Cortney S. Warren Quotes

#1. At the most basic level, self-deception is fooling ourselves into believing something that is false -- or -- not believing something that is true.

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#2. In fact, lying to ourselves may be the most dangerous thing in the world because we live our truth whether we are honest about it or not.

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#3. When we aren't honest with ourselves about who we are and what we want, we allow other people and circumstance to determine our life course.

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#4. We would all benefit by shifting our focus from seeing pain as bad to seeing pain as motivation to change.

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#5. The more we lie to ourselves about how we are contributing to our problems, the more harm we will cause to ourselves and our relationships because we will blame others for undesirable aspects of our lives instead of taking responsibility for our role.

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#6. One major cost of self-deception is that we use painful life experiences to justify being non-ideal versions of ourselves.

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#7. We lie to reflect the aspirational goals that we unconsciously know we will not uphold.

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#8. We lie to ourselves about the smallest details, and we lie to ourselves about our largest life choices.

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#9. The areas in which we felt most insecure, unsafe, unloved, uncomfortable, embarrassed, angry, and generally unresolved as a child are the areas that we will be most prone to self-deception as an adult.

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#10. It is actually a good survival strategy to manipulate twist, and reorganize the truth in a way that is more consistent with what we can psychologically tolerate.

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#11. Self-deception comes from not having enough psychological strength to admit the truth and deal with the consequences that will follow when the truth is acknowledges.

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#12. Perhaps the most tragic way that self-deception harms us is that we start believing our lies and we teach them to others.

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#13. The truth is that pain is not inherently bad for us; pain is information.

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#14. I cannot overemphasize the impact our childhood has on our ability to be honest because we live out what we learned as children in our adult relationships.

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#15. When what we say doesn't match how we act, we are lying to ourselves.

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#16. Whether what you learned was objectively true or false, the conclusions that you made about yourself, your environment, and other people will be replayed in your life because they become a part of who you are.

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#17. Living through difficult life circumstances in not an excuse for passing trauma onto someone else.

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#18. As a clinical psychologist, I am regularly confronted with the brutal truth that we are all lie.

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#19. Humans are excellent liars.

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#20. When you are not aware that you are bringing old learning to your current relationships, you will want to lie about where it is coming from.

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#21. The truth is that our self-deceptive lies range from seemingly tiny untruths to massive life-altering falsehoods about reality.

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