulfill my own needs at the expense of my partner, we are sure to experience unhappiness, resentment, and conflict. The secret of forming a successful relationship is for both partners to win.
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#33. As precious as knowledge itself is the learning. As precious as any reward is the earning.
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#34. In science, progress is a fact, in ethics and politics it is a superstition.
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#35. To fully express their feelings, women assume poetic license and use various superlatives, metaphors, and generalizations. Men mistakenly take these expressions literally. Because they misunderstand the intended meaning, they commonly react in an unsupportive manner.
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#36. Over the past two hundred years philosophy has shaken off Christian faith. It has not given up Christianity's cardinal error -the belief that humans are radically different from all other animals.
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#37. Men mistakenly expect women to think, communicate, and react the way men do; women mistakenly expect men to feel, communicate, and respond the way women do.
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#38. Fortunately perfection is not a requirement for creating great relationships.
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#39. Mental chemistry creates interest, Emotional chemistry Generates Affection, Physical chemistry generates desire, and Spiritual chemistry creates love. A soulmate includes all four...and I will not settle for anything less!
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#40. After learning , please be realistic.
Give yourself a permission to keep making mistakes.
We must also give ourselves the gift of understanding that we can't remember everything we learned at once
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#41. You may wish to be loving - you may even try with all your might - but your love will never be pure unless you are free from resentment. When we are free from resentment, loving is effortless. When we have to try hard to love, this is generally a sign that we are repressing our resentments ...
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#42. We are unique individuals with unique experiences
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#43. Life is filled with rhythms-day and night, hot and cold, summer and winter, spring and fall, cloudy and clear. Likewise in a relationship, men and women have their own rhythms and cycles.
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#44. The Buddha promised release from something we all understand: suffering. By contrast, no one can say what was the original sin, and no one understands how the suffering of Christ can redeem it.
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#45. There is no mechanism of selection in the history of ideas akin to that of the natural selection of genetic mutations in evolution
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#46. We mistakenly assume that if our partners love us they will react and behave in certain ways - the ways we react and behave when we love someone.
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#47. Men go to their caves .. Women talk
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#48. the suggestions, strategies, and
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#50. The common man cannot see things objectively because his mind is clouded by anxiety about achieving his goals. Seeing clearly means not projecting our goals into the world.
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#51. Not only do men and women communicate differently but they think, feel, perceive, react, respond, love, need, and appreciate differently.
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#52. All men and women have an equal need for love. When these needs are not fulfilled it is easy to have our feelings hurt, for which we blame our partner.
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#53. When a man loves a woman, periodically he needs to pull away before he can get closer.
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#54. A man's sense of self is defined through his ability to achieve results.
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#55. Men need to remember that women talk about problems to get close and not necessarily to get solutions.
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#56. Not to be needed is a slow death for a man.
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#57. I would love you all the day, every night we would kiss and play, if with me you'd fondly stray, over the hills and far away.
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#58. To love someone is to acknowledge the goodness of who they are. Through loving a person we awaken their awareness of their own innate goodness. It is as though they cannot know how worthy they are until they look into the mirror of our love and see themselves.
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#59. A glance at any human should be enough to dispel any notion that it is the work of an intelligent being.
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#60. A women under stress is not immediately concerned with finding solutions to her problems but rather seeks relief by expressing herself and being understood.
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#61. Like their Martian ancestors, men pride themselves on being experts, especially when it comes to fixing mechanical things, getting places, or solving problems. These are the times when he needs her loving acceptance the most and not her advice or criticism.
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#62. A man's deepest fear is that he is not good enough or that he is incompetent. He compensates for this fear by focusing on increasing his power and competence. Success, achievement, and efficiency are foremost in his life ... A man appears most uncaring when he is afraid.
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#63. As commonly practiced, philosophy is the attempt to find good reasons for conventional beliefs.
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#64. Too much intimacy, too quickly, can cause women to become needy and men to pull away. Just as men have a tendency to rush into physical intimacy, women make the mistake of rushing into complete emotional intimacy.
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#65. Today secular faith is ebbing, and it is the apostles of unbelief who are left stranded on the beach.
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#66. If we are to feel the positive feelings of love, happiness, trust, and gratitude, we periodically also have to feel anger, sadness, fear, and sorrow.
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#67. Anything that makes you feel good is always going to be drawing in more.
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#68. Get the love you deserve and gave your partner the love and support he deserves
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#69. To offer a man unsolicited advice is to presume that he doesn't know what to do or that he can't do it on his own.
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#70. Learning from mistakes helps prevent the repetition of negative patterns.
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#71. Love brings up our unresolved feelings . One day we are feeling loved , and the next day we are suddenly afraid to trust love .
The painful memories of being rejected begin to surface when we are faced with trusting and accepting our partner's love .
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#72. When negative feelings are suppressed positive feelings become suppressed as well, and love dies.
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#73. Men are motivated and empowered when they feel needed. Women are motivated and empowered when they feel cherished.
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#74. Remember, if a man needs to pull away like a rubber band, when he returns he will be back with a lot more love. Then he can listen. This is the best time to initiate conversation.
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#75. Men are motivated when they feel needed while women are motivated when they feel cherished.
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#76. Love is magical, and it can last, if we remember our differences.
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#77. Where affluence is the rule, the true threat is the loss of desire.(...) What is new is not that prosperity depends on stimulating demand. It is that it cannot continue without inventing new vices.
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#78. Find something that feels good, that resonates with your heart.
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#79. When a woman's wave rises she feels she has an abundance of love to give, but when it falls she feels her inner emptiness and needs to be filled up with love.
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#80. The process of learning requires not only hearing and applying but also forgetting and then remembering again.
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