Anne Katherine Quotes

#1. The longer we stay in a violating situation, the more traumatized we become. If we don't act on our own behalf, we will lose spirit, resourcefulness, energy, health, perspective, and resilience. We must take ourselves out of violating situations for the sake of our own wholeness.

Anne Katherine

#2. When we clutter our lives with imagined obligations, unnecessary activities, and distractions that only kill time, we dilute the power of our lives.

Anne Katherine

#3. We hurt ourselves when we give our time, the minutes of our life span, to pursuits that don't match our own values.

Anne Katherine

#4. Good boundaries, created by the use of good intimacy skills, keep a committed or intimate relationship lightly balanced between the needs of the individual and the needs of the relationship.

Anne Katherine

#5. Your time is your life. You are absolutely the final authority on how you will use it.

Anne Katherine

#6. Intimacy absolutely requires that each person in a relationship be whole and individual. Codependence is not intimacy. Enmeshment - two people blending in such a way that one or both lose their identity - is not intimacy either.

Anne Katherine

#7. We sometimes feel that if a person tromps over us after we've said no, then we must not have been clear. We can get caught in the trap of explaining again and again, meanwhile letting the other person take advantage of us.

Anne Katherine