Charlie Houpert Quotes

#1. That's what high energy does. It amplifies everything. Speak louder, gesticulate more, feel more alive than your audience. That will amplify your message.

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#2. And the riskiest, but highest reward situations: be the first to bring up the subjects of money, relationships or sex.

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#3. To do that, you need to take "conversational risks." You need to reveal who you are and what you're about. This might turn some people off. You might make a few bad impressions.

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#4. Remember: the whole goal of conversation is to connect emotionally. So you should ask questions that elicit an emotional response. The reason so many of the questions people ask fall flat is because they don't do this. They never bypass the autopilot people live on.

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#5. charismatic people are more resilient and do know how to stay positive when most people would panic. But that positivity is grounded in reality. It's how they really feel. On those occasions where the charismatic person is genuinely hurt, nervous, or pissed, they reveal those feelings.

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#6. Most conversations drift. You need to steer. Assume the task of cutting boring threads of conversation and of offering new options. Encourage people to tell stories they mention in passing. Don't wait to be invited into a group, introduce yourself. In short: lead.

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#7. In terms of inspiring people, your energy is more essential than your message.

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#8. A shoulder clap is more appropriate in a business setting. But the underlying principle holds: touch more than the majority of people would in the same context. It demonstrates comfort, leadership, and conviction in your communication skills.

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#9. Be the first to bring fun into a situation and you're the charismatic leader.

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#10. By reusing jokes, you train yourself to alter them in ways that are unique to you, developing your own natural sense of humor.

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#11. The best conversationalists don't just engage on the literal, surface level of conversation. They listen instead to tonality, pay attention to eye contact, note shifts in body language.

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#12. It might seem counterintuitive, but bringing conflicts to light is the charismatic thing to do. Have the courage to call out when there is tension beneath the surface of an interaction. Let people know when they transgress boundaries, even when you want their favor.

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#13. Becoming a good conversationalist is all about developing good conversational habits. Habits that show who you are in an engaging way and encourage the other person to do the same.

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#14. Charismatic Conviction 4: Charisma doesn't convince

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